He didn’t call me for our first “online date” so I blocked& unmatched him. He messaged me on whatsapp- should I give him a chance?

mywhitevalentinobag · 2020-06-12T16:56:38+00:00

Am I the only one bothered by the sheer volume and length of these messages for someone he's never "met" yet? Not only will he disappoint you in the future, he'll give you assigned reading when he does it. No thanks.

Neorago · 2020-06-12T16:49:42+00:00

Nope - if he had time to go online to find and then buy a printer, he had time to text you that he would be late or to reschedule IMO.

Also sounds like he's trying to guilt you with the "it's already hard to find people we like", maybe it is for him but doesn't mean it is for you.

Also means if you end up being exclusive and he ignores you or cancels he'll just keep saying it's because he has so many businesses. Men that are truly interested will ALWAYS make time.

jackrusselterror1 · 2020-06-12T16:45:04+00:00

I wouldn’t. His first impression was a no-show to an online date, it’ll only get worse from here.

Was this date supposed to be a Skype/video call date or something?

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-06-12T17:02:00+00:00

The fuck??

Ok first of all did he seek you out on WhatsApp or did you give him yours? Because if you didn’t, then he stalked you to get it. 🚩

And online date is very low effort to begin with. If he couldn’t even keep that....🚩

Oh, he’s this big important entrepreneur and yet he couldn’t find 5 minutes to reschedule?? Do you think that would fly with one of his clients? Noooo 🚩

There’s a lot of manipulation going on. Subtle guilt tripping. 🚩

These are huge blocks of text. He’s doing way too much. It’s actually a bit scary. 🚩

Edit: OH and I’ve learned that the more words people use to try to explain themselves, the more likely they are lying. Look at this fucking novel he wrote. I wouldn’t trust that for a second. 🚩

2020-06-12T16:56:27+00:00

It’s not your job to give men you’ve never met chances ever after block and delete.

At best he lacks time management skills. That he send numerous long messages to garner your understanding like you were his mom and he’s trying to lessen the impact of his actions? 🤡💩 and a great big ewwwwww!

He’s a massive 🚩🚩🚩.

mywhitevalentinobag · 2020-06-12T17:40:31+00:00

Okay so the consensus is that I should not give him another chance! Thanks pals!

Cosmictears83 · 2020-06-12T17:30:36+00:00

'Phone Issues' just sounds like such a cliche vague excuse, personally would not give him another chance.

The minute, the second, my phone doesn't work or charge anymore I'm getting a new one even if its just a lease in this day and age. And it's not like I'm rich.

glittersparklesglitz · 2020-06-12T17:04:09+00:00

Nope. Block and move on.

AyemHerself · 2020-06-12T22:10:17+00:00

He's lying. If he can get a shipping business together, he can get a working phone. I guarantee you he makes a point of staying reachable for his clients.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-06-12T18:57:25+00:00

That’s a lot of words. And he started every sentence with “I”. Don’t even waste your time to read that lol

Pengtingcalledme · 2020-06-12T16:49:53+00:00

Pasdepromesses · 2020-06-12T22:45:19+00:00

Did he just do the “I know people say it’s not a good sign when (...) BUT what I actually think is that we want to be able to trust each other”?!

Who the fck is “we” dude? We want you gone.

It makes me mad that he’s trying to use some NLP crap on you.

Deep-Blackberry · 2020-06-12T18:55:02+00:00

Why is he giving you a range of excuses. I call BS. Next.

glazedhamster · 2020-06-12T21:33:44+00:00

God just reading those messages gave me a headache and I don't even know this guy. People who manage to make the most mundane activity into some drama-filled escapade are exhausting. Just buy your damn printer and go fuck off to the Island of Useless Men, Chaz.

adertina · 2020-06-12T17:34:23+00:00

No

entitled creeper vibes

very-disco · 2020-06-13T01:52:12+00:00

He seems like a weirdo (for finding you on WhatsApp), doesn’t respect your time, is not reliable or a man of his word and quite possibly also a liar. Thank u next

radical__daphne · 2020-06-12T17:11:26+00:00

LadyGrimes · 2020-06-12T17:17:28+00:00

Seems like lack of effort, next him.

deadlysnek · 2020-06-12T19:06:07+00:00

Well it could be a one time thing but also could be that he will waste more of your time 50/50. But you could get someone else who hasn't failed yet. You only need one guy out of billions, this one kinda meh so far.

ArugulaIsAwesome · 2020-06-13T03:35:12+00:00

Who isn’t smart enough to have a phone charger in their car? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nope.

nymphaetamine · 2020-06-13T05:58:32+00:00

Oh FFS. All I get from this wall of text is "I am a lazy partner. I will consistently neglect you, go radio silent, make no effort, have a million excuses for why it's not my fault, and make you feel guilty for having any expectations of me"

So he wanted to tell you that if he doesn't respond, his phone probably died- well, why DIDN'T he? He runs several businesses but can't manage to pop into a store to pick up a cheap replacement phone if his is broken? And what businessman can even afford to be without a phone for ANY amount of time at all? He couldn't even log into OKC to message you that his phone died? Are his fingers broken?

No excuses, full of shit.

OrchidLion · 2020-06-13T23:23:04+00:00

Before this sub I wouldve said "wow give him a chance, hes trying so hard and begging for you"

But now im realizing, thats not healthy either.

Dont want someone who doesnt try. But also dont want someone who tries too much and shows desperation/manipulation.

We want a normal human being with normal human behaviours. No abnormal freaks.

laura9sks · 2020-06-12T22:44:41+00:00

“I have phone issues” lol

SuchBarracuda · 2020-06-13T03:12:45+00:00

My honest opinion, if he thought it was important enough, he would've.messaged you, found you on what's app easy enough.

Trust me there'll always be some issue that he feels is more Important than contacting you... you can even run a test to see how many times he forgot to text you.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-06-12T22:40:38+00:00

shaonarainyday · 2020-06-12T23:35:58+00:00

He’s either poor or cheap.

RadarFemef · 2020-06-12T19:43:27+00:00

I’m really worried about you. If this post is real, it has some MAJOR red flags. You need to stop dating and start working on your confidence. Why would make a post about a guy who stalked you online to find your WhatsApp after you blocked him? That’s extremely inappropriate behavior from him, and a sign that he may be a danger to you.

Stop dating. Get off online dating websites. Start working on gaining confidence and independence and explore why you put up with poor behavior from men

4E4ME · 2020-06-12T18:44:32+00:00

I don't use WA - that background of all of the pics of women, is that his background or is it on your phone?

I assumed it was his, which just, seeing his words doesn't even matter at that point.

xosunnybunn · 2020-06-12T16:48:34+00:00

if you do let him make it up to you big time like alexis from mindful attraction says

throwawayitst · 2020-06-12T21:57:43+00:00

I would

Title	He didn’t call me for our first “online date” so I blocked& unmatched him. He messaged me on whatsapp- should I give him a chance?
Author	mywhitevalentinobag
Upvotes	61
Comments	52
Date	June 12, 2020 4:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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