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[–][deleted] 244 points245 points246 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
My friend who’s so so lovely has been with this guy for like three years gone on holiday everything with him and he still won’t allow her to call him her boyfriend. It’s fucking ridiculous all my friends have tried telling her to leave him and his disgusting ego and she just won’t and then keeps telling us of all the manipulative shit he keeps doing. I would send her this but I think I already have!
[–][deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She needs an FDS intervention. Meanwhile I’m praying for her.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She does but it’s like talking to a brick wall I’m afraid. He totally emotionally abuses her into never leaving him
[–]Ana_jpFDS Newbie187 points188 points189 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Working in fashion has made me immune to good looking men. I’m around them a lot, have to interact with them professionally no matter how hot they are, and came to realize that most of them really aren’t worth knowing. There’s no spell anymore and I evaluate based on their actions not their 8packs lol
I recommend volunteering for some of your local fashion shows if you can. It’s super fun, and maybe you’ll break the spell too.
[–]cece188FDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow, that honestly sounds like a great idea, I might have to try that 😂
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
honestly alot of good looking men are stupid or low effort sometimes both , they arent that interesting and can even be boring
[–]plembbFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve dated some hotties and it has never led to love... a hot body is essentially worthless if there’s no connection.
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And some of them are rlly dumb and I can't stand a dumb man 😂 I really like intelligence in men 😂
[–]wrice05FDS Apprentice164 points165 points166 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Can confirm, got dumped last night by the last one. May be the best thing that's happened to me in 2020.
[–]cheaphubcaps54 points55 points56 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Happy New Year! Wishing you the very best in 2021!
[–]KelsConditionalFDS Newbie210 points211 points212 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There’s this one girl I wish I could send this to, but we’re not friends like that :/
[–][deleted] 121 points122 points123 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wish i could have sent this to myself 2 years ago before having a child with one!
[–]hanjaporfavorFDS Newbie101 points102 points103 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Put it on your story so she can see it
[–]KelsConditionalFDS Newbie137 points138 points139 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I DID! Lol with the caption “Just leaving this here for anyone who needs to see it”
[–]Singular-cat-ladyFDS Newbie223 points224 points225 points 3 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Uhgg this fuckboy I've been talking to has me exhausted. I'm not looking for a relationship at all right now so I specifically went for casual with a fuckboy, but now he's all sad because I said "obviously this isn't going to turn into a relationship" during a conversation the other day. "Says who??" Says me, buddy. Funny how he was all for no strings (he had another girl over the day after me.....) until I'm the one saying no strings.
Thank God I found this sub. If I hadn't, I'd be eating right from his hand, trying to convince him to change his playboy ways for me while he continued to not commit. No sir, not now. I set the terms. Bless you beautiful women.
[–]fds98FDS Newbie91 points92 points93 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Be careful about messing around with fuckboys. They know that game better than us, they have been playing it longer.
He’s sad because his ego is hurt, not his feelings. Don’t put yourself in a position where you can fall in love with a fuckboy. Just dont engage with that type of man at all, much less sleep with them, they don’t deserve it anyways.
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Funny how he was all for no strings (he had another girl over the day after me.....) until I'm the one saying no strings.
It's a power thing with fuckboys.
[–]Federal_Advantage440FDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck yeah!!!!
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Sis why are you even doing this? I know you feel powerful for “setting the terms” but you’re literally still giving out free sex. Not the way to go.
[–]Singular-cat-ladyFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I mean... It had been a while and I wanted to get some 🤷
[–]getrippeddiemirinFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
PLEASE read the Handbook
[–]Singular-cat-ladyFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have. I agree with a lot of it but not necessarily all of it. I understand the logic behind discouraging casual sexual relationships, but at the moment I am not interested in any romantic relationships so that is not my end goal. I understand that sex is inherently riskier for women, which is why I don't do one night stands. But it's been a long year, he's cute and fun, and it seemed like a good way to relax.
That is, before he started with the bullshit mind games. Maybe I played myself here. 🤦♀️
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"Get some"... even the vocab 🤮
You do you. But there's nothing powerful about it.
