Fuck this hurts so bad

embracingtheredpill · 2019-04-21T13:36:03+00:00

Yup.

You'll get over it, mostly.

Welcome to the Red Pill.

godsbestgift · 2019-04-21T14:22:01+00:00

You must raise your testosterone levels my man, higher testosterone raises your tolerance for every type of difficulty in your life. Lift, Compete in sports with men and THRIVE, fucking various women and taking calculated risks (socially or in business) while finding success. Things won't always go as planned but failure is simply a step before you succeed. Drop your oneitis 100% no contact, no stalking. Whatever bitch you're hung up on, your number one priority is getting over it. Find new distractions, read some of the core red pill books, listen to audio books and obviously i said it before, LIFT YOUR ANGER, SADNESS AND FRUSTRATION OUT. Physical activity WILL alleviate emotional disharmony/turmoil TREMENDOUSLY. Focus on the fundamentals until you become the man you need to be then you can consider the LTR game. Never offer or demand exclusivity, once shes asking for it you know beyond the shadow of a doubt that she considers you the prize. Until you're valued as the prize, its hard to maintain the mentality that "I am the prize". You've been on this sub-reddit longer than I have, I doubt you've gone as deep into the redpill book list but i'm sure you've read double the threads that I have. The only person you need to love is yourself, relying on your brothers for emotional support isn't a bad thing but never trust a woman with your weakness. That will always be the beginning of the end and once the end is in sight, better pull out before you cause even more pain for yourself. My motto is suffering is power. Through great suffering there is great potential for growth. This pain you're feeling is extremely beneficial, you just need to channel the negative emotions into a positive result.

Will_McLean · 2019-04-21T14:06:24+00:00

One RP comment that changed forever the way I see women:

“She’s not yours; it’s just your turn”

RememberingAlpha · 2019-04-21T14:24:58+00:00

You're giving me flashbacks to my epiphany days. You're going to be okay. I will say you have to keep a lot of this in perspective. For example, if your LTR is fucking you lots, there's a good chance you're doing the right things, not necessarily that she's feeling guilty. However, if you go from a dead bedroom to 24/7 fuckfest and you've been on the couch all day, you may have something to worry about.

uwey · 2019-04-21T14:46:46+00:00

You heard this before.

Stop whining, start winning.

When you waste your time, fuck around, drinking, partying, SOMEONE, not you but SOMEONE out there is working hard.

That someone is getting smarter, stronger, and richer than you.

One day he will come and overpower you by his status and money, he will be your boss and you better shut up and do bitch works because you need that salary to survive.

Only because you choose to fuck around and not focus your energy to your own career.

Live free, or live like you are dead.

OfficerWade · 2019-04-21T13:50:15+00:00

You know when it becomes positive? Acceptance. When you stop trying to fix things in the world. When you follow your mission. When you love and are silent. That’s positivity for negative people who are screaming for change.

TheLastCed · 2019-04-21T14:12:08+00:00

Sad how the “liberation” of women destroyed what was one of the pillars of our society: family.

Now we have to move on and adapt ourselves to the current world we live in, and survive.

JamesSkepp · 2019-04-21T14:28:02+00:00

I've been non-stop fluctuating from extreme anger, to depression, bargaining and BP idealism the past 2 days.

You're in the process, don't fight against the feelings, accept them, b/c accepting your feelings will allow you to not-block your thinking. It's raining and you feel bad about it. You can accept it and start adjusting, or resist and say "well i dont feel bad so it's not raining and i wont get wet".

The anger feels righteous

Make sure you don't stop on anger but use it to understand the underlying reasons. Righteous anger, if persisting, will turn you from understanding RP principles to believing in them like a religion.

I'm half caught between finally understanding that my source of emotional fulfillment cannot ever come from a woman nd that this BP idealistic unconditional mommy love will never be given to me by a woman, nor could it ever reach the impossible heights that I would require it to even if it was possible. It's empty and hollow. And she's never loved me. And she never will.

Welcome to the grown up league.

Not in the way that I need it.

That's a BP programming still talking. You imagine you need to be loved in a specific way to be happy. The more you imagine it, the more you still cling to that image, the more angry and hurt you will be when you remember that this is simply not how the m-f relations work. So, cut your losses, and stop clinging to the fantasy that you "should (let alone need to) be loved in a specific way".

