Girlfriend cheats while under the assumption of getting away with it, boyfriend totally owns her

FLFTW16 · 2014-08-17T13:49:22+00:00

Would anyone else here really give her three days to move out? I'd kick her out immediately.

Lipophobicity · 2014-08-17T15:35:46+00:00

I forget if it was Spinoza, Shakespeare, or Snoop Dog who said it, but remember guys:

"You can't make a ho a housewife"

That fun girl that let you come in her ass the night you met her, isn't making other guys wait. Easy in, easy out

Mouthpiece · 2014-08-17T13:20:51+00:00

This sounds like very satisfying fiction.

AngraMainyuu · 2014-08-17T14:41:42+00:00

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2014-08-17T22:27:40+00:00

"Im a rational man". Spends a thousand dollars on cameras to catch her, food for weeks to keep her at his place, sleeping in her bed and using his utilities instead of just dumping her ass as soon as he realised she was a whore.

Marty_ShortForMartin · 2014-08-17T14:31:32+00:00

First off, this reeks of bullshit. Secondly, why is everyone praising this guy as he is clearly a pathetic dude that saw this coming and allowed it to happen...FLAG. He knew that she would cheat so he waits weeks to set up an overly elaborate plan to catch her? That screams of major personal issues and lack of time spent working on himself, especially if he KNEW she was going to cheat. He went into the relationship thinking fling and ended up liking her... FLAG, you know you're not the first and that's just your lonely drive kicking in. Admits she has shitty personality flaws but ignores them... FLAG, overlooking flaws always works out right? Only had a minimum wage job and had zero alternatives other than to be save-a-hoe'd and move in...FLAG, he even said her job was shitty so he never respected her in the first place. He finally admits he was an idiot, the only smart thing he said. What kind of pathetic man spends weeks crafting an elaborate plan to catch a woman he forced himself to care about? He had this coming since day one and he's upset and betrayed because she acted jsut like she was always going to act. He should of acted like a man instead of a petty child. I can't stand that he's getting praise for being "patient". He is sad, pathetic, ignorant, and childish. I love this sub too, and am surprised at people in here of all places getting boners about revenge on somebody that isn't worth 2 minutes of your day at that point.

2014-08-17T19:06:07+00:00

I'm not saying it's not fake, but if it is, it isn't very creative. He caught his gf cheating and kicked her out. Not exactly a novel story. He didn't do anything. I kept reading because it felt like something was going to happen. It didn't.

SgtTRP · 2014-08-17T20:19:03+00:00

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seattleron · 2014-08-17T14:20:17+00:00

Not bad.

Not beating anyone was the right decision.

Acting physically would have only justified it in her mind: "I always knew he was a psycho. I did this on purpose to end it to get away from him!"

TheReason13 · 2014-08-17T13:44:35+00:00

Now that's what I call maintaining frame.

Stormhammer · 2014-08-17T17:22:39+00:00

and this is why Jedi's aren't allowed to love.

johnnight · 2014-08-17T22:06:04+00:00

If true, this guy has the mental coolness of Michael Corleone.

I do not care, if this is fake. I want to be cool-headed like this. Don't get emotional or violent, because it will be used against you. Just cut the person out of your life with a scalpel.

The only way this could get better is if he told that guy "You're nothing to me now. You're not a brother, you're not a friend. I don't want you near my house. You understand?"

P.S. To people saying he is too emotionless for this being a real story, he lost his cool for a few hours, but it happened away so that they would not see it:

I went out and tried processing what happened, I was angry I wanted to hurt you both hell who wouldn't want that? But more than anything I felt this deep, deep inferiority. I felt as if I was lacking in some manner that I lacked so much that you through primal need for survival sought it elsewhere. I drove around for a while kept getting on the highway and off again just going in a big fucking loop. ... I hadn't had any sleep for about a whole day to this point. When I woke I had a clear mind and I felt better I could now rationally handle the whole situation.

This would be superb advice. If you feel like you are about to get emotional and loose your cool, just leave without a word, turn off your cell phone, vent, smash some things and come back cool and rational with a plan.

lalicat · 2014-08-17T19:21:51+00:00

He invested way too much effort into this. I'd have told her to step right away and not bothered with the cameras and elaborate set up.

