When you finally sleep with the girl does anyone just think omg is this real?

crisprodigy · 2020-09-17T14:26:32+00:00

Yeah, it's called "I couldn't get it up, for no reason". But the reason being that I was too excited and nervous not to screw it up... aaaand I did screw it up a few times.

mrghost_ · 2020-09-17T15:45:59+00:00

Reading all comments when you are still virgin lol

facuolmedysya · 2020-09-17T14:03:13+00:00

I use to realize mid-sex and think "haha, nice"

Alex_O7 · 2020-09-17T13:51:21+00:00

there was this one time a girl friend I had crushed on for 4 years showed interest to me. The relationship then delivered some weeks of intense intimacy, eventually we realised we were not meant to each other and moved on. Still proud of having done it for the kicks, and the day we had our first time was an all-time high I'll never forget :)

KingRemu · 2020-09-17T12:56:47+00:00

It's pretty great although my first time was almost 13 years ago with my first love. I didn't really think of it as an accomplishment but sure it's a great feeling.

LS610 · 2020-09-17T15:02:47+00:00

congrats on sex

tc470 · 2020-09-17T14:41:10+00:00

I'm a decent looking dude, fit, nice and all that jazz and make alright money and I sometimes look at my girl and think just this. She's so damn cool, and sexy, and open minded, I'm like huh....how tf did I get this girl lol she's so hot that I feel insecure as a boyfriend

Bvllvj · 2020-09-17T18:07:13+00:00

As a virgin this post makes me feel like im in Spain but the s is silent.

jenneschguet · 2020-09-17T15:32:58+00:00

When I slept with my ex for the first time after dating for a couple of months, yes, I had that "holy shit, we just slept together" feeling. Mainly because when I first met her on our first date my impression was "no way will she date me, she's way too attractive". It was a great feeling to realise that we were and item. Couldn't believe my luck.

ManyQuantumWorlds · 2020-09-17T16:28:39+00:00

Well I’m at the stage where I know I can get laid, but finding a lay that I’m compatible with is what gets me excited.

My ex gf complimented my sex demands so well..and same with her.

Got to the point that we were like..borderline addicted to fucking.

DaggersandDots · 2020-09-17T13:21:39+00:00

The sex part is almost always underwhelming compared to the anticipation.

jgnewby · 2020-09-17T18:55:55+00:00

Sexually active for over 50 years and still amazed by the first time with a woman.

Sandn1bba · 2020-09-17T14:45:08+00:00

Educational-Tie5732 · 2020-09-17T16:20:42+00:00

lol guys I'm getting jealous, I'm 20 yrs old. Never been loved or get laid 😥😥

tresslessone · 2020-09-17T23:14:13+00:00

I had this when I laid a gorgeous girl within 4 hours of meeting her. I really felt like I made it at that point. I thought “If I can pull this off, I can fuck ANYONE” and I got myself ready for living the life. I bought three boxes of condoms, a big stash of cialis and my inner game was indestructible.

Two weeks later I met my girlfriend. Let me know if you need any condoms.

changy15 · 2020-09-17T14:56:58+00:00

All of my sexual experiences have been with people I never cared even the slightest about, some were downright out of desperation. I’ve only ever been emotionally/intellectually connected to very few, like 3 women in my life and they all seem to be able to pull much much more attractive dudes than myself so it never worked out in my favor.

The girl I cared the absolute most about and still do to this day as we’ve been good friends for years now I had some very very awkward sexual experiences with but we were like 18 when it happened. She pretty much shit all over my self esteem even though she didn’t intend to, we were both drunk and she kind of just let her opinions out, but I was a virgin too. Regardless she gutted my self esteem in that encounter.

So no I’ve never had that intimate/emotional moment with anyone, & I’m 24. Not to say I haven’t had sex, not as much as I would want, but nothing like that. Feelsbadman.

starry_eyes222 · 2020-09-17T18:46:37+00:00

Words like "pulled this off" and "accomplished" seems a little insensitive. It makes the girl seems more like a conquest than a partner. The whole point of finally getting the girl would hopefully be because you like her for her.

The reason I say all this because I had a guy who wanted to date me for longest. He would obsess over me even write love songs about me. He told me how much he liked me, thought I was beautiful & intelligent, "the female version of him." He seemed so enamored by me to the point I wasn't sure it was real or should give him a chance but I eventually did because we had formed a connection, and I got to a place where I felt I could trust him. He was also really kind to me.