FlyGuyMyEye · 2019-04-21T13:38:18+00:00

Don't worry about it, this is all completely normal and it always hurts. In time you'll wonder what all the pain and anguish was about.

The future will be brighter as you'll be armed with useful information from the redpill and if you follow the guidance you'll be the best you and best placed to maximize your life and gain the best experiences.

TheDevilsAdvokaat · 2019-04-21T14:08:34+00:00

Best of luck to you too, mate.

We all get caught like this, because there's such a difference between what society indoctrinates us about women and what the truth is.

Part of growing up is accepting the truth, rather than holding on to pleasant dreams.

Once you do it, it hurts a lot less.

jbpostv · 2019-04-21T14:21:56+00:00

I’m so sorry man this post makes me wanna cry remembering my transition. What you should know is that a lot of TBP is problematic because of its reliance on emotion and sacrifice out of weakness but it doesn’t mean you cannot love a woman. TRP describes the ruthless monster that is human sexuality and people can control it and ignore it to an extent but today many girls control it less and fewer control it at all. We had sexual dynamics on a leash with arranged marriage, prefeminism and serial monogamy. We let go and now we’re dating like the wild animals we deep down are

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-04-21T15:03:36+00:00

Angry that women may not give you the love you so desperately sought? Which is how it should have never been in the first place. That's codependency. It's all going to be ok. You'll still have women...just after you learn to be self-sufficient in all the ways we should have been, anyway.

omega_dawg93 · 2019-04-21T17:10:19+00:00

the only woman that will truly love you for who you are = your mama.

the rest are playing games to 'figure you out,' as the best guy to give her YOUR TAR (time, attention, resources).

that's right... she's playing mind games with YOU in order for you to get weak over her beauty & booty... only to CONTINUE looking for a better deal the whole time she's with you. hypergamy.

correction: she may not ACTIVELY pursue a better deal, but she will consider them, think about them... dream about them, and given the right circumstances, she will indulge in them. but you'll never know bc, "it didn't count," or "what you don't know won't hurt you." never forget, they're not looking for content, they're looking for happy... and happy is NEVER static.

so, instead of whining and crying, create a better you and become a RUTHLESS, uncaring, pussy-getting machine. they play YOUR game or they get the fuck lost.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2019-04-21T21:52:49+00:00

I'm at the same point. I recently got out of a relationship which I thought was going to be my last one. I had plans and thoughts of marrying the girl and spending the rest of my life with her. She ended things with me through a text message. Then she said she didn't want to see me. It's going to be a month since that day on the 26th. I'm at the point where I know we wouldn't have worked, I know the type of relationship and love she needed isn't what I would want from a relationship, and I know we weren't right for each other. But God damn it's annoying.

Getting re-accustomed to being alone, getting used to not having that one person you just want to share your world with, not being able to talk to that one person whenever they pop up in your mind, having more than just pointless sex, all that shit is from a state of emotion. It's not logical in the least.

Our conscious mind and emotional state are at odds. Like the brain and the heart are fighting for supremacy. The good thing is you know you're mistake. You have your facts, and you know how to better yourself. The pain will subside with time. There's nothing you can do about, and it's healthy. If you didn't feel that pain you'd be closer to being a socio/psychopath, narcissist, or have some other kind of mental disorder. Pain means there's something wrong and you need to protect yourself. Without feeling that pain you won't know how to grow or heal.

Good luck man. It'll get better. Just stay strong.

bilabrin · 2019-04-21T18:28:25+00:00

But the upside is that once you know you can act in such a way as to maximize the happiness of both yourself and the women in your life.

Challenge them and lead them. Be successful and motivated in your work and hobbies. Be sincere and direct. Set boundaries and enforce them and never chase. Be calm and unflappable. Keep abundance mentality and amused mastery. Do these things and it will bring out their best, most loyal selves and you can be confident that you'll never have to worry one way or another.

Andgelyo · 2019-04-21T22:10:57+00:00

Welcome. We have been waiting for you.

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-04-21T15:40:58+00:00

To be set free from lies, the truth will have to destroy you first. Only then can you find true happiness and peace

bittr_n_swt · 2019-04-21T15:58:54+00:00

Ahhh welcome to the red pill.

