Q4ALL: Are attractive people better or worse in bed? What does logic suggest? What does your experience say?

cocovioletta · 2018-06-15T12:28:22+00:00

How about a different answer? Typically those who have been in several long term relationships tend to be the best. The guy who's never had a GF but only cares about plating, or the guy who's only had 1 GF typically don't fare as well as guys who've committed more in the past.

benjybutton · 2018-06-15T12:41:40+00:00

Formerly “ugly duckling”/now attractive men are pretty good in bed. It’s a combination of not getting any attention or having sex for so long, a desire to learn and please, and generally being more enthusiastic in bed.

it_takes_the_redpill · 2018-06-15T12:11:32+00:00

What correlates to good in bed for me is how feminine they are. The awkward girls who don't really understand how to touch a man casually are often the ones that are somewhat awkward sexually, too. They seem to have a harder time letting go, enjoying the moment, etc.

I've been with hot girls that were terrible. I've been with a fat girl who was accepted her body, was feminine as hell, and one of the best/most enthusiastic lays of my life.

I've had girls who couldn't do anything but starfish out of nervousness for some reason. Like they couldn't figure out how to just be in the moment and remmeber that they actually need to contribute to the act by either active participation or a willingness to let me take control.

That said I find attractiveness certainly has had a correlation to their self confidence, which I believe is responsible for enabling them to be good sexually.

it_takes_the_redpill · 2018-06-15T12:01:28+00:00

Ugly men have limited experience to become good, so I dont think they are the best. In my experience, when the woman was below me in SMV was the time when she was the most submissive, kinky and enthusiastic

wtknight · 2018-06-15T14:56:13+00:00

Hornier women are better in bed, which has nothing to do with their attractiveness. As for men, I have no idea, but I’m guessing that women would say that attentive men are better in bed, which also has nothing to do with attractiveness.

quicklogaccount · 2018-06-15T11:57:17+00:00

My experience ends up being remarkably inconclusive man. People that WANT to be good in bed end up becoming but I guess few people want to.

S1imdragxn · 2018-06-15T13:11:18+00:00

My experience is that they're all different.

And as a lengthy aside, I think that what seems to be a growing (?) belief that certain types of people - objectively attractive people are crap in bed 'because entitlement!'/average attractiveness people are good in bed 'because they're grateful!' - is nonsense which is perpetrated by a combo of the sexually inexperienced, the immature, and those (blissfully) unaware that they're so given over to consumerism they need to categorise everyone/everything...because people could hardly be individuals, could they? I mean, how would one cope if meeting someone who emotionally and physically can't be neatly labelled?! Woe.

[deleted] · 2018-06-15T13:31:15+00:00

Logic suggests more attractive men and women should be better in bed. They have more opportunities for sex, skill and technique development, and interpersonal interactions.

My experience is that it's a mixed bag. For the most part, more attractive women are not as good in bed as less attractive women. Getting sex is effortless for them. They can just lie back and let him do all the work. They don't have to develop skill or learn how not to be bitches. They can afford to be bitches. They don't have to learn how to get good at sex because all sorts of men from the most to the least attractive are throwing dick at them 24/7/365. And those men will put up with her mediocrity and cuntiness because she's hot.

Entropy-7 · 2018-06-15T13:12:00+00:00

The majority of 8 or 9 women are passive, which is to say "boring" unless you create a more interesting narrative.

At worst, you have to play clown game and entertain them all the way from the bar to the bed.

The thing is, I have BDSM tendencies. That is how I get my jollies, and I get them with those 8s and 9s because they are so boring otherwise.

That should be past tense. I married a 6/7 and she is everything I need in bed (albeit not everything I want).

cattermelon34 · 2018-06-15T13:30:07+00:00

Best looking guy I had sex with (and biggest penis) was a total dead fish. Lie there and make me do all the work.

But I went back two more times so those were on me.

My fiance is the best sex I've ever had, though. He knows what I like.

SweeterPickles · 2018-06-15T13:59:48+00:00

Physical attraction is a horrible way to judge how someone will be in bed. I’ve had great, mind blowing sex with hot girls and plain girls, and I’ve also had mediocre sex with hot girls and plain girls.

It all comes down to enthusiasm and passion, which really you’ll only find once you’re in the throes.

couldbemage · 2018-06-15T15:08:18+00:00

Haven't noticed any connection. I've know girls that were both great and terrible at both ends of the attractiveness scale. Hottest partner ever was moderately good, but far from great.

