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dbootywarrior · 2022-02-28T22:42:54+00:00

The worst thing a man can do is measuring their self-worth on who they can attract, because if we all did every man would be unsuccessful and depressed

ajayt365 · 2022-03-01T00:15:02+00:00

from your other posts, I see you are just 20. That's good news. You have your whole life in front of you to have great dating (and other) experiences. What you need now is a plan to make yourself into the man who gets those. Take all those preconceived notions of being a loser and throw them out. Don't believe for a second that being just average height will hold you back (the average person is average height, and the average person has a partner).

Step 1 of the plan is getting yourself on a path towards making an income doing a fulfilling career. I'm not sure if you're in college yet or not, but if you aren't, enroll. Study a technology or engineering major ideally, but math, health, & finance/accounting aren't bad field either. Get involved on your campus and network/intern.

Step 2 is getting fit. Cardio, weight lifting, monitoring your diet.

Bonus step: see a therapist. They'll be able to help you talk through the anxiety and other issues you've been dealing with mentally better than any internet forum.

That's it bro. Just getting a good career and getting fit will put you easily in the top 20% of men, and should help your dating life tremendously.

You're so young and have so much time to fix things. Stop fixating on the fact that girls won't fuck you rn, and instead make yourself into a man they will fuck in 2-3 years. You got this man, you've got plenty of life to live for! Take it from a 25 year old who is currently just starting down the path of fixing these things for myself, you're ahead of the curve by realizing you've got a problem now. By a lot. Some dudes will let their whole life pass by without admitting to themselves they need to change.

Mission-Elevator-100 · 2022-02-28T22:28:07+00:00

Seduction is not the thing you should worry about rn. Its getting your life together. Fitness, Financial, Relationships.

Start with fitness. You'll feel endorphins boosting your mood. You'll feel more confident in your body.

But_Kicker · 2022-02-28T22:50:49+00:00

It sounds like you are lacking a purpose. Your purpose this year should be bettering yourself. Hit the gym, be great at work, eat well, doing the hobbies you enjoy doing, be successful and be happy. Others do not dictate your happiness, you do. You can do this.

If you are in to reading, perhaps pick up the book "Man's search for meaning" by Viktor Frankl. It took me awhile to understand. Your current thoughts are relatable to millions affected by the events in that book. Overcoming your thoughts are relatable to the author and some others.

TheChristianAlpha · 2022-02-28T22:11:42+00:00

Sorry to hear that Broski! I’m sad for you. If you feel like talking I’m here. Can even talk over the phone. This sounds like more than just a temporary thing. My guess is you have had a difficult intermatic life. Great job getting this far :-) there’s more work to do though and it gets better if you’re willing to do the work. It sounds like finding a good therapist would really help figure out the root of your depression. It should be in your childhood. Maybe all you need to do is get some therapy and work through things that happens. I’m not sure though, but if you need some encouragement or prayer or a call lemme know

florarsu · 2022-02-28T22:54:08+00:00

Dont do it. You are important, you came to life with a purpose. Look into spirituality and self development. You have to be happy with yourself first to attract a loving relationship. We are here for you

Awkward_Management28 · 2022-02-28T22:59:03+00:00

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SpinCity07 · 2022-03-01T00:45:02+00:00

Those are just stories you have come to believe. You need to work with someone to break the negative cycle you’re in. All those thoughts are lies and stories that you’re brain is cherry-picking to get you to believe your worthless to protect you from pain. Read The Confident Mind. It might help you see how your negative thought pattern is keeping you stuck.

MuMuGorgeus · 2022-03-01T04:32:39+00:00

" I feel like commiting suicide"

Flair: Lifestyle.

Gee that killed me LOL

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-03-01T08:01:00+00:00

Hey, hope you are still here, see you are young and in the UK. Get some mental health help immediately, just call and tell them you are in a bad place and need emergency assistance. Don’t be ashamed of this!

Also, since you are UK based and young, look into mountain biking or skating. There are cool people in these areas and great biking there. Believe it or not, a sport can push a lot of the negative thoughts away and bring huge endorphin rushes.

Good luck man, save yourself by asking for help!

