The light switch effect.

The1ndex · 2019-09-02T01:23:33+00:00

My jaw drops every time. You and I have to remind ourselves of the “right now” concept. She loves me... right now.

Love for a woman is solely emotional and not based on any form of logic.

There is a reason they call the volatile weather Mother Nature, and not Father Nature. Mother Nature will shower you with sunshine, and then one minute later, completely destroy you and everything on the planet.

hedden93 · 2019-09-02T03:02:50+00:00

The hardest thing about my last LTR (of 3 years) was I was just so confused by her behavior. It didn't make any sense to me. She lies, manipulated and was cheating on me for months. When I found out, I broke up and told her to move out. She got suicidal and threatened to kill herself on a daily basis. I was a beta nice guy so I was her emotional tampon for months, trying to make her feel better. The whole time it was eating away at my happiness. The entire time I was helping her not kill herself, she was still texting the guy she cheated on me with (she promised she blocked him) and she was texting him and all her friends that I was an abusive asshole.

I was so fucking confused how after all I did for her, even after what she did to me, that she still tried to make me into an asshole badguy. The extent of the hamster wheeling with drive you angry and confused beyond all doubt. You just gotta be authentically yourself and know she'll do whatever mental gymnastics she needs to in order to justify her behavior. It really is confusing and sobering when it happens to you. Almost impossible not to fully accept the red pill after that.

dasani7 · 2019-09-02T03:30:58+00:00

The light switch effect is completely incomprehensible to us men. I think it's probably the #1 thing that fucks us up about women: their ability to wake up one day and be completely over a guy and not give a shit about him in the slightest. It can even happen in a matter of hours, not even days.

ThirstyWraith · 2019-09-02T01:05:29+00:00

Can't emphasize AWALT enough. I didn't think AWALT, cause blue pill remnants, and was shocked first hand.

Swanniie · 2019-09-02T07:23:07+00:00

When the light switch effect happens, you KNOW there's another guy in the picture. Or 5.

xcalibercaliber · 2019-09-02T05:00:49+00:00

God damnit. I don’t ordinarily say that but I fucking hate and love the words of op and connectors spewing the painful truth my blue pulled asshole rigorously rejected. It is relieving to see and understand but simultaneously profoundly disturbing to see the how and why an LTR of 10+ years of mine disintegrated. God damnit and AWALT. Don’t. Fucking. Level. With. Her. You being honest and open with how you feel is the direct action of you peeling her out of your life. Though technologies improvements are astounding, we as humans really haven’t moved forward that far

ZeppKfw · 2019-09-02T02:07:44+00:00

It’s one of those things you accept, but it still shocks you, because it always seems to get worse and worse. I feel like this would never have happened in the 50’s.

spider_1337 · 2019-09-02T06:10:39+00:00

Ive shared this a couple times but ill share it again. One day the girl i was seeing hinted at wanting exclusivity. I was still vetting and being cautious. That day we have a date and she looks me in the eyes and tells me she loves me( i love you right now). The weekend comes up and she leaves town to visit a cousin or something. I believe it was a little less than a week when she tells me that she "met someone else". I said ok since i already knew. Her friend for whatever reason had told me she ended up liking the guy she met out of town and was currently on the road to go see him. I remember i casually asked "On the road? You mean he lives far or what haha? To which she replies "Yeah he lives on another state."

Huh thats funny. You cant really make this shit up tbh.

Balea2019 · 2019-09-02T04:47:13+00:00

Actually evolution selected but these traits in opposite, women needed to light switch in order to accept when their tribe was conquered by new men, those who didn't died in battle and their genes didn't reproduce. For men, those who would be harder to change their feelings, got positively selected because they were most likely to take care of the offspring

Abnull · 2019-09-02T02:31:23+00:00

AWALT, it's just the way woman are, they can't do anything about it. Don't blame them for it. Blame the people who should of taught you about it.

It's not being cold, it's just normal. You can't tell me you wouldn't leave your average girlfriend for a supermodel if you had the chance. Or date both.

All men act in a certain way too. We just don't need to leave our current partner to get a new one.

Warren_Bateman · 2019-09-02T08:52:13+00:00

Immune? Hell no.

But I’ll be damned before they see it affect me.

Wait until it happens to you and your ex rewrites your entire history together. That time you planned her birthday party? Omg, You were so controlling! That time you went to seaworld together? He hated the whales! That time when she started branch swinging and you expressed your displeasure? He was always so jealousss!

