What makes you prefer cold approaching? Is it because bars aren’t your thing, or maybe you don’t have many friends? Or have dating apps not been working for you? What's your story?

AiSensualGoddess · 2025-02-10T22:07:46+00:00

A lot of guys miss the point of doing cold approach.

Someone once asked: “is daygame done?” as if it’s some type of trend. Daygame is never done because it was never a trend, it’s a timeless skill. It’s like saying “is social circle game dead?”, or “is nightclub game dead “ or “are dating apps dead?” or “is any form of meeting women imaginable dead?”

Meeting women in different ways is never dead or alive, it’s just an ongoing aspect of human interaction. The effectiveness of any form of meeting women depends on your ability to adapt and connect with the individual you are interacting with. The core principles of human interaction remain the same, no matter what way you try to meet them.

It’s not about what’s in, or out. It’s about mastering the fundamentals of attraction, empathy, and effective communication in any setting.

Many guys confuse themselves if they thought this was just a trend that people were doing just because it was cool or because doing meant that you would instantly have guaranteed success.

No, people do it because they want to take control of when and how they want to meet people, regardless of the outcome and regardless of how many other people choose to do it.

Some people always go to nightclubs to meet women, not because it’s trendy, not because it “works guaranteed”, but because that’s what they like.

It’s irrelevant how many people do it. It’s also irrelevant if others don’t have success with it because the same can be said about dating apps, or nightclubs or anything. Cuz it’s the person that makes the difference, not the medium he uses. It’s not for everyone, but that’s the thing, nothing is for everyone.

When someone says “dating apps are better”, or social circle is better, etc.. they need to remember they are only talking about themselves. Sure some may agree with them, but they are still people who don’t speak for the entire world population of men.

I choose daygame regardless of how many people do it, and even if i was the only person on earth i would still do it because that’s what aligns with who I am as a person and what works for me better than other things i have tried. This doesn’t mean others will have the same experience. I’m just talking about me personally.

YinMaestro · 2025-02-10T22:07:01+00:00

Cold approaching:

- Makes you look confident and thins your competition because most men are scared of women IRL

- Allows you to hit on much more attractive women versus just a swipe

- Allows for conversation and if you are more of a talker than a texter works to your favor

- Allows for experience talking to girls IRL because from my personal exp, they don't text how they talk.

- theres more but i gotta clock out so lets see where the current responses get me

Apples_into_Snapple · 2025-02-11T00:19:16+00:00

Women will be harder to approach in bars (unless it’s a cocktail bar where you can actually talk) since women are also inebriated and they expect men to approach them and may act like a complete bitch to weed out the guys with poor NightGame or that don’t meet their physical qualities at the start.

During the day, women want the “mystery/RomCom” experience of being approached by a man, and since alcohol is not in the picture, are less likely to act like bitches and will be more open to conversation.

You should master both, but you will see results quicker with DayGame.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-02-10T22:15:50+00:00

Because it's easy. Cold approach is talking to women.

I think dating apps are stupid because they have no mystery.

Walk around the place make eye contact with girls you like and see if they are receptive. It's easy to spot the ones who are attracted to you.

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-11T13:51:34+00:00

For me it started out as a necessity and then it turned into something more. When I was young, I was extremely shy. My first girlfriend approached me and basically pursued me. I thought that this was how things were going to work with women, but oh boy, was I mistaken.

I eventually broke up with her to move to another country and fell into a depression and isolation because I didn’t know anybody and felt out of place. Didn’t have a social circle, so one day I figured out I will die alone and sexless if I didn’t do anything about it.

After a few internet searches I stumbled on the old fastseduction forums and the rest is history. I started approaching because I didn’t meet girls any other way. But eventually, it become something more for me. You know how regular people (men and women) will go out and they will spot an attractive stranger and then they will elbow their buddies and say “omg, check out this hottie, the things I would do with her/him”. And then nobody approaches and the hottie is gone. Well, I didn’t want to be this do nothing bitch guy anymore. I wanted to be able to go out and have the freedom to approach the attractive stranger if I wanted to. This made me very proud of myself given where I came from.

Becominghim- · 2025-02-11T00:14:37+00:00

I prefer cold approach because no one does it lol. I stand out alot more than if I was to meet the same girl at a bar. Girls love a story they can tell “oh this guy came up to me at a coffee shop” sounds better than “we met in a nightclub or tinder”

ice_man085 · 2025-02-11T07:33:32+00:00

I do do not prefer day game but day game is the only way to approach without any further resources. I am 39 and I have friends. But neither my friends nor their friends have singles in their circles. Dating aps are not working because I am not pretty picture boy. I would not consider myself ugly but i have flaws and these flaws are very obivious on pictures which makes me more ugly on pics than I am in my real life. In day game you do not need friends to go out with you. You just have to brave enough to do it.

I like night game too but i cannot do that so often because it is expensive and doing to often is also not good for health because of the alcohol.

LaloTwinsDa2nd · 2025-02-11T11:39:50+00:00

Out of most of anyone I know I’m the only guy who sees a beautiful girl and opens her at least 70% of the time.

dogstarfugitive · 2025-02-11T00:10:52+00:00

Dating apps are used by girls just to look.
They get so many guys trying to match they only pick the best of the best.
Unless you're muscular and very good looking it's a waste.
Bars, coffee shops, supermarkets, and the gym.
If a girl u see in the gym is wearing tight clothes etc she wants to be noticed.
Usually I'll see if there's eye contact at all in the gym. Understand the other guys in the gym maybe in much better shape than you. So if you're still working on getting in shape don't bother.