Special_Hawk_3587 · 2022-03-01T10:46:40+00:00

Re; Suicidal Feeling worthless

Key points

Key to thriving is being in unconditionally loving environment at- Home Work Family Friends Hobby/sport

(And Most importantly ) At the mirror

Love yourself Your achievements/looks/wealth/ are not your worth (See the mindset coach video below, his advice is wonderful I think)

Finding unconditionally loving friend family lovers workers ……very hard task Most people are bad eggs Trust your gut Good luck (To boost your luck Read the luck factor )

Two ways to live to 100 Be social (#1) Be active

Nature . Yeah . Great idea. Just start walking. Everyday. Stop each day when you feel better /have smile on your face.
Like a meditation Wisdom while walking like come Active + nature. Double health boost

Similarly living long

Three Essentials for longevity; Connection Control Cause (purpose) 3 of the biggest causes of wellness ( connection, control and cause) according to Sir Harry Burns https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yEh3JG74C6s What causes wellness | Sir Harry Burns | TEDxGlasgow

“first three big ticket items for living longer. More importantly, living longer with more ‘healthy’ and enjoyable years. 1. Do not smoke 2. Take exercise 3. Go out in the sun – and enjoy it. These three things alone can add around sixteen years to your healthy lifespan. Next, the impact of mental health. The biggest hitter of them all. https://drmalcolmkendrick.org/2019/03/17/what-causes-heart-disease-part-63/

Dr Malcom says same as dr Burns Social is good for you Stress is bad for you

Check out book Mindstore on setting goals

Check out book Chimp paradox on understanding you

Google bipolar and/or ask Gp about it

This is good /you must watch Human being Human doing

https://youtu.be/9NgCDYLT-gg

And this

top 10 mistakes intelligent men make with women

https://youtu.be/qigOUdAOyRs

And this

Lots of Free tips and videos

https://socialcoach.com/

Message me in a year and I’m sure you’ll be amazed at how you have changed and your life has changed

Juicewrld89 · 2022-02-28T22:03:57+00:00

Dont you are loved. Jesus loves you and i love you very much.

solgelfluxx · 2022-02-28T22:05:20+00:00

Find a hobby and socialize with apps like meetup, things get better bro it’s just temporary. You will get thru it I know what it’s like

Ineedanswers6789 · 2022-03-01T00:55:56+00:00

Sounds exactly like what I go through, at least your not alone, most average guys can’t get a date these days no matter what they do it’s just how the world works, women have so many options and all think they are celebrities so average guys don’t have a chance in todays dating scene, I honestly stopped giving a fuck about women a couple months ago, only thing I care about is money, if they don’t want me now they can’t have me later either, I promised myself I would never be someone’s 2nd option and the light at the end of their tunnel after they have had hook ups and kids with chads.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-03-01T01:37:49+00:00

All I’m hearing is “I don’t love myself, I’m unwanted by my own self, I consider myself below average, I’m the worst, I hate MYSELF”.

Nobody else hates you unless you’ve given them reason to. Love your self, chummer, you’re the only one in the world who is capable of always giving that to yourself. Everyone else will be hit or miss, depends if they end up liking you.

Never EVER base your sense of self worth on others liking you. Are you someone YOU would look up to? Why the hell not? What have you been doing, trying to get others to look up to you? You can’t even look up to yourself because you’re busy dragging yourself through the mud thinking people will like you for it. Self-Pity is ugly, on anyone. Sadness isn’t, but Self-Pity is just Sadness Masturbation. Who wants to see someone mentally masturbate themselves? People don’t like positive braggarts (Look at me, I’m the best), so why would they like negative braggarts (I have it the worst, my life is so bad, everyone hates me, I suck). Yeah…FOR THAT you do. Shut up, you’re trying to break my mental wrist into feeling bad for you, I already do - stop making me regret feeling bad for you, you know?

Don’t excessively flaunt your Wins, don’t excessively flaunt your Losses, you’re doing that right now. Successful people never care about their failure, they care about how they can fix those failures and turn them into successes, or they ignore the failure - pull lessons from it, and forget it ever happened. Big deal, fell on my ass, project fell through - Go do another one, and do it right this time, y’know?

Pick yourself up off the ground and dust yourself off. I got a bunch of dirt on my clothes too, I’m not complaining about it - I’m already aware life fucking sucks. Quit calling attention to that, to yourself, and to others - for everyone’s sake. ESPECIALLY YOUR OWN. Words are powerful, our mind thinks in words, sounds, and pictures. Words are solid, they etch into our minds a picture of reality. If you keep inputting complaints, you’re only gonna get things to complain about.

Start showing gratitude towards yourself for making it this far, for surviving, show gratitude for your belongings, any friends and family you have - they don’t owe you anything, they choose to be with you. Thank them internally, if you thank them externally make it a little nod, don’t go into a giant wedding monologue how they’ve always been there for you…at least not all the time - this is another way the Ego makes us Self-Pity, by playing up everyone else so we can pretend we stopped pitying ourselves. There’s always a positive or negative version of a positive or negative response - be aware of that.

