I've been with my LTR for 3 years now (I'm 32 and she is 26), living together for 4 months (yes, I know don't live with them).
My LTR is really weird about any sort of PDA. I was at the gym with her the other day, I was doing my thing and she was doing hers and I quickly walked by her as I moved to the next exercise and I did a drive-by butt pinch and she got bent out of shape about it. No one could have possibly saw.
We were walking up the stairs in our apartment complex and she was in front of me and I simply grabbed her waist for 2 seconds and kind of squeezed and rubbed her back. She was weird about that too (because of cameras in the stairwell).
Lastly, we were in the pool and she was in the corner and I swam close to her and she got bent out of shape about that too.
We later talked about it and she basically said that she felt like I was trying to make it known to everyone that we are a couple. It was never my intent to make it appear that way, I'm just doing it to do some kino throughout the day. I never saw this as any type of mate guarding or anything. Everything I did was subtle and wasn't to try to show the room that she is my girl.
I ended up giving her a beta DEER response and I apologized for making her feel uncomfortable, just so I didn't have to hear her bitch about it anymore. I literally fell right into her frame and her rules.
Now I feel like I have to walk on egg shells. She is okay with holding hands in public, but anything more than that she gets weird about it. Are some girls just like this and I have to accept it?
Also, a common trend that I see on social media is both guys and girls in relationships are posting photos of themselves in their profile pictures. I honestly don't give a shit about social media all that much anymore, but I just find it odd that in 3+ years of dating and being in an LTR, shes only every uploaded like 2 photos of us. There's a few photos that I've uploaded of us and then a few from other people's uploads.
She doesn't have much on social media to begin with, but wouldn't you think that she would at least have a few photos within the past 3+ years?
Her Facebook profile doesn't show that her and I are in a relationship, unless you click into her about me section. I've learned from TRP to mirror what they do, so after seeing that, I made it so you have to click into the about section as well to see my relationship status.