L0git3x · 2018-06-16T05:01:19+00:00

There is no correlation other than in your mind.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-06-15T12:13:23+00:00

Honestly doubt it makes much difference. I know there's stereotypes around this but I've personally seen not much correlation.

The literal 10 I was with once was pretty starfishy but then we were both 17 and virgins before we met each other so yeah no shit we didn't exactly have skillz. I was shit as well.

As you gain experience it becomes more of a compatibility thing really.

Mr_Smoogs · 2018-06-15T11:45:40+00:00

My experience says that sluts are the best in bed.

kandyapplez · 2018-06-15T15:09:07+00:00

The only correlation I've noticed in this is that super strong/athletic guys are the best. They can really ragdoll you and they can take a beating too...

PPD-Angel · 2018-06-15T11:57:14+00:00

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Asterix88 · 2018-06-15T13:19:30+00:00

How are you defining "better in bed"?

themormonchurch · 2018-06-15T14:38:42+00:00

i've never been with an unattractive woman in bed so i couldn't tell you

[deleted] · 2018-06-15T14:46:20+00:00

in my experience, attractive women are better in bed, but because they inspire me more

DareyFathom · 2018-06-15T14:58:19+00:00

I haven't found any correlation one way or the other. In my experiences, two different gymnast girls have been the best in bed. Though that's probably just my personal preference for petite, flexible, and easily dominated. I also find I don't like taller girls at all.

carefreevermillion · 2018-06-15T16:03:42+00:00

There are two things that make a guy good in bed - really good mental game (dirty talking, kink, dominant behavior) and really good physical game (optimal hands / mouth / hip movement).

It has nothing to do with their overall attractiveness.

passepar2t · 2018-06-15T17:04:20+00:00

In my experience, the sex was better when the girls were hotter.

DerelictCruiser · 2018-06-15T21:11:57+00:00

In regards to men, being good in bed, like any skill it is largely a matter of repetition. Who gets the chance to put in the most reps? Attractive men.

Interestingly, the opposite seems to be true in regards to women. Attractive women have an endless amount of options, so absolute sexual skill is not a necessity. They seem to (generally) have more of a "take it or leave it" attitude about their prowess.

However unattractive women have no advantage with their looks, a large amount of them are already self-inflicting dread, so the desire and will to improve in bed is always there.

There's a common-if-crude phrase about overweight women giving the best oral sex with the implication being because they "have to".

poppy_blu · 2018-06-15T22:11:35+00:00

No correlation to looks. Skill for men is correlated to experience, control and just how much he gives a shit about pleasing you. Only been with two women so I cant really speak to that.

S1imdragxn · 2018-06-16T01:04:37+00:00

Girls need to just be able to turn on and I won’t complain

Guys need to be strong enough to effortlessly lift her up and throw her around. Unless you’re in one of those liberal relationships where the guy gets pegged

waxedmintfloss · 2018-06-16T02:30:54+00:00

Worse, according to my experience and that of my male friends.

You get the starfish and the jackhammer. Sex between two hot people must be so boring.

[deleted] · 2018-06-16T13:34:42+00:00

My experience is that attractive women are better generally - with some exceptions. I've had FWBs who who were less attractive than me and who were aware of it, and they displayed a much higher level of effort and assertiveness than the average sexual partner. Other than that - attractive women generally are much more confident and relaxed in my experience.

exhibitionistcouplez · 2018-06-16T17:16:12+00:00

This is entirely up to personality and experience. The only real correlation there is that attractive people have more potential opportunity than unattractive people to get experience.

Eastuss · 2018-06-15T15:19:50+00:00

Men who are as attractive as me are absolute sex gods ;) obviously

exit_sandman · 2018-06-15T12:29:07+00:00

For women: since most women get sex anyway with little effort, I'd say that below average women are more likely to be good, at least in an "anything goes"-manner. It's basically the incentive-system which I am so fond of: unattractive women are more incentivized to pull all tricks in the book so they can get more guys going for them and also staying with them. This doesn't mean that hot women are never naughty - it's just that hot women who have no intrinsic motivation to be naughty are less likely to get into a situation where they develop in that direction.

For men... well,it's difficult to say. Hot guys get more practice, but are also less incentivized to care for the pleasure of their partner because they can afford to do so.

Title	Q4ALL: Are attractive people better or worse in bed? What does logic suggest? What does your experience say?
Author	DifferentNecessary0
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Date	June 15, 2018 11:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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