firstly i want to say, English is not my mother language.
Hello, I just discovered this sub when about 3 months ago i started to find lies here and there from my EX. I'm young, I'm only 22 years old guy. My Ex is 24. It all started with this "Just Friend". I'm not stupid too think a random new guy is "Just A Friend". Neither is she that naive to think he was just sending innocent as friend kiss emoticons and flirty little messages. She knew what he was up to but liking the attention like they all right?.
At first it started with this, He is "Just A Friend", well yeah sure. Then it got to deleting the chat and hiding his snap chat name, Then it went to lying about where she was while she was fucking him. At first i tried to play my cool. but i already knew what was up so i started hitting the gym more often, started on juice, i know i'm to young. i started stacking what i believe you all call plates.
My Ex started questioning why i was so much at the gym and getting so big, i all i said was Well i like to look good which brought jealousy into her.
When i caught her first lie, about him on snapchat because she tried to say he was a CO worker at first. I believed her at first until i saw those emoticons and how that little joy smile on her face lit up when she was reading his messages but still wouldn't show me. Then i did some digging found out he wasn't working at her work. but worked like 5 minutes away from her house.
Second lie: He is "Just a friend" and don't you trust me? sure i did THEN. but then i saw messages where always gone and she said she hasn't been talking to him. Still took her phone everywhere and 99% it was on silent. I knew i should walk away. but deep inside i was a bitch boy i guess, trying to deny this saying to myself i'm being insecure.
3rd lie: I was at movie. Yes how come you where at movie when you couldn't even tell me what it was about?. she then tried to put this out like this was alright to do.
What she said
She: i wasn't at the movie i met up with "John" the girls cancelled the plan about the movie and i had nothing to do.
Me: What did you guys do?
She: Nothing really. (FIXED) We fucked
Me: Well care to explain "nothing"?
She: We just went to this bar and hung out for a bit nothing serious
Me: Sure nothing "serious" why then would you try to lie to me?
She: Because i knew you would act like this
Me: Well you lied, you said you guys didn't do anything, you tried to lie about the movie and also where you where which questions me now what did you guys do? did you go to his place?
She: Yes we did go to his place but nothing happened just talked about how happy we are me and you together
Me: You know you can't lie to me, It's time to tell me the truth i can see how you are acting all tensed up so what happened did you guys have sex?
She: Ewww noo i wouldn't fuck him.. he tried to kiss me but i moved away (FIXED) He tried to kiss me and i kissed back
Me: He tried to kiss you? why didn't you tell me that earlier?
She: So you wouldn't be jealous.. like you are now stop being so jealous and protective
Me: Well if you would stop putting lies into my ears i wouldn't be questioning so much. i know something happened even if you admit it to me or not. but i´m leaving and this is over
That moment i walked out of the door and as i got into my car, she came outside crying and told me that they had sex but she felt so bad about it. I told her that this was over, after 6 years of relationship and all this bullshit trying to deny and lie to me hiding stuff from me is enough for me to never gain trust in her again.
I won't take her back, if i do she will be the "boss" and have the upper hand, i have self respect for myself,
This was about 7 hours ago and i really wanted to share this here, it's been hard 7 hours today, i just went hung out with my friend, went to the gym, then read here some threads and thinking if i should tell you my story, yes i have tears in my eyes still, i wont deny that this was hard but i can't put my respect down for some lying bastard
I'm damn angry for not walking away sooner!