I Confessed to a Woman on a Date That I Practice Approaching - Her Reaction Was Priceless

Had a really interesting date recently. Went out with a girl who was slightly older than me and we got into a conversation about dating, and at one point, she complimented me on coming up to her in real life. I just said, “Thank you,” and kept the conversation going.

But she was really inquisitive. She kept asking if I do this a lot (talk to women on the street). She said it’s not something she usually sees, and she was just super curious. And since she was asking me so many questions, I decided, Alright, I’m just gonna tell her everything.

I told her how, as a teenager, I wasn’t getting any attention from women. I had no options - either I could stay alone forever, or I could proactively change that. So, when I was 18, I made a decision: every Friday and Saturday, I would go out to a local club in Latvia and practice approaching women. I’d walk up to the most beautiful groups knowing full well I’d probably get rejected. And yeah, it sucked. It was painful. But every week, I’d come back and do it again.

Even my mom caught on. She’d ask, “Where are you going?” and I’d just say, I’m going to practice talking to some girls. At first, she laughed, but eventually, she got used to it. Maybe in a way she was secretly proud because she didn't have high hopes for me in this area.

Basically I treated it like a skill, something I had to practice. My conversation skills, my confidence - they were all low. The only way to improve? Repetition. Over and over again.

And with time, I got better and approaching women in real life became normal for me. Ten years later, here I was, sitting across from this woman, telling her about it. I explained that I don’t use dating apps. Every single date I go on comes from real-life interactions - whether it’s on the street, at the beach, in a park, or in a shopping mall.

She sat there for a moment, quiet. And at that point, I was thinking, Okay, this could go either way. Maybe she’d be weirded out, maybe she’d tell me to leave. But instead, she looked at me and said:

"Wow, that’s amazing. I wish more guys did this."

She actually complimented me on having the courage to work on this part of my life and she ended up liking me more because of it. And we spoke about how society expects people to just be good at this but in reality it's a skill just like anything else.

I’m sharing this story for one reason: a lot of guys are scared that if women find out they’re “working” on their dating life, they’ll be judged for it. They think women will secretly hate them or get mad. But that’s just projection.

If you think that talking to women in real life or working on your communication skills is weird, then you’ll talk about it in a weird way. You’ll bring it up as if you’re doing something wrong, and women will pick up on that energy. But if you own it - if you see it as completely normal, as just a way to put yourself out there and improve your communication skills - women love that. They respect it.

I can’t even count how many times women have told me, “I really like that you did this. You should do this more often.” Even women with boyfriends have thanked me for approaching them. The worst reaction I ever get is, “I’m busy”, “I need to catch a train" or just getting completely ignored. That's it.

Obviously, when you’re just starting out and you’re shy or awkward, your results won’t be great. That’s normal. But as long as your intentions are good - if you’re doing this to improve yourself, to build confidence, to learn to communicate better - that's all it matters and with time you will start to get better and better interactions.

And if you ever feel like you’re bothering someone? Just leave. Exit the conversation. But don’t reject yourself first.

At some point, you’ll realize that women are cheering you on. Because ultimately it's in their best interest too since they want to date guys who are confident, funny and know how to communicate. And we are not born with these things.

So don't be ashamed that you are working on your communication and flirting skills, and the fact you have to "practice this". Own it!