What motivates you to improve yourself?

SemperPrimus · 2019-03-31T14:08:33+00:00

Not happy with how things are

IncommutableOwl · 2019-03-31T14:08:00+00:00

Never going back to being 350lbs

CaptDeadlift · 2019-03-31T14:22:14+00:00

It's fun lifting heavy.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-03-31T14:14:42+00:00

You're always working on improving, or falling back to the 'old self'. There is no middle ground.

So if it's a choice between improvement or falling off...then always improvement.

Big_Red_suppository · 2019-03-31T15:04:01+00:00

Personal experience, data collection. If I could time travel and talk to 25 year old me and tell him to stop being a drunk, get quality sleep and wake up at 5 am every day to hit the gym before work he'd look at me like I was a fucking psycho. But since I know from personal experience what it feels like when I'm in the zone vs. a functional alcoholic piece of garbage the answer is obvious where I want to be.

addwater · 2019-03-31T15:16:18+00:00

Fear of a mediocre life / becoming depressed again.

syn1us · 2019-03-31T14:28:20+00:00

I am never satisfied because there is always a next level.

linkofinsanity19 · 2019-03-31T15:58:51+00:00

To be a man I can respect. To become the man I used to envy.

Nightwingx7 · 2019-03-31T16:23:26+00:00

Hurts to talk about, but being an overweight neet who smoked weed everyday then when my dog became ill i couldn’t afford his treatment and ended up having to put him down because I failed him and myself. I hated myself for a long time. I don’t want to experience that same feeling with my parents or other living loved ones. I want to make something of myself; I have goals. I don’t want to experience that self induced powerlessness again where I have to witness suffering because I failed. It drives me every day. Some people say oh it’s just a dog or it’s not your fault, but all of that is wrong. He was like a son to me; I took him everywhere across the country went on hikes he was my life partner, closer to me than any woman could be and I failed him. I will never let that happen again. I’ve been clean since he died which is three years in November. I’m still not where I want to be, but I’m getting there. Was 17% bf in 2017 and now I’m 12%. Id like to get around 8-10 and maintain that. Used to be bigger and I don’t want to live that life anymore. My novel and my health is all that matters anymore.

KingMike1997 · 2019-03-31T13:50:41+00:00

Hypergamy

billybetasnan · 2019-03-31T16:15:37+00:00

This is going to sound egotistical but fuck it, I know I have a lot of potential to do well in life. But I let distractions get the better of me. There are a lot of stupid fucks in this world that have things they don't deserve. And that is not me being bitter, that is straight facts.

I quit smoking weed which is massive for me, I just need to push myself more because I get too content very easy lol. And also because the people I thought was going to do well in life really aren't doing shit and I think some of them stopped talking to me because they can see I have potential and they don't.

I just need to meet the right people I guess.

AntiSharp · 2019-03-31T15:23:44+00:00

I don’t want to miss out

Angry_Rebel · 2019-03-31T15:59:28+00:00

I see life as constant self improvement. I wish I knew what I know now 25 years ago but I didn't so I could only make the next 25, or more, years better. I love reading a new book and learning something new, or hitting a new PR in my squat or deadlift. I love stepping on the scale and in front of the mirror and seeing a leaner, stronger person. I like the wisdom that comes with age and the lack of patience that I've gotten for BS. I love passing that wisdom down to younger dudes and telling them to focus on lifting heavy, eating better, bettering yourself, getting an education, moving up on your career, focusing on yourself and better things will come.

relationship_padawan · 2019-03-31T16:50:18+00:00

Not wanting to go back to wanting to kill myself.

I still have a healthy flirtation with the call to the void, but it is no longer at a point where if certain sucky criteria were met and a few things holding me back had passed (Endgame comes to mind) I would have gone through. I hated this world so much, not because of hypergamy or my terrible ex or getting laid, but just because there so many shitty people in this world and I didn’t think I had the power to change any of that. I now know that I should only care about my happiness and to live to improve myself and to enjoy life in the moment.

Incognito61 · 2019-03-31T14:42:57+00:00

My shit life motivates me a lot

snowsquare · 2019-03-31T14:56:10+00:00

My competitive nature

Opioidus · 2019-03-31T16:07:41+00:00

For a lot of us it's a pathological progression in our psychological and social development as millennials who were victims of our parents hedonism. We realized, at a deep level of consciousness, that pursuing pleasure as the highest goal in life is not a feasible longterm strategy.

So rampant hedonism gets replaced by obsessive self improvement. Part of the reason why people like Peterson are so popular.

CokeRockOnYourClit · 2019-03-31T14:11:50+00:00

Pussy

Crutchstep · 2019-03-31T16:04:45+00:00

Myself.

vocalistsXD · 2019-03-31T16:13:41+00:00

people that i look up to motivates me.