Back before I was married I was banging this chick for about 9 months. She was my standby gash, absolutely gorgeous in every way. She could fuck like a harpy and suck me purple. Obviously she was insane though, took lithium and effexor because she was straight bipolar. Had daddy issues like a motherfucker, could have wrote the text book on that. Damaged goods, I always kept her at arms length from me. I was so good at manipulating her and making her feel comfortable telling me anything. She told me some of the sickest weirdest shit about her childhood and games she used to play with her sister ... How since elementary school she'd humped a stuffed bear to masturbate - all kinds of deep dark shit. She told me shit about how many guys she'd fucked, she was convinced that I was her one true love because she'd never been able to be so honest and open with someone ever in her life. I maintained the non judgmental exterior but inside I was just tallying up all the strikes. She mistook my lack of judgment as me not judging her by her past but instead I was able to maintain frame by literally not giving a damn about her as a human being or a person. I had written her off the moment I met her and that made her think I was just so perfect.

I said she was my standby gash because I had another girl whom I actually gave two fucks about but she was in college in Australia and I'm not all about that long distance bullshit so I needed something in the meantime. Enter Jasmine the bipolar 'Cali gurl' ... So I would fly down to Australia every few months for 2 or 3 weeks to see my Aussie girl and I'd usually use the military as an excuse 'sorry babe, going to 29 palms for training - you know the rules no cellphones I'll be back in a few weeks' it worked out great usually. I'd come home from Australia, dick still wet and drop it in Jasmine who was eagerly awaiting me back in the OC.

Well, Jasmine needed her meds adjusted or something. She started getting a little bit more psycho than usual ... I had a trip coming up and didn't feel the obligation I normally did to soothe Jasmine over. I just shot her a text saying it was a last minute thing was going to be gone, sorry!

Well poor Jasmine didn't take kindly to that and decided while I was gone to go fuck two dudes in two weeks. When I got back off the plane I called her over for the usual to get that koala stink off my dick ... She came over and happily fucked and sucked me. Then she started crying. Weird ... So I asked her what's up? She told me she got mad at me and went online and met up with two different dudes and had sex with them because she was so mad at me for leaving her and she felt really bad about it.

I was like 'damn, two guys huh?' Found out who they were, what the details of the whole thing was just out of morbid curiosity as to how this stuff actually happens. Then I told her 'now Jasmine, you know this is unacceptable right?' Like a scolded child she cried and whimpered 'yeah' so I said well I'm going to have to do something about this, you understand why right? Yeah ... OK so you need to leave now and don't call me OK? She started begging and pleading, threatening suicide - all of it. I just kept saying Jasmine, you have to go now OK? As I ushered her out the door. I never talked to her again. I didn't tell her about the other girl or anything. Didn't yell at her, just escorted her right out my front door and then went in, took a shower and made myself dinner and called my girlfriend to let her know I had made it back safely.

In my opinion that's the best way to do it. I think I destroyed her mentally from what mutual friends have told me but I got out unscathed. I didn't feel the need to brood on it and get all upset and waste time and effort. She'd served her purpose and she expired a little sooner than I would have liked but in the end there was as little drama as possible.

That was like 9 years ago and I still get messages from this chick on FB. If I ever hit rock bottom I know I could scrape her off the deck and throw some dick in her and leech off of her till I could get back on my feet ... The chances of that ever happening are zero but it's still good to know.

2014-08-17T16:43:32+00:00

I'm rational

If you were, you wouldn't be in this situation.

AngraMainyuu · 2014-08-17T16:34:03+00:00

I believe the whole point of this was to inflict as much emotional damage on her as she had done to him without leading to any unnecessary legal trouble. He caught her dead to rights, which is hard to do with women sometimes. I keep seeing this line of reasoning in this thread that you should just flip your shit and kick her out immediately. RAGE!!!. I keep imagining how that would go down and chances are it would just turn into another cop call about a domestic disturbance with a lot yelling and screaming and shit being thrown around the house. Fuck that noise. Cops show up cuz a neighbor called, girl goes ape-shit, her new boyfriend takes her side, cops take her side, you go to jail. He didn't give her the opportunity to do any of that shit though. He had her check mate with no moves. Then after he was able to proceed calmly, told her to get the fuck out.

Kuronoa · 2014-08-17T13:54:07+00:00

Fact or fiction, this story gave me the weirdest boner....

ShanksNes · 2014-08-17T19:20:53+00:00

Swallowing the red pill is fucking hard. Especially if you feel like reading deja vu.

monsieurhire2 · 2014-08-17T19:28:12+00:00

Sounds like the guy has some masochism issues. He entered into a relationship he suspected would have a high probability of failure, and then he set up cameras to witness the failure, then engaged in some psycho-drama; all to savor the emotions it produced.

If you know that your GF will cheat to the point where you set up cameras, you should probably really examine what is going on inside your head to understand why you would enter into a relationship in the first place.