[–]notstrongenoughyet0FDS Newbie183 points184 points185 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It’s not that simple. Most awful, narcissistic men disguise themselves as Prince Charming for months, even years. By the time their spell wears off you’re so dependent on them and have idealized their mask so much that letting go becomes akin to a heroin addict trying to abstain from drugs. There is documented scientific evidence for this. It’s not just a matter of ‘valuing yourself.’
[–]Real-CurrentFDS Newbie110 points111 points112 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, 1000%. And one of the most harmful strategies they use (whether consciously or subconsciously) is intermittent reinforcement. So many studies on this and how this behavior is a far more powerful strategy in creating unhealthy attachment than negative or positive reinforcement. It’s a classic move by narcissists, other personality disorders and emotionally unavailable men.
[–]FitncurlyFDS Disciple74 points75 points76 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Had a guy like this briefly before meeting my husband. Couldn’t call him a boyfriend because he vehemently didn’t want labels. However he’d get jealous when other guys would hit on me and rush to come hold my hand—gross possessiveness with no other benefits. Sexual stuff that actually pleasured me was off limits for “girlfriends”. He was also a passive aggressive pig who’d name-call and act like it was endearing. He had some nice moments but that’s bare minimum bullshit. I got sick of his hot and cold ways and even at just 18 knew I was worth more and could do better. I started hanging with different people (as did he—but only he was looking to make me jealous while I ignored him more and more). Started talking to my husband and I didn’t even think of this dude anymore. One day—the last time I saw him or spoke to him—he was sitting with a new girl outside our dorm building and trying to name-call me like it’s cute—I turned to him and told him to go fuck himself. The girl looked shocked and he laughed. But I got the last laugh as fuckboi dropped out of school in just another couple of weeks from then. The man I married not only earned his degree but is a highly paid professional. Hahahahahaha!
[–]Reporter_ComplexFDS Newbie69 points70 points71 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is good to take into 2021!!
Also, happy new year from Australia 🥰 2:12am 1st January!!
[–]monikashh9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Happy new year, my friend!!!
[–]palczoFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Happy New Year! 🥳💓
[–]miiju86FDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's just so sad, that we even have to say things like this. And it doesn't stop there either - but still, people are taking this as normal...
[–]CaktusJacklynnFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men who mansplain aren't attractive, either.
[–]potmakesyouparanoidFDS Newbie52 points53 points54 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nothing gets me more hot than a man who pays attention
[–]ginnnnieFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ugh needed to hear this today lol 🙄🙄🙄
[–]KaiSpardaFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm definitely going to post this on my Instagram story. A lot of women I know need to hear this. I refuse to date any more men whose words don't line up with their actions and I want the same for all women who date men
[–]kgbubblicious17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
“Bad boys” are a dime a dozen. Ugh - gross.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, bad boys is a term LVM men use for guys who are actually fuckable. A.K.A. Chad.
[–]JesusisKingisLordFDS STRATEGY COACH16 points17 points18 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just had a breakup with someone who did the right things on paper, but ended up having me on a lofty pedestal that abruptly shattered. Thinking that I was ready to do the work of love with this man makes me sick to my stomach.
[–]marasloveFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And that’s on that ON THAT. Not dealing with this in 2021 and beyond ☝🏾✨
[–]msromperstomperFDS Apprentice14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also, married men who treat you better than their own wives are not attractive.
[–]crapeescapeFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And stay from men who have depression. Nothing will drag you down and suck the life out of you than somebody who is clinically depressed. I know, it sounds bad to stay away from people who need help, but the alternative is to become their battering Ram and sounding board, and pretty soon everything becomes your fault. Life is too damn short to be blamed for other peoples crap!
[–]KrikrineekFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So much this. I’ve dated a few guys like this and they did a lot of this. I never knew if they’d be normal on any given day, or snarky and selfposessed or ignoring me. And they rationalized it as okay because they suffered so much themselves and they ”needed” the relationship to be exactly as they wanted it... I have female friends who are depressed and somehow they’re never like this 🙄
[–]littlepip38042FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wish 18 year old me would've gotten this in my head.
[–]tiavargaFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Say it louder for the PickMes in the back! 🗣
[–]DeepestWinterBlueFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ladies: The Anthem of 2021
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[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Isn’t this the age old dilemma?
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unattractive men are unattractive.
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