I swear to god when I hear what some of y'all are saying it explains why you're stuck in a dead bedroom situation, or might end up in that situation later if you manage to pull a wife.

Sometimes, dead bedrooms happen because of health reasons. This can happen and it sucks but it is what it is. However, the overwhelming majority of dead bedrooms seems self-inflicted.

1/ I've seen a lot of people wanting their significant others to force themselves to have sex with them when they didn't want to.

If the other person is not completely into it, and yet you feel comfortable enough to keep going, there is something deeply, deeply wrong in the sex you have.

Frankly it sounds extremely rapey. I know she technically consents to let you use her body despite not being horny, but come on, can you really believe the experience will be pleasurable for her?

You are displaying that you don't care if the sex is pleasurable to your partner. Can you then really be surprised they don't want to have sex with you?

And do you really believe you ever had good sex, when you don't seem to be able to connect to your partner's feelings? Or have you been just masturbating with their bodies the whole time?

2/ Not only does it show that the sex you have is bad, it is also degrading and objectifying to them as people. If you are okay degrading and objectifying your partner, maybe this also explains why they don't want to have sex with you.

In before: "women like being degraded and objectified" - no they don't. A lot of them enjoy it in a closed BDSM context, not in actual real life. I've been practicing BDSM for 20 years, including kinks like consensual non-consent (aka rape play), yet the idea of actually having sex that is not very pleasurable and completely consented makes my skin crawl, and it should also make yours crawl. If it doesn't, you need to take a deep look at the sex you're doing and how you see your partner and women in general.

3/ If you're stuck in an unsatisfying marriage which makes you suffer for many years and you can't walk away, maybe that's unattractive as well.

4/ A lot of men seems to seek partners with extremely low body count or even virgins. If you end up with a low libido partner, maybe there's a reason why.

5/ If you actually believe women don't like sex, this belief is limiting your ability to have good sex. And also why would you want to have sex with someone who doesn't like it? Go back to point 1.

I conclude with some advice: imagine being in a gay relationship and you're the bottom. Yes yes I know it's icky because you're straight, but entertain me. Try imagining you like it up the ass for this exercise.

How would you feel if your male significant other wanted to bang your ass at all times and would pressure you into it, not caring much if you enjoy it or not, and frankly not being very good at it? And then when you don't want to, they loudly complain but do nothing about it except they keep pressuring you passive-aggressively. Also they think bottoms are inferior to tops because bottoms take it up the ass (while also wanting to put their dick up your ass, hence reaffirming how they see you as an inferior)

Wouldn't that bedroom be dead too?