Personally, whenever I meet a woman, I play a little "chess game" in my head to see if it would work out. When I determine it won't, I move on. For example, if a girl talks about past slutty behavior, cheating, etc., I think, "Well, I'm not going to be able to change you, so . . . checkmate, next!"

bpcPunk · 2014-08-17T20:10:23+00:00

I was in a similar situation and while the emotions he expresses seem pretty spot on I find it hard how he remained calm. When it happened to me I was pushed to the very edge and may very well be in jail right now if things went differently. This is the sort of thing is what brings out the worst in us men. Also the IP camera thing seemed far fetched. Granted cheap IP cameras are ubiquitous now days but it still seems like a lot of work. But who knows.

My guess is that the story is a little embellished. He provided her at least one or two things to prove he was an asshole boyfriend during the breakup but anyone with half a brain will still be on his side. In the end I hope he keeps away from them both.

mickeysf · 2014-08-17T15:12:15+00:00

I am new to trp, but I see a common theme where men tend to obsess over women and try to convince themselves that they are in control when in fact they are not.

Op plans a sting and obsessively sits in a chair during the cheaters morning sex? How is this at all advisable? Why the elaborate set up? How about just kick her out. Op set up this whole weekend to frame her. If he didn't trust her he could have kicked her out on Friday and saved everyone a lot of drama.

Seems to me that trp folks are full of fear and are elevating women to some level where they must be feared and controlled. It's pretty weird to me.

leftajar · 2014-08-17T16:51:27+00:00

The OP reads like a sociopath. That level of self-control and rationality in the face of emotional devastation... very rare in the general population. Fascinating stuff.

Str8tuptrollin · 2014-08-17T13:15:49+00:00

I love shit like this, sometimes I wish I had a SO that I could catch cheating just to plan out the revenge.

dasstigpig · 2014-08-17T16:48:20+00:00

What a legend. No words can describe how well he handle this. Shouting? Fuck that, that's emotions getting in the way of being the most clinically cold minded person to what is possibly one of the most difficult situations to deal with for relationships.

life_manager · 2014-08-17T23:59:28+00:00

This is a blue-pill example, not a red-pill example.

First off:

Knowingly dates a girl that he expects to cheat.

Allows her to live off his money and work no job

Sets up elaborate scheme to spy on her cheating

Allows them to fuck all night, comes back in the morning

Listens to them fuck in the morning

But omg, he was patient.

Leaves the apartment he pays for.

Comes back and "hears her out"

Red-pill qualities:

Made a decision, stuck with it, didn't get together with his cheating whore ex.

Patient.

TheReason13 · 2014-08-17T19:49:11+00:00

Mickeysf

If you're new to TRP then its understandable that you see the original OP's calculated actions as overkill. Its in your blue pill nature to run from what you know little about.

You must understand that women are notorious for rationalizing their behavior. He states his awareness of this. And plans calculates the most sufficient means to make sure the lesson hits home, and is not rationalized.

Also women in dire situations such as this one, who has nowhere else to go, will at first play the victim to appeal to emotion and activate the male protective instinct as a manipulation tactic. He states his awareness of this and cancels it.

If the professional victim tactic fails, anger will result. At this stage they will resort to any means of manipulation to get their way, sometimes violence, abusive language, including using the system with false charges. If they do find a means of getting their way through nefarious means, they will rationalize that they were right. He states his awareness of this, and covers his ass with the threat of video evidence if she tries to pull any shit.

In the end he got exactly what he wanted, he taught her a lesson in humility and cancelled any opportunity to rationalize her mistakes. He makes her take full responsibility, which is a rare occurrence among women today.

Don't be stupid, don't judge what you do not understand. If this man did what you suggest and just brashly acted without planning, there would be holes for her to exploit. He was emotionally invested in this woman, this is why he invests the time and energy to solidify her wrong doing and make her take responsibility.

2014-08-17T20:48:25+00:00

This isn't RP. Not being Blue Pill doesn't make something "good sexual strategy" or "what you should aspire to do."

This guy knew she would do it. He was so certain of her being a slut and fucking another guy at the first opportunity that he set up a video camera and faked a business trip. The red pill thing to do is if you're instinct tells you she's going to whore around, cut her off. If her character makes you think she's hopping on dick the first second you're on a business trip, WHY BOTHER with this elaborate passive trap scheme just to have your "comeuppance" in the end. Just end the relationship.

The red pill thing to do would have been to never upgrade her from a plate - he did say that he was wary of her wild past. He BP'd himself 3 times as far as I'm concerned because he actually had the RP realization, but refused to follow it to the logical conclusion. He knew she had a wild past, he still LTR'd the ho. He knew she was unreliable, but he let her move in with him, despite thinking that it was a horrible idea. And third, he knew that she wanted to cheat, yet he didn't kick her out at that point, he had to actually watch it to believe it, creating unnecessary drama and pain for himself.