It’s gaslighting to the highest degree and it’s the best evidence in the world about how she sees you - someone else in this sub put it succinctly, “she doesn’t think about you at all, you’re just a prop on the stage that is their solipsistic lives”.

When it’s your turn, you’re the light of her life. When your turn is over, you’re history is just attention fodder.

Edit: grammar

Truedemocracy5 · 2019-09-02T03:16:54+00:00

Light switch would be more like breaking up within 2 weeks of a job loss. But months? That will ruin any relationship

Here’s a quote for you. If you’re in a relationship or married the second you lose a job the countdown of your relationship has begun

asorals · 2019-09-02T01:16:13+00:00

Although TRP has opened my eyes to the true nature of women I still tend to become shocked and puzzled at how they act.

All I can put it down to is lack of experience after having my eyes opened. I probably haven't digested the pill yet. Only once you've digested it do you become immune I'd say.

It's almost as if you'd need to have a few experiences that numb you to it all after you've been shown the light initially.

agjrpsl · 2019-09-02T02:33:50+00:00

Women are cold blooded creatures. Never trust them.

life036 · 2019-09-02T05:44:21+00:00

I'm still left a little speechless when I read or hear stories like that. I'm mostly immune to that kind of shit happening to me because I never allow myself to be put in that kind of position, so while I'm "safe", I still feel pangs of empathy for the poor fools that allow themselves to get stepped on like that.

LucKygg · 2019-09-02T13:23:50+00:00

“Just be yourself” & “You’re fine just the way you are”.

Two of the biggest lies told in modern day. This is an example of a guy who unfortunately isn’t mentally ready to be in and deal with a LTR. But it still sucks to read and I hope he gets help and gets better. He’s the perfect candidate for TRP.

aWorldBornDead · 2019-09-02T15:05:07+00:00

My sisters are both married and have kids age 8 to age 18. If one of them did that to their husband/children I'd cut them off forever. It doesn't matter if it's family, cancer is cancer and needs to be excised. Thankfully, one is conservative and one is liberal but are both dedicated to giving their children the best life possible.

teabagabeartrap · 2019-09-02T08:32:47+00:00

Really harsh truth. Yes. Indeed.

Good to learn from others instead of yourself. That stuff will crush you, if it hits you unprepared.

I want to use this thread to ask a question too: I see from time to time woman, who will stick with a guy, that has nothing to offer. But I don't understand what it is.

Example: She is a doctor, and he has a low position in military (because he needs someone who tells him what to do), is switching jobs because he fails at them too often, has lower income than her, has no real social circle and she tells everybody that she needs to be strong for both of them in the relationship and she hates it.

What are reasons woman stick to such guys anyway? Maybe that is something I can incorporate as well to increase SMV, but as long as I look... I can#t find anything. But they are still together for nearly 8 years now...

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-09-02T09:09:52+00:00

IDK if you may appreciate this but I'm here to offer a woman's perspective.

Your sister left that guy after he lost his job. I do not blame her. When I met my ex, he was in a motorcycle accident. He went on short term disability. I also moved in with him because we were in love and I was a good girlfriend.

And then he started to change. He began accusing me of cheating. He began to treat me like shit. IDK what happens to folks when they lose their jobs. It was like a switch flipped. His personality changes.

Forgive me for also saying this but nobody enjoys paying for another human being who's being an ASSHOLE to you. Mine was a complete asshole and didn't even help around the house. Tell me. Why should I stick around when someone else treats you like crap, when all you did was support them?

Why should I be unhappy?

anotherchump99 · 2019-09-02T11:30:48+00:00

I'm not sure this applies only to women. I think it is just general human nature to have this light switch effect playing out.

You don't see it in man predominantly because you don't need anything from your male friend and you are not reliant on him.

But imagine if your business partner, boss and even your father broke down and cried his eyes out like a little bitch, I am sure you will respect and trust him less in general. Humans in general react to this loss of frame in man in a negative way.

What do you think, OP?

nidham21 · 2019-09-02T06:56:14+00:00

Well they want security so, the best thing can happen is if she was married to him and afraid of society to shame her for cheating and leaving him, this modern area of polygamy relationship is really silly.

Cryptoguru777 · 2019-09-02T13:31:10+00:00

Well, he broke frame and ended up jobless. You can't blame the girl entirely - this is their nature which you already acknowledged.

