Do you agree with the following phrase? "Men protect their emotional sanctity the same way women protect their sexual sanctity?"

I personally found this phrase very spot on, the kind of thing that puts into words something you hadn't manage to properly express, but that you had in your mind for a long time. A variation of this that I've also heard was: "Emotions are to women, what sex is to men."

The same way women tend to be more shamed by society as """""""too easy"""""""" or """"""low value""""" for sleeping with many dudes, I feel that we men are shamed or at least looked down by both other men and women for "opening up too easily" or being "too emotional". As if we were "emotional sluts" in a way. I've read stories on the internet about men feeling "used up" when they gave in to the pressure of opening up about their feelings to their GF or fling before being actually comfortable about doing so. This seems eerily similar to the women that feel "used" when they realize the guy they were seeing was just interested in some quick sex, or when they gave in to the pressure of sleeping with the guy when they didn't really feel like it.

Despite the "sexual liberation" occurred in recent decades regarding women's sexual activities, and the increasing demand to men to open up about their feelings, the truth is that lots of people still (even if subconsciously) apply old standards. Many men say they don't care about women's body count, but in reality they kind of do. Many women say that they would love that men open up to them about their feelings, only to be disgusted and even appalled when they actually do. I guess it's just another case of dissonance between what society claims to want versus what it actually wants from people; plus another expression of how selfish and self centred people of both sexes can be with their demands: some men wanting both a "pure" woman and a woman that can perfectly please them in bed, and some women wanting both a "sensitive" man but only in regards to HER feelings and a man with no doubts, fears nor insecurities of his own. In other words, some men want to "exclusively possess and use" their GFs/wives' sexuality, and some women want to "exclusively possess and use" their BFs/husbands' emotions.

I find interesting how men and women's problems tend to be kind of "the other side of the coin" between each other.