I have only ever seen betas do these elaborate schemes to "catch" their wife / GF cheating. RP guys can understand when they don't have the value / frame to lock down a girl and they just keep her at plate-level, understanding she's a young girl in her sexual prime and he might as well be the cock carousel for her, not the long term provider. In a relationship, if there's warning signs of cheating, they don't have to wait until they set up a scenario to catch the girl sucking his dick - they just go with their gut and cut her out.

Florist_Gump · 2014-08-17T21:53:57+00:00

If by "totally owns" you mean "he barely managed to pull off the very minimal appropriate response", then ok.

His big plan to catch her in the act is to... say nothing and walk out of his own place?

Looks to me like his plan was to have no plan, to expect to wing it, and when the time comes he chickens out and runs from his own castle.

If this story is a fabrication its not a particularly satisfying one, if the author is trying to come across looking good and strong-willed it fails in that attempt.

Ferinex · 2014-08-17T22:27:07+00:00

Why was it a revelation who she was cheating with when the dude walked out of the room? He would have already known who it was from the webcams. I mean, if this weren't just a complete work of fiction, that is.

aa223 · 2014-08-17T14:43:49+00:00

We should introduce him to this place. I think we can learn from his mental fortitude and he can learn about how to put women like that in their place at the beginning.

2014-08-17T14:22:00+00:00

Fucc yeah. Throw that slut out on the street HOE!

2014-08-17T14:58:57+00:00

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Epicwin141 · 2014-08-17T14:46:03+00:00

That was fucking beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.

Snachmo · 2014-08-17T16:10:52+00:00

No comprende what this has to do with TRP. This reads like a romance novel for jilted lovers.

The cover: Fabio sits in the chair, book resting half open. A breeze tosses golden hair. The woman, shocked as to nearly drop her linen shawl is met with piercing eyes, a knowing smirk.

"Shasta knew she could never again taste the musk of such a beast, and wept."

RPSavant · 2014-08-17T16:22:02+00:00

I'm jumping on the bandwagon to call this a work of fiction but I wonder why one would want to prove he is right so badly that he would sit there listening to his GF moaning while her head hits the wall for an hour. why not just break it off before?

2014-08-17T15:39:47+00:00

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cover20 · 2014-08-17T17:04:12+00:00

Three days seems reasonable, although if she was not on the lease, immediately would be OK too. She could get a hotel. Can't afford a hotel? Certainly not his problem.

He was still being considerate to her. He still loved her. I know how that love/hate works. He always did what was best for her even now (but now with the constraint that she must go), it was his habit.

He didn't have to justify quite that much to her, but I guess it's OK. It's unfortunate because, from what we read, it will give her some sense of victory that he loved her more than she loved him. When the honesty impulse comes, guys, resist it.

Night--Writer · 2014-08-17T19:50:23+00:00

Found this...

djsolar36 - You guys know this is a viral promo for a porn site right? That one dude's twitter is some porn company and the "boyfriend" doesn't have any tweets at all prior to this. The whole thing is a marketing ploy

So it might be true or it may not be. I guess we'll have to see when more evidence comes out.

Twitch92 · 2014-08-17T17:20:02+00:00

I'm not even subscribed. Why am I seeing a post from theredpill?? Fuck that.

2014-08-17T16:21:29+00:00

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thegorechild · 2014-08-17T17:21:40+00:00

This isn't really an example of Red Pill. This work of fiction may have helped the author deal with the fact that he was cheated on but as men we need to lead by example.

Lesson here: Red flags all over the place that she's a slut?

Use her for what she's good for and continue to enjoy your life with no strings attached. If you want a girlfriend - find a woman worth dating and be the captain of your relation...ship.

JovianTrainWreck · 2014-08-17T17:32:02+00:00

Judging by the title of this post, I expected something along the lines of him rigging up megaphones and blasting their happy-time noises across the whole fucking neighborhood, and her parents waiting outside with their jaws on the fucking ground.

Even if this shit isn't fake, it sure was disappointing.

2beastings · 2014-08-17T18:51:54+00:00

The fuck...this is clearly someone writing a made up story, or at least how they wanted to situation to go. Who actually believes this shit?

the99percent1 · 2014-08-17T14:55:37+00:00

Should have patched things up with his friend tbh.. He could learnt a thing or two from a guy like that.

Title	Girlfriend cheats while under the assumption of getting away with it, boyfriend totally owns her
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Date	August 17, 2014 12:55 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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