Always be aware of what you put through your mind. Fill it with positivity, what are your good sides. Shut the negatives down in your head “I suc- NOPE! Shut up, I’m perfectly imperfect as a human - work can be done, practice is always a good thing - I’ll practice and get better”. See?

Do some self work for a bit. Start with a goal of 6 months to get to a better place, continue with the goal indefinitely, 6 months is just a milestone for you to look back on. I expect in two years you’re in a way better place mentally, because you’re safeguarding your mind with positivity - in everything. Don’t judge anything as good or bad, just let it be a thing. It could lead to something better, or if worse comes to worse, that could lead to something better.

Always remain Realistically Optimistic.

Ankwilco · 2022-03-01T04:57:57+00:00

Hit the gym

Hit it, keep at it.

We're gonna make it, brah.

Yyyyyppppp · 2022-03-01T03:56:38+00:00

Welcome to the club buddy

Therocksays2020 · 2022-02-28T22:04:39+00:00

Hang in there my friend. It’s not easy to get a girl when you’re not in a good mental place. Start there. Invest in your mental health. Go to therapy. Workout out is just not to look good but it should make you feel good too

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-03-01T01:10:01+00:00

Please see a mental health professional who can speak to you and provided targeted assistance to help your situation. People care about you, including everyone in these comments.

Secret-Army-5588 · 2022-03-01T01:50:47+00:00

Honey, you are so much more than any woman can give you or make you feel. The only way a woman can make you feel better is if you feel good about yourself to begin with. Women are attracted to confidence! Work within yourself to find out what you like about YOU✌🏼🌻

Scouts2398 · 2022-03-01T01:54:01+00:00

Can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen into this mind frame and slump and believed that the answer was going to come from someone else. Only to hookup or date a girl and get bored or empty validation from them. It was unfair to them and myself to look for validation from them. The only person that can help dig you out of this hole is yourself. Like others have mentioned seduction and women should come last in your priorities. Focus on being the best version of yourself and being comfortable with yourself before letting someone else into your life. Like others have mentioned go out into the world (travel), workout, focus on your career. At the end of the day you will always be alone in this world because anyone could leave your life at any moment and it’s up to you to make sure you rely on yourself for happiness. Many have mentioned to find your “purpose” however this is misleading because it makes you believe you need to find some magical talent to give your life meaning. When in reality you need to look at the small things in life and appreciate them to find happiness. Go experience things and find what makes you happy and gain some perspective. The whole seduction thread and game comes down to building yourself into someone that isn’t needy and is self reliant which is attractive to others (both women as sexual partners and even men as friends). You can’t fake confidence and being an interesting person, you need to experience it. Keep your head up and just remember everything is temporary and if you can’t be accepting and happy for yourself why should anyone else be. We often feel bad for ourselves for things we can’t control and that just creates a cycle of negativity and jealousy. Be a polarizing person instead of a blank canvas.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2022-03-01T02:07:58+00:00

Suicide is the way to let all those people who took advantage of or disrespected you go on thinking they’re right. Think about how to live your life in a way you want to live it. The world needs every single person who feels like giving up completely. The toxic narcissists that use people — those are the ones the word doesn’t need.

Shuuuuup · 2022-03-01T04:07:45+00:00

Things change over time, you never know what's going to happen. Keep holding on, try to take it easy. Try taking baby steps in improving in different areas of your life. Take care and good luck man

MuMuGorgeus · 2022-03-01T04:54:06+00:00

Dude, you can't life your life based on externals. I went to a party two days ago, didn't get laid, didn't get a kiss, tried dancing but failed miserably, got rejected, a lot, even by a woman I thought it was in fact a woman, "they" wasn't.

My point is, if take these things into consideration I'm a tremendous loser, and it gets even worse if you count the party I went before this one. The world will put you down, people will do too, you expectations will be crushed over and over again. And if I told you it's gonna get better, I'm a liar.

The world, people, situations, none of this you can control, as fucked up as it is, it's up to you to not let it bring you down. Please don't make the mistake of emasculating yourself in your head. Contrary to what you might think, you are not a loser, there's no such a thing as a loser, because people came up with this shit. You don't have to be anything, free yourself from this weight, you are not supposed to be perfect.

