This may help some of you, may not help others. I was out, not sarging or anything, just out in a crowded public area in the afternoon. Out of nowhere, this 10 walks by, just sexied all the way up. Tight leather dress, high heels, bright red lipsticks, the works. So sexy that she just kind of looked out of place. Which I found to be a bit comical.

I was wondering why she was dressed as such in the middle of the afternoon. Then I realized that probably her worst fear would be meeting some guy that absolutely did not care how sexy she was. Or a guy that could see straight through the iron wall of sexiness she built around herself and didn't like what he found inside. What this revealed to me is that most other people, particularly women (just because society emphasizes their physical appearance more than men) are usually too worried about their own insecurities to think about somebody else's. The whole time I was looking inside at my own faults and trying to fix them without even realizing that everybody was completely blinded by theirs.

Instantly I relaxed and was able to just enjoy myself being outside. That evening, it was easier for me to approach in bars and talk to people than it ever had been. I would just keep in mind that I could do or say whatever and people would probably take it for confidence. It was one of the most fun nights of bar hopping ever. I wasn't thinking about game or approach or sets. I was legitimately just trying to engage people in conversation.

I hope I was able to convey my thoughts in a helpful manner because this one realization helped me more than any FR I've read.