Why faithfulness of men is so much important to women? Is it a social construct, or is it about the man's resources exclusivity?

dragoness_leclerq · 2017-01-20T11:54:13+00:00

In my opinion, it's a little of both and then some.

If we all lived in a society where male sexual infidelity was the norm I'm certain many more women would readily accept this as just "the way things are". Doesn't mean they'd like or be okay with it, but I'm willing to bet you hear far less outrage about it and fewer divorces.

However, to me me personally, male sexual fidelity is about "resource exclusivity", as well as respect, attraction and sacrifice. If I agree to be married and never touch a young, hot 24yr old - with all his looks and stamina - again, I would expect my husband to do the same. And I think a lot of women feel this way. Especially in today's world where people marry based on things like love and mutual attraction, rather than just resources.

BubbleAndSqueakk · 2017-01-20T09:02:46+00:00

Isn't faithfulness important to everyone in a relationship? There are so many horror stories of women cheating on both TRP and reddit as a whole.

wtknight · 2017-01-20T12:25:35+00:00

It's not just about resources. It's about emotional investment into a relationship too. When a man cheats on a woman, it hurts her emotionally. She no longer sees herself as being as beautiful and desirable as she was when he first committed to her. All of the things that she did for him are now being taken for granted by him.

Sandralees · 2017-01-20T08:38:03+00:00

It's definitely not about resource exclusivity since the relationship often fails (and the woman leaves) even when the man claims it didn't mean anything.

nemma88 · 2017-01-20T08:46:38+00:00

Being cheated on FEELZ BAD.

Possibly one of the worst emotional states there is.

I think men feel it too, but can not assume.

louplop · 2017-01-20T09:02:38+00:00

its a social construct. Normally i'd love if my boyfriend fucked other gals regularly, but feminists have brainwashed me. :(

Saint_Chad_of_Mercia · 2017-01-20T08:36:44+00:00

If a youngish woman is not overweight or excessively ugly, then 90% of men will have unconditional sex with her, if the opportunity arises.

However, a man would only commit to a small minority of these women, unless he is desperate.

The problem for women is that a man's actions and behaviours are almost identical, whether he wants just sex or is interested in something more. So she is constantly looking for some kind of guarantee that he's more than just sexually involved with her, if there is some kind of ambiguity to the relationship.

rulenumber303 · 2017-01-20T10:40:37+00:00

Well resources are part of it, but it is about more than just resources. A healthy household in any place larger than a large village is going to have some fairly tight boundaries around it all the time, and especially while children are being raised. You can't have people just walking on in and possibly settling to stay based upon casual sex... that is one of the ways kids end up dead or molested, there being a revolving door of strangers into the household. Now of course one can say "well have the casual sex away from home" but then you end up with the wage-earning parent/s barely seeing his or her kids and why bother even being together then?

anitapk · 2017-01-20T10:46:12+00:00

I'm an outlier (cucquean fantasies) but what's important is resources. Don't pay to fuck, don't dine her, don't get her pregnant, don't fall in love, don't stick your dick in crazy, don't get her gifts. Besides that be discreet and make sure no one knows especially me.

haikufun · 2017-01-20T12:30:46+00:00

Having society based on loose harems is chaotic. Stds, decreased child care, and increased poverty rates is enough for me to want a large segement of society in monogamous relationships.

EchoZeroEleven · 2017-01-20T16:27:03+00:00

Not everyone enjoys sharing their toys.

Not everyone enjoys being shared.

redpillwakeup · 2017-01-20T14:40:15+00:00

The reason women seek faithfulness in men is because women's physical attractiveness jade way faster than men. That's why they rely on men's faithfulness when they are not physically attractive as they used to be.

How many times have you heard a woman says "he just wants to have sex with me" It's really common to hear, but the gold hiding behind this line is that the woman who says it KNOWS beside sex she can't not attract this guy. The traits, virtues, or the awesome personality she considers she has will not draw the man to her. Only sex. That's what it drives her crazy and spit that famous "He just wants to have sex"

Actually a man says I just want to have fun(sex) is very similar to a woman says "Let's just be friend"

rulenumber303 · 2017-01-21T00:41:57+00:00

I couldn't bear the thought of him having sex with another woman, whether a lover or a prostitute. Sex is very, very important to me. If he's having sex with other women, that's less sex for me. And then there's the ick factor of thinking of his penis touching another woman's vagina. It would make me not want sex with him again, and as I said, sex is very important to me.
If he also loves the other woman/women, then he has less love and time for me. And love and time together is very, very important to me.

So his faithfulness is important because without it, I don't want him.

EliteSpartanRanger · 2017-01-23T19:14:34+00:00

Because if a couple agrees to monogamy, then being faithful is a sign of trustworthiness which is important.

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BeyondTheLight · 2017-01-20T08:35:51+00:00

Mostly about the stereotype that children are hurt by it, as women have the image of being the primary caretakers of said children, so naturally they are going to need a man to take care of the family. If I had to guess anyway. Not quite sure what the point of this post is. Faithfulness compared to what or in what instance?

[deleted] · 2017-01-20T11:47:05+00:00

The 2nd one

prodigy2throw · 2017-01-20T14:43:58+00:00

It's an evolutionary trait.

SetConsumes · 2017-01-20T17:44:06+00:00

Pussy is what helps catch a man's heart and love, by fucking other women, women fear that other pussy will capture his heart, and she'll lose her nest slave.

More than resource exclusivity, the greater fear is losing his resources and the control over him entirely.

despisedlove2 · 2017-01-20T22:40:05+00:00

Resource exclusivity.

Women want it without reciprocation.

Entropy-7 · 2017-01-20T23:56:29+00:00

I think that evo psyche says that tend to be polygynous and women are ok with that if they have guaranteed access to resources. Monogamy is a more recent phenomenon and the free-for-all we have now is only about 50 years old.

Men cannot ensure paternity unless the woman is faithful while woman always know that a child is theirs. Even when you don't have "cheating" involved, it seems that more people - of either gender - are more comfortable with an FFM threesome than with an MFM threesome.

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Eastuss · 2017-01-20T12:40:49+00:00

Women have an innate fear of being left after their fertility fades. So a man who is not monogamously committed has a greater likelihood of bailing on a woman after she hits the wall. The evo psych explanation would be that such a man will get other women pregnant and then his resources will be split between multiple women's children, thereby lowering the fitness of the first woman's genetic lineage.

Of course women are no longer monogamous, instead engaging in "serial monogamy" aka hypergamy, yet they still expect men to be monogamous and this has been built in to our legal system. Which demonstrates that it is women who rule. Who can you not criticize? It's certainly totes cool to criticize men. What happens if you do that to women? Oh yeah you lose your job and are shunned.

Title	Why faithfulness of men is so much important to women? Is it a social construct, or is it about the man's resources exclusivity?
Author	Eastuss
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Date	January 20, 2017 8:18 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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