Thank the Lord for Reddit, and its many splendors. TRP is a true boon to men. My story thus far:

My wife went on a little trip with her girlfriends last week, and she arrived back three days ago. In the past, I informed her that not contacting me by phone was an unacceptable behavior, one she had been guilty of numerous times over the course of our relationship of 9 yrs, married 3. Not daily check-ins, just a call to her loving husband saying she arrived and was safe. She's independent, somewhat of a rebel, and reining her in has proved quite difficult thus far, at least until three days ago.

So what does she do? Text me. I specifically asked her to call, which I shouldn't have had to do it the first place, she should have just picked up the damn phone. For a little background, three times since we married, she slept over a friend's house without calling. I of course would have caught hell for this behavior, but she stamped out those pussy passes with a quickness, saying she was just tired, or forgot. I don't have reason to believe she ever cheated, but of course, anything is possible.

So, after she returned, the next morning, the exchange went like this:

Her: Hey, I've gotta go to an appointment. leans in for traditional hug

Me:backing away We can talk when you return.

Her: I have to wait to hug you til I come back?

Me: No, longer.

She asked what was going on, and I told her that her blatant lack of respect was no longer going to be tolerated, so for each of the five days she decided not to call, she was not allowed to make physical contact with me, not even a hand hold. She left for her appointment, slightly rattled I think.

That night she comes in, all respectful like, asking to talk. She apologizes for not calling. I should've known it wasn't in her to accept full responsibility, because she says, "......but I felt........" and she rattles off an excuse about us having a tense conversation the night before she left. I told her all I heard was an excuse. The conversation sputtered after I held my ground, she eventually leaves, frustrated.

Day 2: almost no contact. She was seething.

Day 3: Today, I left early this morning, without informing her, and met a male friend for breakfast. She calls in the middle of it. Now, we live with her elderly grandmother, so when my wife calls, I gotta pick up, could be urgent. She interrupted my hot links and eggs to ask where I was and who I was with, which she literally NEVER does. She hates to appear needy or vulnerable. I told her I was with a male friend so she could have a small peace of mind that I wasn't trying to plate more than breakfast, and I hung up on her, and continued telling my friend about the joy that is TRP.

I get home, she asks to talk. She says it feels like I don't care about her and it's like I'm grounding her. I say good, this is like punishment. She asks why I could feel justified withholding my affection. I said that she withheld her respect from me by not calling me when she's hours away from home, in addition to the other times she failed to call and her general ability to act like an entitled woman. I told her my affection has a price, and that's her respect and devotion and loyalty. I also mentioned that if I was giving up on her, I simply wouldn't give a shit. Long story short, she cried, acquiesced to my frame, told me I was right about everything, and slinked off back to her room.

Come Monday, I will hug and kiss her and tell her I love her, but she gets to finish her sentence this weekend and think about how she will better respect her husband. I have got to thank the awesome folks here at TRP, I'm learning this alpha thing as I go. I've never laid the law down this hard before and it feels UH-MAZIN.

EDIT: Just as I was leaving for work, she flashed a huge smile, asked me about a show we both watch. We had a nice laugh and she wished me good day. 180° change from her attitude on the phone this morning.

EDIT 2: Down voters I'm quite curious. What should I have done differently in your eyes? This feels 100% right, so I gotta say I'm confused. She's responding exactly as I predicted she would. Thoughts?

EDIT 3: I'll eventually do an update post, once this really bears fruit and sinks in.

So what did Day 4 bring? An unsolicited declaration of her wanting my dick, and a nice video of her touching herself. 😄