Q4Men: Would you marry an ex porn star?

czerdec · 2016-08-12T15:42:12+00:00

Nope. Anyone with a career in porn obviously does NOT have the same PoV on sexuality that I do. And that makes her not so perfect in my mind.

dopesk1 · 2016-08-12T19:54:35+00:00

Hell no. Sex would be nothing to her anymore.

Plus hotdog down a hallway.

Ultramegasaurus · 2016-08-12T15:47:34+00:00

If it absolutely did not influence her character or pair-bonding capability, okay. But that's fantasy.

MagicGainbow · 2016-08-12T16:30:46+00:00

Nope, not even is she were the embodiment of my perfect woman looks wise.

BriddickthFox · 2016-08-12T20:55:14+00:00

No. I wouldn't want my friends, family, our kids' classmates, or the general public to be able to put my wife's name into google and see 50 different videos of 50 different dudes shooting her face with dick butter. Call me old fashioned...

GaiusScaevolus · 2016-08-12T15:32:40+00:00

No.

She can't be what I consider a 'perfect partner' and still have a decision process that leads her to do porn.

Nude modeling I might be okay with.

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T17:35:54+00:00

That assumption is incompatible with any possible reality.

Also, either you have standards or you don't. If not being with a former porn star is a standard than its all there is to say.

GoldPilot · 2016-08-12T18:58:49+00:00

Sure, I'd marry an ex-porn star. If we share common ground in other areas, I enjoy her company, and she's a "perfect partner," then previously being in the porn industry doesn't disqualify her. Hell, it might be interesting to learn about how the porn industry actually functions, if she's cool with talking about her experiences.

ozymandias271 · 2016-08-12T15:58:21+00:00

Probably not.

The type of person who is inclined to the lifestyle of a pornstar or an escort or any other type of sex work would be a pretty terrible match for me.

I'm a pretty basic guy. Just call me Beta Bob. I'm the sure the head she'd give would be stellar and she'd be a freak, but that's not anywhere near enough to compensate for a lack of compatibility, at least in a relationship.

super-commenting · 2016-08-12T22:45:02+00:00

No. Knowing that the girl I was married to had a history of having sex with other guys on camera for money would cause me a great deal of distress.

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T23:35:47+00:00

Nah. And I genuinely got nothing against 'em as people. Few escorts in my social circle and they're awesome. Best people to chill out with. Always got drugs too.

But me personally I don't even sleep around when given easy opportunities because I like sex to be an emotional thing. Obviously we'd have a very different view of sex so that wouldn't jive with what I'm after in a serious LTR, personally.

bornredd · 2016-08-12T16:14:57+00:00

No, because I won't get married again.

However, I would have an LTR with an ex porn star (assuming my life changed such that my wife was no longer in it) given a few things:

What you listed in your post
When she looks at me, she is filled with desire
She meets my odd sexual predilections (lots of porn stars don't)
I see behavior indicating little to no chance of infidelity on her part

hyperrreal · 2016-08-12T15:33:10+00:00

Yeah I would. The sex work does not bother me, and in every other way it's an ideal match.

TheSonofLiberty · 2016-08-12T17:50:46+00:00

No, but she could be a FWB type situation

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T18:39:02+00:00

cxj · 2016-08-12T21:08:57+00:00

Probably not. Don't think I could get over it, and it would be so awkward to introduce her to family and shit. And having a wedding..... fuck I don't think so. Also kids and shit?

gasparddelanuit · 2016-08-12T22:22:17+00:00

No, but then I wouldn't marry anyone.

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T22:40:14+00:00

Loyal

She fucks men for money, that's about as disloyal as you can get. I would never marry an ex-pornstar, I've got more self-respect (or am insecure enough depending on how you look at things) to do something like that.

exit_sandman · 2016-08-13T02:48:13+00:00

I mean is she financially responsible? Cause I feel like the type of chick that does porn for a living might actually a decent amount of money before they hit 30.

I guess that would make me a gold digger but I don't really care.

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T15:46:40+00:00

If I loved the person and we got along well, yeah sure, why not

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T16:24:58+00:00

Yes. I don't see the issue, really.

questioningwoman · 2016-08-12T16:34:15+00:00

Marriage...

Assuming no divorce rape possibility in this hypothetical, it really depends on her.

If I discover she was an ex-porn star/prostitute/etc after and she was playing some virgin BS and I find out later, she's 100% off the bus. She needs to extremely open and very secure about it.

Like, she references something about being an Ethical Slut, bonobo ethology, cites sources from the Kinsey Institute that she works for, while extoling the virtues of polyamory and wisdom of Kama Sutra techniques, we might be onto something dangerously fascinating.

