How do you behave when in the presence of a very sexually attractive man?

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-12-10T17:45:14+00:00

Do you think any of this stuff is done consciously?

In order to answer honestly, I’d have to watch videos of myself taken around very attractive and not attractive men

Texastentialism · 2019-12-10T17:51:58+00:00

I get really nervous and flustered and usually embarrass myself.

When I was younger the guys I liked usually thought I DIDN'T like them because I constantly shot myself in the foot by avoiding eye contact, giving one-word responses and finding excuses to exit the conversation because I was freaking out. Basically like a dorky girl in a teen rom com but less charming.

Once I finally got my anxiety under control I was able to employ some girl game and actually have conversations with attractive men. I'm not sure what that looked like exactly, I was just doing it, not really observing myself or taking notes on my behavior.

I never went home with strange men, all the men I dated or hooked up with were guys I knew socially and had built a comfortable rapport with before I went alone with them.

philomexa · 2019-12-10T17:55:43+00:00

Do you let him get away with more than a man less attractive?

I'm not sure what that means. What is he trying to get away with? Touching me inappropriately? cutting in line? stiffing his bar tab?

Are you more likely to laugh at his jokes even if they are not funny?

Yes probably. But any time I'm around someone I consider attractive I giggle incessantly because I don't know what to do or say.

How readily would you go home with him?

I'm married so 0% chance. When I was single it was also a 0% chance because I don't just 'go home' with men.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-12-10T18:19:19+00:00

Are you more likely to laugh at his jokes even if they are not funny?

this is not whats actually happening, women are laughing because they feel giddy and nervous

Dora_Bowl · 2019-12-10T17:43:36+00:00

Do you let him get away with more than a man less attractive?

Yes, obviously.

Are you more likely to laugh at his jokes even if they are not funny?

If I found him sufficiently attractive he would make me feel strange, so probably.

How readily would you go home with him?

I would not go home with him.

pngmafia97 · 2019-12-10T17:45:19+00:00

Yes, yes, depends if I want casual sex that night.

Twiteena · 2019-12-10T17:54:45+00:00

I become shy and try not to stare. But when he is not looking, I stare.

J_Milton_Jr · 2019-12-10T17:59:24+00:00

Kinda giggly and nervous. A lot of suttering and jumbled sentences, like in my mind I'm being eloquent and poignant, but my mouth is only saying every third word.

Do you let him get away with more than a man less attractive?

Not that I can think of.

Are you more likely to laugh at his jokes even if they are not funny?

No I genuinely believe he is funny, or more likely I'm giggling out of nervousness which just results at me laughing at inappropriate intervals.

"So I was driving to work this morning."

"HAHAHAHAHAHAHA"

How readily would you go home with him?

Pretty easily.

poppy_blu · 2019-12-10T18:20:52+00:00

I’m well aware that my behavior changes in the presence of a man I’m very attracted to. I smile more, my eyes open wider, I act more demure and girly, my voice gets lower, i get more self conscious, if I can get the self conscious thing under control I get flirty. These are all subtle changes and I know that because I’ve had men say to me after the fact they didn’t notice it.

I’ve become aware of it because of the need to control it in certain situations, like:

it’s inappropriate like in the workplace
I’m attracted to them but have no interest in pursuing anything
I’m attracted and am interested in pursuing but want to have the upper hand by not letting on I’m attracted to them

Do you let him get away with more than a man less attractive?

No.

Are you more likely to laugh at his jokes even if they are not funny?

Not really. Again part of flirting is keeping the upper hand. I’ll probably roll my eyes in a playful way, like oh your think you’re funny huh?

How readily would you go home with him?

I can count on one hand the number of time in my single days I went home with a guy I just met and when I did, attraction was there but it wasn’t the number one factor. In every case it was just because I wanted to get laid NSA. I was mostly screening for is he secretly a serial killer or stalker?

2019-12-10T20:09:08+00:00

nothing is that diferent unless im both single and drunk

[deleted] · 2019-12-10T21:27:10+00:00

I ignore him. I am too autistic to make eye contact with a sexually attractive man.

Ofourkind · 2019-12-10T22:50:29+00:00

I order a 16oz coffee, drop a buck in the tip jar, say thank you and leave.

Seriously how can anyone answer this without context? Is he my boss? Is he ny friends husband? Is he my client? Is he asking me for a date?

Orange_Paisley · 2019-12-10T17:56:41+00:00

I'm naturally quiet and even more so around a very sexually attractive man. Also I play with my hair a lot, or so I'm told.

Mulkvistee · 2019-12-10T20:13:15+00:00

Pretty normally actually, but I'm not doing myself any favors. There's a get flustered and say dumb stuff version of me because I'm self sabotaging a chance...and there's a fuck it this guy is hot enough to blow my nose and pick my ingrown toenails in front of because he fucks alien space goddesses and I had no shot to fuck up 👍 The plot twist is the super hot have not viewed it as a ruined opportunity, rip my n count

Maybelowsmv · 2019-12-10T17:50:32+00:00

And how would women know

knowledgeseeker999 · 2019-12-10T22:32:22+00:00

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brokegradstudent_93 · 2019-12-10T18:53:32+00:00

I tend to be bubbly around everyone unless the person is objectively creepy (like unwanted hugs, misreading all social cues, etc). I’m sure I laugh more at attractive men’s jokes but I am not really sure, the funniest guys I know aren’t very attractive. They aren’t gonna get away with bad behavior, maybe they get away with flirting a little more aggressively but don’t grab my ass or try to flex stupid things. I have only ever had one ons and I was so drunk I could barely walk (it was my first time drinking and I didn’t understand how it worked) the guy was definitely not very attractive and I would never do that again so no.

C0mpL1c1t · 2019-12-10T22:21:25+00:00

A man being sexually attractive means I have to be having kickass conversation with him. In which case I keep doing that.

Harriett- · 2019-12-10T22:25:45+00:00

The only difference would be examining. I can’t help but look at their skin, body, face a bit more... predatory? Without being creepy of course.

We laugh their jokes more not because we pretend but because they look adorable when they make jokes.

SqueaksScreech · 2019-12-11T00:40:42+00:00

He gets treated the same as others. He can be attractive yeah okay cool he's not getting special treatment.

If I find him attractive even if he's consider unattractive or attractive I'll still treat them the same. We can be friends it doesn't change my view on them.

If I have a crush on them I will be forward about it or get shy. I'll most likely get shy.

sublimemongrel · 2019-12-11T01:44:10+00:00

More flustered, more flirty, sometimes awkward

Trine_tg22 · 2019-12-11T02:31:00+00:00

Well for one I'll be receptive to him approaching me (still has to be respectful of course) whereas it's a big no-no for me otherwise. I probably make a lot more visual contact too, because I'm actually interested in him as an individual, what he's like, I want to find out more about him etc.

gimpgirl555 · 2019-12-11T06:44:51+00:00

Uh, not really any different from any other man.

slavicgypsygirl · 2019-12-13T20:51:05+00:00

I am used to being approached so always wonder how long it will take him to talk to me

Title	How do you behave when in the presence of a very sexually attractive man?
Author	knowledgeseeker999
Upvotes	11
Comments	57
Date	December 10, 2019 5:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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