We’ve all been were you were when we started. It sucks real bad at first but eventually you have to come to acceptance and get on with it.

Better you know now than later

slappysq · 2019-04-21T16:17:37+00:00

Now go lift some heavy ass weights.

surethingjanet · 2019-04-21T16:58:17+00:00

Can relate so bad with your post brother, like fuck, stay strong

helenvsgladys · 2019-04-21T19:03:53+00:00

Like breaking up with someone you once loved, breaking up with old ideas is painful and disorienting. And just like that ex, one day you’ll look back at them from a point of growth and feel nothing. Perseverance, dude ✊

DeborahBinLaden · 2019-04-21T15:32:19+00:00

You must be implementing trp in your life and improving. “All reflection and no action leaves you depressed”. You must be improving and getting results or you won’t grow. Apply trp to your life, take responsibility.

This is a hard thing to do but tell yourself your girl would be initiating if you were attractive enough. Get some momentum. You may be in a situation where you need to throw yourself into the deep end- break it off and start spinning plates. You’ll see improvements quicker

TitusDorsus · 2019-04-21T15:47:16+00:00

Don’t worry. It is going to take a certain time depending on how BP you are but on day, you will see trough it, accept it and live with it.

Until this day, lift and improve yourself and your life. Your well being is the goal, not women.

LSDparade · 2019-04-21T14:03:00+00:00

I don't think it's depressing. I think it gives me great comfort knowing how the world works, mostly. I'm still on that journey but I have my goals and I will achieve them.

Hope you can create a healthy lifestyle for yourself like I have.

drgonzo17 · 2019-04-21T14:34:25+00:00

I don’t trust women really, too selfish

AreweonXyet · 2019-04-21T14:46:43+00:00

And then you realize there are a lot of healthy things you can love intensely. Yourself, your goals, your life, friends, the earth, family and even a partner. It’s just not quite the unconditional love you were hoping for, but honestly when you have love coming in from many areas in your life, in my opinion, the emotional balance you achieve is unmatched. It’s not unlike plates being the way out of oneitis; a complete and balanced life is the way out of dependency. Both take a lot of work, but it is worth it.

cluelessguitarist · 2019-04-21T14:49:00+00:00

What doesnt kill you makes you stronger, better to know than to be in lala land.

lolurfucked · 2019-04-21T18:12:23+00:00

It's good for you.

You will be a man soon.

Keep on keeping on, brother.

TruthSeekingPerson · 2019-04-21T22:02:21+00:00

As tough as it was swallowing the red pill, it was pleasant compared to the delusional bliss and resulting depression and cognitive dissonance I felt as a blue pill. And the resulting peace of mind makes me feel like I’m getting closer to finding enlightenment.

Acceptance really will make your life better than it ever was before.

imeannothing · 2019-04-21T18:27:00+00:00

I discovered red pill in september. My life changed, and still changing. I found this from one comment on noFap sub (it was massively downvoted but i checked it anyway). It opened mybl eyes and i am totally thankfull all of you guys for posting. I have so much to learn and feel anger, depression but soometimes really great and this isnthe best feeling ever. Good luck for you OP.

Avicythe · 2019-04-21T23:20:07+00:00

Good luck with your journey bro, But if the shirt hurts just take it off lol

attack_bronson · 2019-04-21T23:52:30+00:00

Rebirth hurts, but it’s so very worth it. Keep it up

Spets87 · 2019-04-22T02:26:58+00:00

No woman will love you like you need is definitely a hard part of the pill to swallow. There is a way out though The person who will love you unconditionally like you need is YOU.

This is what a lot of spiritual practice alludes to. A simple way is to repeat to yourself " I love myself unconditionally" and feel it.

verily_rp · 2019-04-22T16:17:46+00:00

It’s going to hurt, and it’s because you’re literally killing a part of yourself.

But don’t worry. That is the weak part. You are now getting stronger. Embrace it, learn it, and adapt. You will be better equipped to face reality knowing the truth.

Rolling Tomassi has a read on this exact thing. It’s called “killing the beta”. You are now ready for it. This is your next step.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Bmn0kOyEE8

AAThrowaway5 · 2019-04-21T21:09:23+00:00

This is funny quit crying and looking for an emotional blanket.

