This post is mainly for the newbies who are still conditioned to think that healthy romantic relationships with men mean having no boundaries and being accessible 24/7. I’ve seen a lot of women tout that they don’t like “playing games” or being “manipulative” but you know who loves doing these things? LVM. You only become easy prey if you don’t make yourself inaccessible from the get go. This weeds out the men who are extremely low effort and who want a woman who is either desperate or has no life.

What does this mean? Forcing yourself to put romantic interactions on the back burner. Are you the type to text back instantly or make yourself available for last minute dates? Then get hobbies. Literally get a life. When a man texts you, smile and remind yourself to text back when he can have your full attention. Set rules of when you are willing to accept dates if you don’t have a full schedule. Eventually you won’t feel like an imposter and this is how you will deal with your dating life naturally.

I’m saying all these things because the first step to becoming a high value woman is being hard to get. Playing hard to get is stupid because the end goal is always a NVM/LVM. When you are hard to get, you only allow men who put the most effort into your life. Your life will be so full that you won’t notice if the guy you’re seeing didn’t respond in 6 hours and eventually block and delete him. You won’t notice if he didn’t confirm your date because you’ve already made a back up plan that’s just as exciting as a date.

Don’t listen to the people that have programmed you into thinking being hard to get is bad or unhealthy. Value your own time and attention so much that the attention of a man won’t waver your focus. Value your own time so much that calls or texts from a man won’t deter your schedule and you’ll feel comfortable saving them for when you’re relaxed. Value your own time so much that you won’t respond to lack luster messages and feel comfortable leaving them on read. Overall, don’t play hard to get, be hard to get.