Go out there and fail, go out to be rejected, make a mistake, try with all your might and fail, fail and fail, that's the way to learn. Fuck being perfect, refuse to comply, refuse to be another pretty face, refuse to let yourself be driven by their beliefs, live for your own', refuse to put yourself down because another girl rejected you. Refuse all the bullshit you've learned to accept and do it so willingly. You only got yourself, so you better treat yourself better.

I say this to you as a "loser", I'm a 20 year old guy who never got to second base. I'm learning how to live with me, how to not let myself be infected by externals.

As for dating advice, ask someone else.

Mr_Red_Reddington · 2022-03-01T05:05:15+00:00

Brother , at this point you need community support. Join a local pickup group and ask help

lilRafe2022 · 2022-03-01T05:22:44+00:00

I'm so sorry you feel so bad , Please do not do this, you have your whole life ahead of you You have yourself God is always there Pray ,meditate exercise listen to music read Life is hard it's a challenge everyday But we have to keep on rolling .✌

Sahitya_Eeshu · 2022-03-01T06:08:43+00:00

Hey listen bro, if you wanna talk to someone please reach me out at +91-7506224347, never think of yourself as unwanted human never do that … Everyone got some flaw no one is perfect and we don’t even have to worry about all those things. Life is amazing you just have to pin out the correct pieces at right place. Everyone is unique as life itself is almost rare all that we know till now which is like a glass of water from entire ocean. Maybe we can play online games together, or any adventure trip to a very uncharted place you like to go.

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2022-03-01T00:28:12+00:00

When at rock bottom it’s time to give. Volunteer for a cause that you believe is just for a little while, give your time not your life.

dinosaur123556 · 2022-03-01T01:15:26+00:00

Man I hate to see anyone like this. Just cuz you feel people see you as unworthy doesn’t mean you are. Everyone is worth something. The best of gets lost. And the best of the best have been lost before. Let’s use Robert Downey jr for example. Homeless. Depressed. And arrested for drugs. He came up from it. We all can we just need to find our purpose. You can’t find your purpose thru another person only yourself. But trust me my friend you are worth it!! From one man to another. I promise life is great. Just look for some hobbies. Or whatever you like to do.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-02-28T22:15:19+00:00

Well, we are all gonna die soon because of world war 3 anyway.

LordPrettyMax · 2022-03-01T00:22:02+00:00

You might want to try taking some mushrooms. Not medical advice

tes_befil · 2022-03-01T02:10:56+00:00

I was in your spot when I was younger. I had no friends or girlfriend until I was 22. I managed to change my life simply by working out, cutting sugars, and doing my best to eat well. Apart from that I focused on myself, my goals, and my income. You don't need height, or to be genetically gifted to get women. What you do need is a solid concept of who you are, who you want to be and your goals in life. Your main goal should not be a girlfriend, find yourself first and be happy with who you are then you will find women. I came from a poor family, everyone in high-school thought I was weird but now I am fit, moderately socialable (still have social anxiety but you learn that it disappears once you force yourself to talk). It gets better man, you need to improve yourself not for a girl but for your own sake, once you are happy with yourself, and you know who you are as a person, the rest will fall into place.

Mad-Draper · 2022-03-01T02:20:13+00:00

The sad thing is that if you got that perfect dream girl you picture, you would only find your life remains unfulfilled.

Get some hobbies and friends, live life in the moment and enjoy every moment of it. Being single is the time to live without conviction!

forest0514 · 2022-03-01T02:20:42+00:00

Man, i feel for you but comparing yourself to others wont help you.

2 things you need to do:

1- go to therapy if you can, youre depressed and you need help with what is causing it and to work on your social anxiety

2- Be better for yourself. If what you need is a girl then you have to work on your confidence bc i have friends that are not a ducking Brat Pitt it all and they have confidence enough to get girls i consider out of their league

Is it easy? not it all but when you take the decision to follow that path youlll get the results with time. No girl will bring happiness if you're not even happy with yourself so start with you.

Wish you the best man, I know you will make it.

BackFlashy2939 · 2022-03-01T02:44:36+00:00

"Better for a man to conquer himself than a city " The bible

Take a good look at yourself, dive in, it might suck but remember no one is perfect in this world. Everybody needs to improve and evolve. Look at successful people, they can't stay stagnant, they have to keep going because, that's just who they are.