Jetrous · 2019-09-02T16:59:05+00:00

As with everything, you'll get used to it, with time. Another question is, should you? Always be aware of all intersexual mechanics we read about here. Never get comfortable, always be on your guard. Witnessing it on your close ones could be hard, but that more important to internalize.

red_matrix · 2019-09-02T17:33:08+00:00

She branch swung earlier and was cheating...she was exposed to him for a while that’s how the chameleon effect works. She didn’t one day wake up and become spiritual, she was taking that dick up her ass when she saw god and decided the old boyfriend is out and the new one is in...deep inside. Now she mimics the new boyfriend...until someone better comes along. AWALT!

LeEbinConchShell · 2019-09-02T23:38:43+00:00

The girl who took my virginity at 17 was a rave whore. she did all kinds of drugs. when our mutual friend started dating a 6ft, 12 inch dicked, drug dealer she literally relentlessly tried to pursue this guy right in front of my eyes. I fought it for alittle while, asking her "how can you do this to me?" I couldn't process how my emotional investment all the """memories""" were not taken into account, the complete indifference to my mental anguish. I just pumped and dumped her friends and any bitch in the periphery out of anger. I didn't find TRP until i was 23, but thank god. Everything I was vaguely aware of was now organized, typified, indexed, categorized. Hate or love the internet, but thank god for this shit.

infamous3238 · 2019-09-07T20:13:43+00:00

She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn...

Once you internalize this, it no longer should surprise you. It’s a matter of not if but when.

Crediting · 2019-09-02T11:31:24+00:00

What do we teach here? Reality.

What did you fail to accept? Reality.

AND THEN what did you do? You poured your own inability to accept reality onto us, in the very first sentence.

There's a sidebar and enough material that you don't ever have to post tbh.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-09-02T11:47:08+00:00

This is far from a light switch. And have you called her out on her bullshit yet?

pablo_outlaw · 2019-09-02T23:03:02+00:00

I care a lot but when(if) mine does that, I'm gonna switch her lights off. Wish me good luck for this not to happen.

5hr00m · 2019-09-05T19:11:34+00:00

The love of a woman towards a man is always conditional. She loves you as long as she respects you, when the respect is gone so is the love.

Estrogenoxygen · 2019-09-23T00:06:22+00:00

How cold people can be men and women. Trp to me is about becoming more immune to outside influence.

TheLongerCon · 2019-09-02T02:08:13+00:00

I honestly don't blame her. Would you blame a man from wanting to dump his women if she got fat, or stop fucking him?

And that "I'm going to kill myself shit" just proved her right that he was weak as fuck.

Lateralanouncer · 2019-09-02T03:58:18+00:00

I’m very immune. Obviously it’s a shock to have to get off my fat ass to find pussy.

For me there is nothing to be upset about. If my familiarity around my woman causes me or her to loose attraction. My turn is over. I get to Fuck something hotter. Uglier, fatter and skinnier younger and older. Work on Self. Go on holiday. Do what I want.

Also your sister did the right thing. He was down and She had 2 options. help him through it. Or if he is a crying beta male. branch swing. Like we shouldn’t invest our time into damaged goods sluts. Your sister shouldn’t wast her time on a crying damaged goods boy.

Ant1matter8 · 2019-09-02T14:09:34+00:00

Everyone can be cold, in fact, by nature, men are much colder than men due to lowered empathy and high testosterone, yes some bitchy women exist.

I never heard of the light switch effect but it makes sense to an extent but it is not because women are women so that's why it happens but it happens to any person with high emotionality.

Deep emotions = unreliable = shifting = light switch effect.

No it doesn't leave me shocked, bothered or anything of that sort, i don't care about that, people get raped everyday, killed , butchered , children get molested and killed so this kind of thing is not surprising.

Title	The light switch effect.
Author	Lightways434
Upvotes	282
Comments	83
Date	02 September 2019 01:00 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/251684
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/cyi671/the_light_switch_effect/

The light switch effect.

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Cross post from the sister sub. The shit I lived through and have found independence from. Happy 4th of July.

Independence should be mentioned and celebrated more than just one day a year. We should live it daily. Independence from marriage should be declared by all.

Independence should be mentioned and celebrated more than just one day a year. We should live it daily. Independence from marriage should be declared by all.