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So this post is an oldie but goodie... I was reading through my notes the other day and I noticed I sometimes reference the Three Second Rule but I have never written a proper post about it. So without further ado...

THE THREE SECOND RULE

This was promoted back in the 1990s on the usenet group alt.seduction.fast. I am sure it has origins before that. It was popularized by Neil Strauss in his novel The Game.

The rule is simple: When you see an attractive woman, you have exactly 3 seconds from the moment you notice her to begin your approach.

While I don't agree with the Three Second Rule as a hard and steady rule with no exceptions, I do believe it is the single greatest method for getting over approach anxiety (short of getting completely blitzed on Jack Daniels and making a fool of yourself).

It is especially useful for people who are just starting out practicing game. It works because it's so simple.

Committing to the rule: When you're getting ready to head out, tell yourself that you will be following the Three Second Rule. Forget EVERYTHING else. It is the only thing you need to concern yourself.

For me, I would be standing in the corner of a bar with friends, chatting about whatever... I see a beautiful girl walk by the bar, stop RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF CONVERSATION, and approach. A typical opener can be:

  • "Wow, hi. How's it going? I'm TofuTofu, who are you?"

Keep it simple. Think about it from her point of view... The only impression she has of you at this point is that you're 1) confident enough to approach her immediately without wavering and 2) direct enough with your desires to act on them immediately. That's fucking awesome! That's about as good as first impressions get!

Some of the greatest girls I've ever met came from direct use of the Three Second Rule. I remember one in particular... Gorgeous, tall, blonde, fit, sexy, and she had just received her M.D. from Columbia. She absolutely adored me.

A few weeks into our fling we were cuddling in bed after sex and she said to me... "The way you just... appeared out of nowhere the night we met... That was so hot, I knew I wanted to be with you.

My mind was fucking blown. This shit works.

Try it out. If you apply the Three Second Rule, you'll never kick yourself for not approaching and you'll never have to suffer through more than three seconds of approach anxiety again. It's all about increasing your chances for success.

It's Saturday. Go meet some women.