Parking-Mission600 · 2025-02-11T02:24:54+00:00

The impression you put on a woman in person could never be replicated on the phone. We’ve all had stories where their dry on the phone but after the first link everything changes, well you skip that faze by meeting her in person. And they’re more inclined to link or see you again much faster, because they’ve already seen you in person and are comfortable.

Thebiggestbigsquid · 2025-02-11T16:00:12+00:00

Night game is easier for the more classically attractive man. Day game your personality will carry you farther imo. I think night game is easier just because women know they are going to get hit on and if you happen to be their type it’s good. I personally prefer night game but you find way more quality women during day game

Ninjazxcz · 2025-02-11T16:38:30+00:00

You can cold approach in a bar. You probably mean daygame cold approaching right?

MrPound4Pound · 2025-02-12T00:38:18+00:00

what I love about cold approaching that most don't really talk about are the benefits it has outside of game and seduction. Since I've started putting myself in these very uncomfortable situations and succeeded in doing some of them, my confidence and my balls have grown tenfold and I've seen it improve other areas of my life but forget I just said that, it's absolutely useless I don't need more competition out there so please don't cold approach lol ok maybe just you guys in this board can cold approach but nobody else!

DrFlyAnarcho · 2025-02-10T23:31:37+00:00

Night game and bars benefit extroverts more. If introvert then cold approach is preferred because it’s slower paced.

Also depending on where you approach, generally have higher quality girls than bars, especially as you get older.

-nuuk- · 2025-02-11T04:10:36+00:00

I loved cold approaching because it allowed me to rapidly experiment with different approaches because they have no context and predetermined bias of who I was. Kinda like famous comedians going to hole in the wall comedy clubs to test material. At some point people will laugh just because that’s their rep. But to know if something truly works, it has to be divorced from who they’ve been in the past.

Tovo34 · 2025-02-11T05:00:56+00:00

Daygame is the ultimate challenge, you have confront what you're really made of, and how much work you're willing to put in. Very few have what it takes, and that's why those who do stand out so much.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-11T18:14:51+00:00

I prefer night game. It’s more fun to be good at it. The wins feel more rewarding. I’d rather meet someone in person than an app. I don’t even use the apps anymore

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-02-12T15:44:28+00:00

see a hot girl ask if you can talk to her real quick.. simple

Repulsive_Witness_23 · 2025-02-12T21:30:46+00:00

Question is kinda already answered. BUT: Cold approaches should be the first thing comes to mind when you think in seduction. Over dating apps or social media, so the question should be: “What makes you prefer apps, etc.”

InternationalSwan162 · 2025-02-10T23:40:41+00:00

I mean I personally don’t like meeting women at bars/clubs. Unless they are upper tier places, you have zero idea who you’re meeting. A lot of these women come with all sorts of baggage/issues/etc. just no way to vet. Sure it was fun to do hookups this way in my 20s.

Otherwise I won’t speak for day game. Not a big fan of the sensationalization of it on this sub. I meet 10s from the apps and to me that feels like the optimal mutual dating ground in modern time.

Meeting women in person is cool and when done naturally.

Either_Tart_3834 · 2025-02-11T16:18:47+00:00

nobody prefers cold approach. the only guys who do it are guys with no other choice, or men who have failed in all other ways. lt is usually seen an act of desperation. from my observation of men who do cold approach, the vast majority of them have no friends, no social circle. most of them are guys who act wierdly, and thats why they have no friends. they come from broken homes, and dysfunctional family which led to a pattern of odd behavior. large % of them are mentally ill which contributes to them acting wierdly and therefore leads to being shunned by their peers. a good portion of men are also guys who are looking for short cuts, and want to pull out of thin air

nordik1 · 2025-02-11T01:26:17+00:00

I'm always extremely skeptical of the guys promoting cold approach online because i dont think many of them actually do it

If they did they'd most likely quit very quickly from the sheer time investment and rejection/flake rate. The efficiency of something like online dating vs cold approach is a bit of a joke. You can crush on apps with <5 mins per day invested

Other problems with cold approach are the hottest girls (daygame especially) typically have a bf already or their guard is up. You're also battling two issues when you approach: if you're good at it, the girl is going to think you do this all the time (in a bad way, not a "oh hes preselected and hot" way), and if you suck at it, well you're just bothering her at that point

There's sustainability issues too where you need enough volume to actually get anywhere and you'll have to move around to different locations because other people and girls will catch on

The girl also has to be outgoing enough to even be receptive to it so you're automatically selecting for women who are more willing to take a risk with a stranger, which means a lot of more conservative women won't be open to it

It's great for building confidence though if you can handle the process. You'll overcome fears and learn a lot about yourself and gain the ability to approach when you want to (the best benefit), but rarely will you find any couples irl that met via cold approach and even dudes with rotations rarely build them off CA. CA is mostly an internet thing that gets pushed in these niche communities and has a lot of smoke and mirrors to it

Even a CA coach on here said his best relationships and wife came from a dating app

edit: This is a good honest video that will reflect most guys success rate if you actually do it for awhile: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=58uWJmDyDaM take note of the single-digit success rate and his issue with hitting on girls in the same vicinity

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