Peshquabz · 2019-03-31T23:12:34+00:00

2 get CHICKS 😎

Lordvarkss · 2019-03-31T16:51:36+00:00

The potential for what I can become.

elgodo7 · 2019-03-31T16:53:57+00:00

Freedom to live a life i truly desire.

MrGatts · 2019-03-31T17:16:17+00:00

Curiosity mostly. I want to see how far i can go.

T-P-T-W-P · 2019-03-31T19:44:55+00:00

I started more red and with a higher SMV than many who come here (already tall, white, affluent, regularly lifted, college athlete, faired decent with chicks, interesting hobbies, etc.). So without coming into excessive money, doing roids, or other notable events occurring that can’t really be accounted for, I didn’t really have the opportunity for incredibly fast tracked improvement the way many on this sub have and do. But even still, I’ve put my nose down and worked hard across many aspects in my life and have gained a varying amount in every one. And even though some were marginal, I have still noticed and greatly enjoyed the effects of improving further and ultimately striving for my version of perfection. My meh six pack turned into a vascular washboard, my social circle diversified/expanded even more and with it came more opportunities in women as well as other areas, and my work and education both received definitive upticks in performance. The entire process has made me realize two key concepts that everyone should ultimately understand. The first is that the grind will never stop, and acknowledging this is only to your benefit, and to not stay the course will ultimately lead to failure of respective goals and a sense unfulfillment. The second is that you can never stop improving, and in turn reaping the benefits of continued improvement. You’re making 75 a year? Learn a new skill that makes you invaluable and successfully attain 6 figures annual. You’re banging 7’s all the time? Lift harder, diet better, get even more shredded and bang 8’s. I almost envy those who start low, because the process of going from subjective ground to ceiling, particularly when you recognize how fast it can come from lower starting points, is assuredly rewarding. But essentially I’ve noticed what self improvement has already done for me, and I will continue to improve to the best of my abilities to maintain and increase this positive repercussion loop.

TroubleMan24 · 2019-03-31T17:35:46+00:00

Poverty mostly. Grew up poor and black but went to school in an upper middle class white neighborhood in the northeast. Was a great student and athlete but that didn’t matter because my single mom couldn’t afford Abercrombie & Fitch and my “friends” never let me forget it. I’ve been extremely money driven ever since.

Phiffuflaver · 2019-03-31T15:31:59+00:00

I know that I will be miserable if I dont do it

surrealismen · 2019-03-31T15:43:57+00:00

People doubting me

rnsbrum · 2019-03-31T16:10:54+00:00

The glory

russian-jewboi · 2019-03-31T16:15:09+00:00

Bc I think I’m a pussy and want to prove to myself that I’m capable of more than mediocrity

shinywhitedarkness · 2019-03-31T17:50:14+00:00

Not wanting to die like billions of other people who have all lived the same bullshit

D-man324 · 2019-03-31T22:53:46+00:00

The fact that all that matters in this world is power, and I will be either the hunter or the prey. The choice is entirely in my hands and I will lay down for no man.

ESGuy · 2019-04-01T03:05:50+00:00

Fear of failure and not living up to expectations.

BydandMathias · 2019-04-01T03:48:36+00:00

At first it was to prove the oneitis who essentially told me "You're lucky if you ever get a girlfriend with a face like that." wrong. As she talked to me about tips to get with another dude.... My beta bitch feelings were mercilessly crushed like an insignificant ant in front of her.

This was 10 months ago. Haven't spoken to her since.

Have I banged any chicks at all. No.

Do I still think about her. All the time.

Do I want to bang chicks... I don't know any more.

I've become obsessed with lifting. It's all I care about anymore. The girls I match with on tinder and go on dates with are nice. But I can never seem to get past my oneitis and fail to screw them. I am sad.

People often comment on how big I've gotten and the stares I've gotten from women are nice, but I'm afraid of women. I hate that I'm frustrated by my fear. My fear stems from insecurity about my cystic acne scars around my upper chest and back, my penis size, my race, my face, my breath, and other things. I am a walking ball of insecurity.

My motivation is to get past my insecurities and move on.

ycthrow · 2019-03-31T15:57:23+00:00

Higher SMV girls

AscensionExperiments · 2019-03-31T16:22:20+00:00

Because there's something I want, and I can't rest until I have it.

th33unsaltednutt · 2019-03-31T16:23:35+00:00

Its addicting to see yourself become a better you day by day.

spartan_317 · 2019-03-31T16:47:15+00:00

I'm not happy with the way things are and I know I can do & be better.

bruiser18 · 2019-03-31T18:06:47+00:00

Hating my current situation so much that I have no choice but to push on. Stay hungry.

nechoha · 2019-03-31T19:30:37+00:00

Only made it 4 years 8 months & 19 days without having a second major surgery from the first one. I’m angry at myself for letting myself get into the state of needing a second surgery. I have a fear of getting a third surgery. I have a desire to not have a surgery in the next 10 years. And I have the chance to rebuild myself after the second surgery to be in the physical health (primarily) that I want to be at. Started a Tony Robbins book and it’s given me insights on achieving my goals better. Meanwhile, as my physical health improves I can improve the other aspects of my own life.