Noxin__Nixon · 2016-08-12T16:47:51+00:00

Sure. Why not?

ProbablyBelievesIt · 2016-08-12T15:34:22+00:00

Intelligent

Sounds good.

Perfect partner

I'm in. The fact that she scares off hypocrites is just a bonus, even if it saves me the trouble.

[deleted] · 2016-08-12T18:59:45+00:00

No.

Because you'll never get the sex from a porn star, only the 'girl she is now' which tends to not be sexually awesome like that anymore, becuase she's a good girl now

mrcs84usn · 2016-08-13T00:17:50+00:00

Would you marry ~~an ex-pornstar~~ at all?

No

DaphneDK · 2016-08-13T02:05:14+00:00

If she entered into the profession as a series of unfortunate life situations, then yes. If she's one of those middle class women who did it to empower or explore her sexuality or some such shit, then no.

Incidentally, /r/casualiama is overflowing from women who posts on how their stint at prostitution was the most exiting period of their life.

despisedlove2 · 2016-08-13T04:16:15+00:00

n-count > 3 or 4 => she isn't loyal, and can't actually bond with you. Just faking it.

[deleted] · 2016-08-13T06:32:55+00:00

I am a bisexual man. I have stories from my late teens and early 20s that make me blessed I never had an STI. I am also obviously more open minded to things than most. That said, I am secure so I don't need the feedback on that initial detail. It was pertinent to this situation.

satanic_hamster · 2016-08-13T07:40:26+00:00

Anarchkitty · 2016-08-13T07:47:22+00:00

Absolutely, except I'm not really the marrying type. Totally have an LTR though.

Entropy-7 · 2016-08-13T10:52:32+00:00

Covivant, maybe; wife? No.

[deleted] · 2016-08-13T13:35:03+00:00

Well I won't marry anyone but if marriage suddenly no longer involved a court system designed to steal men's money then sure. I dated one for a few months last year. She was really nice.

[deleted] · 2016-08-13T15:15:42+00:00

How much money does she have?

exit_sandman · 2016-08-13T20:57:27+00:00

No. Don't want to, even if she was perfect otherwise, which is a pretty outlandish idea to begin with (perfect people don't get into porn in the first place, sorry).

And even if I didn't have personal objections, I still wouldn't want to because I don't want my children (or my children's friends), or any person we're in contact with for that matter, one day stumble over her work.

czerdec · 2016-08-13T23:59:20+00:00

Yeah, provided I have good reason to believe monogamy is important to her. If her porn work comes from making a nymphomania issue work in her favor, then maybe not. If she's done with that life, for realz, then OK.

Edit: It's kind of a dumb question, because it's really about your attitude to risk. I'll go out on a limb here and say that ex-porn stars probably cheat on their husbands more often than ex-secretaries.

Obviously, if the only thing you know about a person is that she used to do porn, that's probably a flag to consider. You should probably think more carefully about the possibility of infidelity than you would with an ex-nurse.

aanarchist · 2016-08-14T12:33:54+00:00

pretty sure we all would except the problem is that ex porn stars tend to be not loyal, sti free, physically attractive, intelligent, have their own money, and generally be a perfect partner. they're usually serious headcases and looking for a bail out.

you're basically writing a hypothetical fantasy that has 0 documented cases of actually existing. any man would be happy with a woman who is attractive and treats him well and doesn't let the past become his problem. problem is these women are very few and far in between, whether they're porn stars or not.

Weatherman_Phil · 2016-08-15T21:03:52+00:00

Fuck no. I don't think anyone in their right mind would.

Jewdius_Maximus · 2016-08-15T21:29:59+00:00

"Daddy the other kids made fun of me at school saying mommy is a filthy sluzbag whose been gang banged on film by an entire football team.... What's a gang bang?"

This is a conversation I never wish to have. So no I would not marry a "reformed" porn star.

prodigy2throw · 2016-08-12T16:06:11+00:00

Not a chance.

If a woman can't figure out a more respectable way to make money then I want nothing to do with her dumb ass.

Especially if we have kids, imagine the bullying and embarrassment when kids find her vids on the Internet.

Not to mention the daddy issues, the battle hardened pussy, bumping into random dudes that seen her get fucked on camera.

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[deleted] · 2016-08-12T17:00:30+00:00

I wouldn't marry anyone so no

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BPremium · 2016-08-12T15:35:52+00:00

What type of porn? Lesbian, solo stuff, softcore? I'd consider it. Gangbangs, interracial, the more extreme stuff? Gross. Never in a million years. In general, id never marry one. Maybe getting to bang one would be fun, depending on how good the actress is.

Title	Q4Men: Would you marry an ex porn star?
Author	yo_radical_one
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Comments	122
Date	August 12, 2016 3:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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