Then once we started dating, once he slept with me, things changed. Not because of anything I did, but i realized he's the type of guy more in love with the chase, the fantasy, he likes the challenge, and when the challenge is over, so is the romance. He quickly became cocky, an asshole, critical, snobby, cruel, careless, and petty. I was saddened and in shock how quickly he did a 180. Towards the end he he told me he didn't want a relationship (which is what he pushed for.) We dated a total of 2 months. Our last conversation he seemed to not care about my feelings & I find out he already had his eye on someone else. We stopped talking after that & chased the other girl relentlessly, the same way he chased me, worshipping & writing songs about her? swearing it's love. It of course didn't work out & left broken hearted or until he got what he wanted (because of course he still plays the victim). Then he moved on from her & did the same thing to another girl he had been hitting on for a while. I soon realized a pattern here. I didn't know if he was really a player, or so wrapped up in his fairytale mindset about finding love, going through each & every girl to find it bjt the thing is he's not capable of a relationship because they require work & effort. He's more about the passion & moment. Gives him ammo for his music. I don't think he's really looking for love. What I think he's looking for is the idea of love, the passion, lust, but love is not just that. He's confusing lust for love. He reminds me of a high school boy who has a lot of crushes.

Anyway my point is please don't use this girl if your only intention was to sleep with her. Don't treat her like some challenge to be had. She's a person with feelings. If you really like her, show her.

skullirang · 2020-09-17T15:03:28+00:00

Yup. It's actually that addicting feeling that gets you hooked to cold approaching. You date someone new, you go through that exciting phase then it gets boring. Rinse repeat. The hotter the girl, the better the high.

It's the same thing with girls except they like the thought of conquering a high status guy because it makes them feel like their status increases. Then they get this emotional high.

This gives you an insight into the feeling you want to trigger in women. You want to make them see you as a catch so that the anticipation to get you is an exhilarating experience.

thadon777 · 2020-09-17T17:15:45+00:00

More like, is this really what I was looking forward to?

ThrowRAsm35 · 2020-09-17T18:28:09+00:00

I’m in a semi LDR. We get to see each other every couple weeks or so. NGL, having that anticipation and build up between visits is euphoric and makes the love making feel like the first time—but somehow better—every time. I don’t know how sustainable it’ll be in the long run, but god I love it right now.

Weppy · 2020-09-17T18:31:46+00:00

I’m ready for the downvotes but hopefully you’re a boy with a girl. Not a man with a girl.

Crazy_train69 · 2020-09-18T03:36:52+00:00

It should still feel like that when you’ve been together for years!!! You have to know and want to keep it alive

donaldtrumpsmistress · 2020-09-18T04:02:05+00:00

The best feeling is when it's a girl from cold approach. I literally have flash backs to when I was just contemplating approaching her like oh fuck I can't believe it worked

Not_World_War_Meme · 2020-09-18T04:02:28+00:00

When I started selling shirts online I got my first sale, exact same thought process mate :)

Xomomarine · 2020-09-18T05:30:23+00:00

Sounds like a good feeling. Shame that some of us are going to live our lives and never experience that

andy64392 · 2020-09-18T05:47:06+00:00

Which is why many people think having sex with someone you love and loves you back is 100x more fulfilling than a hookup fling where you’re more or less selfishly using each others bodies to get yourselves off, and then the awkward fleeting emotions that follow as you realize there should be no feelings and one of you leave.

2020-09-17T15:41:02+00:00

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Mindless_420 · 2020-09-17T16:08:47+00:00

It sucked honestly. Car sex = bad

Pathocyte · 2020-09-17T16:34:22+00:00

I went full Christia Balen in American Psycho, when he is fuckin one of the girls and looks himself in the mirror.

A bit egotistical, but man you have to attribute yourself your wins and celebrate them. For me it was like, holy moly I’m awesome, I’m going to give you the best fuck of your life.

Emonmon15 · 2020-09-17T17:41:49+00:00

Enjoy it that feeling is fleeting.

BrandonChs24 · 2020-09-17T18:22:43+00:00

First time having sex I was kind of drunk. I sobered up mid way and though "This is awesome. How TF I do this?". Till today I still wondered to myself what I said or did to that girl to get her to sleep with me, there were far better guys around that day.

2020-09-17T19:05:38+00:00

r/ijusthadsex

jiciki · 2020-09-17T21:34:41+00:00

Nope because i will probably never sleep with a girl

CJ090 · 2020-09-18T02:53:12+00:00

Nah for me its not even when I have finally slept with them its when I have them in a comfortable position where I know they want to sleep with me that always gets me. It's like I did everything right and now all i have to do is play it cool. When a girl is over my house and we are just chilling and I know she wants me, I will take my time with her because I know that she has already submitted in her mind. This is a lesson I learned 8 years ago when fucking it up with a girl because I knew she wanted me and I was too pushy. When she wants me and its very clear that she is thinking about how im going to feel inside of her, that's a better feeling than sex.

HollowLegMonk · 2020-09-18T07:09:26+00:00

jetech37 · 2020-09-17T15:23:24+00:00

Congrats, you've pushed me to leave this simp sub for good

justmuro · 2020-09-17T15:20:15+00:00

I feel like it’s an accomplishment when a cold approach ends up into sex. But it’s less “omg I got to fuck this girl” and more “yeah I’m fucking amazing I can accomplish anything and this proves it”. I’m the prize fucking some girl I meet isn’t a big deal. Then if deal for me is improving upon myself. Once you get laid pretty much when you feel like it it’s less euphoric and “holy shit I landed a girl”.

neoinoakleys · 2020-09-17T15:39:36+00:00

Your post made me smile and think of this video...!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

starsports1live · 2020-09-17T17:17:14+00:00

I wouldn't know.