I'm so opinion you'll never get it until you live it. You can't read about this stuff. You've got to get a top quality AWALT catastrophe... Watch the mystical beast run... Then become educated and armed and then go forth collecting experience to watch the same patterns again, and again, and again.... To "get it"

goblinboglin · 2019-04-21T20:46:57+00:00

Man, I can feel you.

I am going through the same.

I don't know what to do to cope with this...

MagnetoWned · 2019-04-21T22:40:42+00:00

It sounds like you need to find your purpose and passion in life, I understand the transition period is upsetting but I don’t think it should be as dramatic as the post sounds. Find your true passion in life and dump your time into that, you won’t have time anymore to be so affixed on a woman or women in general. Wish you the best!

maverick9759 · 2019-04-22T12:06:16+00:00

Why do my eyes hurt ? Coz you've never used them before.

tackytacos · 2019-04-21T20:33:27+00:00

meh you get used to it. suffer in silence lol

WalterEArmstrong · 2019-04-22T04:20:28+00:00

"And she's never loved me. And she never will. Not in the way that I need it." What kind of "special love" are you tearing yourself apart over?

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-04-22T17:31:16+00:00

Do you have some personal experiences that this is connecting to specifically? Because generally when people learn they are wrong about something as an abstraction, it wouldn't really trigger much emotion - but if there are some recent bad relationships / women cheating in your past then you went from BP to RP, it would trigger a lot of frustration and anger / coping issues to finally confront the reality of WTF was going on.

My point is, do you want to share any specific examples / experiences that connect with what you're learning now? ... and how RP ideas have helped you make sense of what happened?

fcking77 · 2019-04-22T18:25:11+00:00

How should I deal a LTR being a redpiller?

anvorob · 2019-04-23T04:29:07+00:00

“Increasing sex to cope with guilt”? Where can i read more about that, sounds quite interesting.

PortfolioAnalysis · 2019-04-24T12:12:04+00:00

how they'll increase sex with a husband/LTR as a means of coping with guilt.

HOL UP HOL UP HOL UP!

I thought it was the OPPOSITE aka when woman starts fucking another man she does not feel hots for her main man anymore??

So if she doesn't fuck you - she is a slut cucking you with other men

And if she DOES fuck you enthusiastically - she probably is a slut cucking with other men and doing it out of guilt?

For real?

So how the hell do you know if she is ever loyal?

Do we really have to resort to surveillance of some sort? How to know if you are or are not getting cucked?

So if she is being close and loving and you have great sex it still doesn't mean she is loyal?

Come the fuck on

PlatosMisanthrope · 2019-04-27T03:25:42+00:00

Dont pray for an easy life, pray to be a stronger man.

-JFK

sezamus · 2019-05-10T14:56:42+00:00

The thing is, you realize that you were in the matrix called "nature". She programmed you to behave in a certain way. To eat, sleep and fuck. Nature does not care about your happines. You are PROGRAMMED to feel protective over women, you are programmed to fuck, you are programmed to live and to deserve to be loved.

There is no end game nor end goal for existence of life. Just take this nonsense ride, run from suffering and have as much fun as you can.

And then let's die.

Kurush559 · 2019-04-21T19:59:13+00:00

I can't help but ask - how does this whiny rant get over 200 upvotes when it provides 0 useful content in either the form of a field report, advice, sexual strategy, anything at all. It's taken OP 3 years to get to the point of being depressed about reality?

BareMinimumReddit · 2019-04-21T14:21:23+00:00

This does not belong here nor on asktrp. I know the want to vent because I often feel like that. Not having the right place or people to vent to. So instead, be a man about it and accept and move on. Congratulations on the bitter truths and realities that you discovered for yourself

Imhaveapoosy · 2019-04-21T13:35:13+00:00

Reading shit like this makes me hate women. Guess that's why there's so much mommy porn out there. Welp, time to fuck our moms.

(JK, I'm sure there's lots of nice cougars out there though, mmm yeahhh 👅👅👅👅)

Edit: you guys against milfs? 😆

Title	Fuck this hurts so bad
Author	Noblefiz
Upvotes	465
Comments	153
Date	April 21, 2019 1:28 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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