Do you ever ask. . .

Comprehensive_Bath_7 · 2024-06-21T00:25:30+00:00

Multiply that by 32 years together!

Masypha · 2024-06-19T23:28:09+00:00

I'm sorry for what you're going through.
What you're experiencing is completely normal and you will improve as long as you want to.

UNPOPULAR OPINION: The anger is a matter of perspective. You're headed towards accountability. When healthy enough, ask yourself what your mistakes were and how you can overcome them for the future. Based on those honest answers you can actually progress. I'm not talking about victim blaming yourself either, where you were in the right and led to believe it was your fault.

Like someone had said, ppl grow. She's a human being just like you. She has genetic and environmental rulings that have affected her and she unfortunately did somethings where she fell off. Anger is the step after after acknowledgment.
Just know that you are worthy and loved. You deserve peace in your life and pray for your prosperity.

brightongulls · 2024-06-19T01:20:25+00:00

I don’t because she was a great caring person in the beginning. Eight years of marriage and people change a lot. Sometimes that change is good, sometimes not. Now she’s a completely undesirable person I would never be interested in again. But I dont feel bad about it or look back in anger. I have two beautiful kids and we get along for the most part. I have been single for 2.5 years and have no plans of dating. Im making myself and my kids happy and I wont give a person another chance to ruin that all again.

Boomhower113 · 2024-06-18T03:28:34+00:00

I know exactly how. She was hot as fuck, had great tits and came from a fantastic family.

Little did I know how far that apple fell from the tree and the red flags were all hidden somewhere behind those tits and my rock hard dick.

Any other questions?

probebeta · 2024-06-18T00:29:02+00:00

It was a fluke. Yes, I was that bad at making the most important decision in life. 😅 I take full accountability for it.

bk2747 · 2024-06-17T20:36:29+00:00

It’s my fault so there’s no need to ask. She was a shitty girlfriend, I had a plethora of options, and I had about a dozen job locations to choose from. I can back near my hometown to be with her, married her and out a kid in her. No one to blame but myself.

alifeofpeace · 2024-06-17T14:50:16+00:00

I always knew. I just underestimated how bad it can be. I also assumed that the good in her would outweigh the bad. Now the bad has fully taken over. She’s fully consumed by lies, drinking, bitterness, anger, jealousy, hatred. The devil has a stronghold on her

Psychological_Art823 · 2024-06-17T02:59:40+00:00

People change it wasnt always bad.

I did however ignore red flags, let my boundaries get pissed on and in general bowed down and lost myself trying to do what she wanted.

Strict-Front-2375 · 2024-06-17T01:59:18+00:00

Well, I could say I ignored red flags, but they're the sort of red flags that society tells you don't matter and your insecure for thinking have any impact.

helloworld2389023 · 2024-06-17T01:47:59+00:00

Same boat man…mine ex was a disaster and is just a fucked up person.

Equal-Morning9480 · 2024-06-16T23:46:16+00:00

Mine had more red flags then a Rutgers game, she got pregnant within three weeks of meeting her, She had a daughter from a previous marriage and I raised her… 25 years of red flags, I’m such an idiot

Misled-Heat · 2024-06-16T23:38:59+00:00

I ignored it or didn't want to deal with it. My therapist tracked the issues back to the first year's of marriage. Took me 30 years to finally realize I deserve better and to be happy. Such a waste of my life. Almost there another month and should be done.

Practical-Island-436 · 2024-06-16T23:37:13+00:00

That's how I feel such a crazy person, had to file motion against her for emergency custody because she was refusing parenting time and wanted to create her own schedule, the judge GAL and my lawyer all hammered her lawyer who had no answer for her actions and within a hour she was already sending me crazy stuff gaslighting me to believe the judge didn't side with me.

ArtichokeSavings9472 · 2024-06-16T23:29:18+00:00

All the time I mean it’s a bitter pill but we’re part of the equation too .. not saying we pulled the evil shit they did but there’s a part of us that accepted the behavior and or ignored all of the red flags several years of looking inward and I’m still digging hoping to get therapy soon to really get through some more stuff I was very young for marriage and well naive I ignored all the red flags or thought they would even out over time .. she only got worse and the abuse deeper and deeper .. she wasn’t the brightest but was a brilliant manipulator she grew up in an awful environment and learned how to get her needs met through those channels it’s really sad

Unusuallyus · 2024-06-16T23:06:46+00:00

I outright ignored all the red flags.

Title	Do you ever ask. . .
Author	Aggravating_Text956
Upvotes	29
Comments	38
Date	June 16, 2024 11:01 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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