Mundane-Currency5088 · 2022-03-01T02:57:01+00:00

To be honest. Building a life worth living is the answer to suicidal thoughts and feelings. Dialectical Behavior Therapy had tons of things to help buy the simple most important thing is WE CREATE OUR OWN LIFE yes things can get you down or get in the way but you are in charge of you..in the US. In a free country you have resources to help you build yourself up so you can feel confident in yourself

Mrsowrong · 2022-03-01T02:59:22+00:00

Where do you live ?

bandsupjay · 2022-03-01T03:09:26+00:00

hey man. a lot of stuff you're going through, I went through too as a kid. Felt like I never belonged, people always hated me or I assumed so but it was really just them projecting their problems onto me, having a parent not liking me growing up. I remember nights where I felt like not living either. Nights I'd go to bed crying. Things happen but it's what make us who we are. Thankfully I found hope and I got out and got better. It's not over for you and never will be. You can still grow out this and change. If you need someone to talk to, you can hit me up and we can talk all day buddy. I've been through a lot of shit, somewhat similar to what you've been through but with persistence and setting my intentions right, I was able to get out and change a little bit of my future and how I view myself and other people. But I want to tell you, this is all in your head bro. Try not to magnify your problems its not as bad as how you make it seem. That's what we do as humans. We tend to magnify things when it's really not that bad, even I do that from time to time. I'm sure you're going to be okay, just don't let this shit control you. We can all grow and have space to grow that's whats so awesome about being human. Because we can learn a new habit and master it in some time. You got this bro. Your uniqueness is your value. No one is better than you. Not even me for crying out loud even though you're sitting here typing that. We're all the same. All of us. Even on our down days, sometimes it gets hard and you may feel inadequate but those feelings are never facts. They go away. Try not to live with these lies and remember you're awesome brother, no matter what. Hit me up if you want to talk. I'm here

Local_Blackberry_856 · 2022-03-01T03:44:02+00:00

No one is that attractive, very few people. Most just buy love. Work hard and you can "be attractive". But seriously, life do suck but it should be bearable. Have you receive medical help? It sounds simple but sometimes help to find ourselves. Even if there is no love, life is not that bad. Even if everything is lost you can still find beauty somewhere. Don't give up. We just have one chance.

2022-03-01T05:32:24+00:00

Lad find Jesus, he will Guide you, all that negative talk is Satan. You want him to win?

OrdinaryAwareness328 · 2022-03-01T07:41:40+00:00

Look into r/semenretention. For me it helped a lot with my confidence and there’s a lot of other benefits that comes with it too. For me it’s been life changing. Don’t give up yet

2022-03-01T07:11:46+00:00

Feeling such strong emotions makes it a good moment to forge your own way in life. People can be very different, you are not here to make up for "normal" life. If you are now grown enough, you should turn your attention and energy only to matters and people that you find worth it. Throw away toxic and unnecessary and find value and happiness.

bandsupjay · 2022-03-01T07:17:49+00:00

Just in case you dont message me, read a book called Healing your Emotional Self by Beverely Engel. You can help yourself man, and I’m sure what you’re going through, a lot of it is posted in that book. Give it a read, I’m sure you can help yourself and change everything within a couple months and live a new profound life.

HaikusfromBuddha · 2022-03-01T07:18:34+00:00

Seems like your issues are more stemmed around self love. Take care of yourself op. Talk to a therapist. The world doesn’t owe you anything and it won’t be kind. You need to learn to love yourself. Have confidence in yourself. You don’t need anyone in your life right now because trust me, it wouldn’t make you happy.

Find your reason of living that isn’t reliant on other people. Don’t value your self worth on what others think of you.

You’re young. You may feel upset now but you have plenty of time to grow and change. To enjoy other things.

I find satisfaction in just being able to experience mundane things, because other animals just can’t. I am just grateful to be alive even if I’m sad at times. I know I can grow passed my it.

MarcusAurelius1815 · 2022-03-01T08:23:30+00:00

Read 'The Way of the Superior Man' by David Deida.

rangamatchstick · 2022-03-01T10:49:37+00:00

Hold up mate your man, you don't give in when times get shit, you find a way to solve it and get better, keep at the gym, forget women for now, focus on improving yourself, your job and get some hobbies, the friends and women will come in droves it just takes time. So start with the hobby so you have something to enjoy in the mean time. Message if you need a hand mate, we are here for you.

2022-03-01T10:53:42+00:00

I get how you feel bro. I've felt that way many times during my life. I recommend therapy but also I've got a few good books for you so make sure to save this list.

Mode One (good for getting laid)

Radical Honesty (good for happiness)

Awareness by Anthony DeMello (awesome for your situation)

Anyways if I can make it out of that hole I bet you can too. Life is worth it, just make small changes little by little, no need to go crazy, like listen to these books 2 minutes a day or read a page a day. Eventually it will stack up

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