We have been together for 13 years, married for 5. Both 33 years old.
I always dated and fucked party girls in high school and early college. I figured I had my fun but that I had found the one. She did put out, but it was 1-2x/week max. She was a virgin before me. Smart, driven, good family (I thought), not a big partier, etc.
Over the years the sex dropped off, even when we moved in together. I know I was a beta with her and let her get away with a lot. She claimed she didn't like sex, etc. She refused to go to a sex counselor. The lack of sex led to other problems. She refused to see a relationship counselor.
I decided fuck it...if she's not going to put out then I'll get it somewhere else. So I would do ONS's when out of town for work or when I knew I could get away with it. I had a couple of regular FWB during this time also. As i mentioned, other women found/find me attractive. So finding women to have sex with wasn't/isn't hard.
Women at work love me. I rarely talk about my wife, if ever...so most think (rightfully so) that I'm unhappy and make passes at me.
I feel like I have been RP for a year with her but that many times it doesn't work. When I get shot down, I go and do other things without complaining. She definitely gets nervous about where I am (sometimes I don't answer, sometimes I do), but that doesn't make her want sex.
I do what's needed around the house, but it's for me, not for her. I don't ask for recognition or tell her when I do something (the grass, etc). We stick to our chores (I do outside work and fix things inside, she maintains the inside).
When she gets mad, she gives me silent treatment. I will simply not respond to her. It will go on for days and sometimes a couple of weeks at a time. We will literally not talk for two weeks sometimes because she decided she didn't want to talk to me.
The problem now is she's 6 months pregnant. I was ready to pack up and go. What I don't want is some other man to raise my child. If I end it she will also want to move. My job and life is in the city I am in now. I can always attempt to block her from moving and not getting custody, but that will get nasty.
I guess my point is, do I still need to change? Women seem to like me just fine, find me attractive/funnny/etc. want to fuck me/date me/marry me. Just not my wife.
If I get divorced, yeah my relationship problems go away. But my personal problems will likely start. If I stay married, what else do I need to do to get what I want (if it's even possible)?