Theguygotgame777 · 2019-03-31T20:03:30+00:00

I simply like myself better when I'm actually doing something. I'm a junkie for the several minutes after the workout when I'm feeling the testosterone boost, and seeing my muscles better defined in the mirror. I love updating my followers on social media whenever I publish the next chapter of my novel. (Speaking of which, you can read it at wattpad.com/lordlysander7776!)

How are porn and video games supposed to compare with that?

Besides, I want to model my life on that of Christ's as closely as possible. I'm not sure how to reconcile the church's position on pre-marital sex with my RP knowledge of marriage, but I'll find a way.

mrbasic- · 2019-03-31T20:04:42+00:00

Honestly, to be the best version of myself that I can be. Also, to be the positive male role model my younger brother can look up to

theherosmyth · 2019-03-31T20:13:22+00:00

Curiosity, regret minimization and the journey itself.

I’m not far on my journey, but I’ve been a miserable fucking loser for long enough. I know what it’s like, I know what it has to offer, and it ain’t pretty. I don’t want to be the dude in my 40s lamenting that if I’d have just got my shit together in the past (now), my life could have been so much better. Instead I have to watch from the sideline.

What can life be like though, if I really grab it by the nuts, squeeze and twist. That’s what I wanna know. I want to leave it all on the field and see where that gets me.

mrpoopistan · 2019-03-31T22:21:03+00:00

Improvement has never been my goal.

I'm a relentlessly bored person. I always enjoy just seeing how doing X or Y or Z will change outcomes.

forsaken_in_the_dark · 2019-03-31T22:44:59+00:00

I have never really lived and progression of my illness pushed me onto looking for a cure, then I stumbled upon TRP coincidentally when my doctor said I can lift.

So her I am in 10 year old LTR with abusive partner.

I am going to stay in for now, to work on my body, assertiveness and the game.

People said discovering TRP whilst in LTR is like a golden ticket, where you have a way to practice and nothing to lose.

wheel_ · 2019-03-31T23:18:32+00:00

Past failures in different aspects: relationships, friends, parents, etc. I improve myself so that, at least, I don’t make the same mistakes I’ve made in the past.

Hace_XVIII · 2019-04-01T00:57:29+00:00

The fact that I’ve only got about 70+ years left in this crazy thing we call “life” I’d like to do as much as I possibly can; exploring, learning, meeting people, etc and before I draw my last breath, I’d like to look back on my youth and say, “I wasn’t just alive, I lived” and then peacefully drift into the void of death

Nighthawkdragon8 · 2019-04-01T02:04:21+00:00

You should not be coming from a place of unhappiness. You need to let go of and process negative emotions, in order to come from a place of inspiration as opposed to fake desperation.

hrm0894 · 2019-04-01T02:26:34+00:00

If you don't improve you'll end up with psychological problems, such as depression, anxiety, defeatist mindset, self-consciousness, etc.

5xEBITDA · 2019-04-01T02:34:24+00:00

Blissful dissatisfaction. I'm happy and grateful for all that I have in my life - but I'm never satisfied. Always striving to continue growing physically, emotionally, professionally, intimately, financially, spiritually and so on...

MonkMode2019 · 2019-04-01T05:16:37+00:00

Being sober. Every day wake up with a purpose.

Get the house in order (clean and organize).
Get my body in order (work out, focus on areas, find areas you aren't working). Read lots of non fiction. From religious to power to seduction (form of power). Maintain positive relationships. Maintain frame in negative ones - don't let their b.s. affect your joy. Writing in a journal to monitor progress. See a negative cycle, something is wrong. Keep fatigue down. Rest as often as your mind tells you.

Breathe. Read. Live. Write.

Hot_Pink_Knob · 2019-04-01T06:32:44+00:00

Pussy.

KingMike1997 · 2019-04-01T12:37:33+00:00

I don’t give a shit if my woman leaves, as long as I have 10 more in the pipeline. If nature will work in certain men’s favor, why shouldn’t I bust ass to make it work in my favor?

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-04-01T15:38:52+00:00

I just envision myself bathing in success that can realistically be achieved with effort and work.

mickey__ · 2019-04-02T21:04:36+00:00

Nothing. I just realised this. What is going on with me?

kioshiblack · 2019-03-31T15:39:07+00:00

Because i don't believe there is anything after this life and i wanna experience everything i can while i'm alive.

epictetuslifts · 2019-04-01T20:57:58+00:00

Discipline

Title	What motivates you to improve yourself?
Author	Arr18
Upvotes	90
Comments	117
Date	March 31, 2019 1:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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