The claim is not "women have a magical misogyny detector." The claim is "misogynistic men who have trouble getting dates are often bad at hiding their misogyny."

I see the following conversation happen all the time on this subreddit.

Person A: Why are so many misogynistic men good with women?

Person B: They're hiding their misogyny.

Person A: Oh, so the magical misogyny detector stops working if the guy is hot enough?!?!?

This is a fundamental misunderstanding of what we are saying. While it's true that people sometimes overlook red flags due to the presence of desirable qualities, at least as often these men are just excellent manipulators. They put on a mask of kindness and sincerity to attract women.

But most people are not excellent manipulators, and even if they try to mask their views, they may not succeed. Those views bleed through in their words and actions even if they don't say "I hate women" aloud.

(You may now be thinking, "Well, I should just learn to hide my misogyny then." And that may indeed work if all you want is hookups. But if you want a relationship, that's not going to help you very much, since a lot of people will drop you when they realize your true beliefs, and you can't keep up the mask forever.)