Summary: I think prostitution is a topic worthy of discussion here and its a shame that the previous couple posts were either too inept or violently butthurt to take seriously. The pros and cons should be discussed in a manner suited to grown men, to understand how it fits into our world, what its good for and what its not good for. This allows men to make their own decisions about what's right for them.

Note: I don't want to get sidetracked with a debate about the ethics of infidelity in response to sex denial, so keep that for another thread.

Societal Context

I lived in the middle east a few years back and there, as well as many other cultures, prostitutes are the accepted solution to the "my wife lost interest in sex" problem (EDIT: It is not the accepted solution here at MRP and I do not advocate it for that purpose) afflicting affluent middle aged men. Attitudes towards these topics vary considerably in different societies, but I encourage you to make up your own mind. When I first learned about these dynamics I was surprised, but it fits with the red pill ideas we learn here. As we frequently say, men bring commitment and emotional availability while women bring sexual availability. A lot of men don't care if their women get some emotional availability from another man without sex. Your wife having a beta orbiter (male equivalent of a prostitute?) is a good example of this and I think a lot of men would find this simply irrelevant. Conversely, a lot of women don't care if their man has some NSA sexual availability as long it doesn't threaten their social standing, emotional availability or commitment.

Prostitutes vs. Affairs

For married men looking to cheat, the obvious alternative to prostitutes is having affairs. Lets consider how this frequently goes: fucking a soccer mom in your social circle and of the same social class as your wife. Their affair partner is someone of a similar profile to the woman they married who might embarrass their wife and who they might potentially leave their family for. I'm not saying this is good or bad and I hear soccer moms are a lot of fun.

A Practical Solution

From a practical point of view prostitution (as its found in a lot of places) is extremely convenient compared to carrying on an affair. There is no chasing, no texting, no drama, no electronic evidence, no complications. In a lot of the world you just pop out on your lunch break, walk into the whorehouse, pick out an HB9, have her do whatever you want with an attitude of customer service, then its "enjoy the rest of your day sir, please come again soon", you walk out like its nothing and you're back in the office in 90 minutes. Its perfect for married professional guys and interesting how red light districts are frequently close to business districts. Most guys who have been around MRP for a while (strong frame, lifting, learned some game) could easily start affairs with attractive women. Personally I don't think prostitutes are a better option because they're hotter than affair partners. I think they're a good option because they're more convenient and much lower risk of getting caught long term. Also, by cheating with someone you give them the ability to facebook message your wife and nuke your marriage. Personally I'd recommend to only do that with someone who doesn't know your name, details and will never see your again. This convenience is what you pay them for, not the sex.

Whats Missing

I think its also important to point out some things that men generally will not find (and shouldn't be looked for) in a brothel: attraction and connection.

  • Attraction. Its a lot of fun, the girls are attractive and they enthusiastically do whatever you want, but there is no female attraction. You are not completing the process of attracting a beautiful woman who gets wet for you, seducing her and fucking her while she enthusiastically submits and loves it.

  • Connection. I think this is missing in any impersonal sex. When I've had one night stands they've been similar. But this dynamic is even more present with prostitution. And it needs to be. If you are going to prostitutes to get human connection, that's beta as fuck, you need to revisit what you're doing with your life because you are entering into a very dangerous dynamic.

I've heard that when you have sex with a stunning girl with that attraction and connection missing, you might just find out that that those things were what you really wanted in the first place when you wanted to fuck a beautiful woman. And for this reason, I think prostitution should be some temporary, occasional and irrelevant fun. Its not a big deal or a long term solution and anyone who thinks it's a big deal or a long term solution should reconsider their involvement in it. But from an MRP point of view EDIT: in my opinion related to topics frequently discussed here, in the short term it could be useful for a lot of fun, abundance, losing oneitis, getting used to fooling around with women other than your wife.

Important Notes:

  1. Most of my knowledge focuses on brothel based prostitution because of where I've lived (middle east, latam). I don't know a lot about escorts but maybe someone can comment on that game. A good resource for information on specific places is here perhaps other people can suggest other sources.
  1. Even if you hate your wife, the health of your family is your responsibility as a man so be safe. Anyone who fucks prostitutes without a condom is insane and I suggest a dose of antibiotic anytime you get a condom-free bj.
  1. Prostitution has the potential to involve immense human suffering through coercion, which I don't think any of us want to be a part of. Do your research on the sex industry where you are and make sure everyone is showing up to work of their own free will, as is the case in most of the world despite what some SJWs would have you believe. I cannot imagine a more abhorrent condition than sexual slavery (whether motivated by coercion, trafficking, drugs, whatever) so be an informed consumer like you would with any other purchase, and stay miles away from any of that.