Trijor · 2020-09-17T18:10:07+00:00

yes my first time i felt like it was a dream 🤣

SylAbys · 2020-09-17T18:23:49+00:00

How bout finally sleeping with your Crush to end up regretting it cuz she was so Horrible in bed???

RussianBoa · 2020-09-17T18:49:41+00:00

Very true my friend very true. I get this “I want to live” kinda feeling. Instead of just rotting

iamamoa · 2020-09-17T18:50:41+00:00

I know the feeling. It’s never as good as the first time :-) https://youtu.be/UfzmVUrZplw

onizuka11 · 2020-09-17T18:58:26+00:00

I do. I remember one of the best sex I had and it was mind fucking blowing. After that I could not believe I was so damn lucky both of us had a good time.

paintonwood2 · 2020-09-17T19:15:31+00:00

Good for you, dude! And many more!

NDex101 · 2020-09-17T19:37:36+00:00

Indeed

Haunting-Lake · 2020-09-17T19:53:46+00:00

Girls get this too! 😛 I have the exact same thoughts when I’m sleeping with a guy I’ve liked for quite a while, just thinking: ‘well, you’ve done it again, apparently you still got it!’ And just being baffled that this person chose you to have sex with

nawash13 · 2020-09-17T19:56:18+00:00

It’s the girl that thinks that about me

S_A_R_K · 2020-09-17T22:16:34+00:00

All the time. Turns out it wasn't real

danstratum · 2020-09-18T00:55:48+00:00

Yes ikr Something you want for so long and you actually take life into your own hands to make shit happen. You fail, you cry, you join the gym. You work on your inner self.and you get what you wanted. it's just the most amazing thing. I know coz I had the same thought and situation this year. To many more blessings 🥂

2020-09-18T01:01:18+00:00

I cant wait to sleep with a girl now wow

LDM123 · 2020-09-18T01:08:53+00:00

My experience was “Really? This is it?”

miss_gonzalez · 2020-09-18T01:38:23+00:00

I still feel like this when I’m with my bf even after countless times of being together.

Dabainya · 2020-09-18T02:12:26+00:00

Yes, I do, or at least those who value the girl and have put in the hard work to get there.

It's also a part of enjoying the moment!!

2020-09-18T05:09:25+00:00

2020-09-17T15:28:18+00:00

"Does it feel good to get laid"

Yes.

kevinklix · 2020-09-17T15:28:30+00:00

Usually I’m pretty bummed out. The effort it takes in fucking a chick is way more than the actual pleasure you get from sex, in my opinion. It’s more like I’m kind of disappointed that the sex isn’t like some heroin-like drug or something. It’s just sex. But don’t get me wrong, I’m not vanilla in the slightest, but the sex itself kind of feels like a means to an end. Then I want another girl after that to chase and court and try to fuck.

Ierax29 · 2020-09-17T15:31:39+00:00

Up until University at least, the best part about sex is telling your friends you're having it

Love-The-Process · 2020-09-17T19:05:34+00:00

The first time I’m about to slide in I think “I wonder what this one will be like” and then immediately after I’m like “same circus, different tent”.

throughthevalley77 · 2020-09-17T20:48:54+00:00

Simp

noodlyjames · 2020-09-17T17:29:47+00:00

The chase is always fun. Then you do it a few times and you start to realize that it isn’t worth the hassle.

Dauntless11911 · 2020-09-17T16:23:08+00:00

That's just a demon feeding u that thought. A lot off y'all been literally sleeping with em. Demon/fallen angel/unclean spirits are just different tags for the same persons. They're literally just persons without a body.

Sin reveals who they are. Sinful moments tag em and bag em. Advocates for sin = Fallen angel.

They're all male and can take the form of man, woman, child, animals etc. Not one thing is impossible down here.

God's children are under lucifer's dogmas and bondage in this life. There's something called reality and then there's actuality.

Actuality is, wheat and tares occupy the grounds on this earth.

Edit:

Just ask the Lord for deliverance from lucifer's dogmas and bondage. Lucifer's dogmas replace actuality with his desired reality, while his bondage is his personal will for your life which is carried out via direct control. This form of control gives u a false sense of a personal will. This false sense of a personal will actually has tons of evidence of a lack of an actual will. Hence why u can't stop doing certain things or start doing certain things. And by the Lord I mean the God of the Bible. Not the Roman catholic one, that one is lucifer's fraud. You got nothing to lose, because after all. What can an imaginary wizard in the sky actually do?

Not one thing.

Title	When you finally sleep with the girl does anyone just think omg is this real?
Author	bayfarm
Upvotes	794
Comments	206
Date	September 17, 2020 12:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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