Ladies, how to react to this? Details in comments.

Saitschik · 2020-06-07T13:29:05+00:00

If he cancels plans because "something better" came up, you cancel him.

Dating him will be a disappointment, so better end it now before wasting your time

bey124 · 2020-06-07T14:16:21+00:00

Translation: Hey, something better came along so I’ll just go and prioritize that over you. Hope you’re ok with that and will want to wait for me and reschedule to a moment where I have absolutely nothing else to do? Great, thanks.

Champagne_bitch · 2020-06-07T07:32:25+00:00

So, you choose to cancel the plan we made in advance for last minute ditch? You are canceled, don't bother come looking for me.

kumquat_fds · 2020-06-07T07:28:15+00:00

Met on OLD. Never met in person before. This is the second time he cancelled the date. First time was due to bad weather, which I agreed to (I’ll only accept outdoor “dates” due to the pandemic). That was supposed to have been on Friday. We then rescheduled for Sunday (today), but he sent me this tonight.

On one hand, I want to be understanding about this “rare event” and at least he apologized and asked to reschedule.

On the other hand, the fuck? Clearly I’m not a priority to you.

On the OTHER hand, he hasn’t even met me yet, should I expect him to prioritize me over his life?

On the OTHERRRR hand, it’s not an emergency and I’m not just going to sit here and wait until you have nothing better to do than to see me.

How do I respond to this text? Help me not be a pickme.

EDIT: Welp, I appreciate the consensus! Ignore and block it is!

circescircus · 2020-06-07T07:31:53+00:00

Just don't respond and block. He'll get the message.

Cancelling twice? He doesn't even deserve a response, just block him.

villagefunambulist · 2020-06-07T07:54:30+00:00

This is beyond disrespectful. He doesn't value you, your time or your company. He seems of the mind that you will always be there when he waves his finger. I would (and have in the past) ghost and/or block. View yourself as a rare and precious commodity - not a manchild's expendable plaything. If he had at least an ounce of character, he would be man enough to stay true to his word and to the plans he originally made. Pathetic flakey manchild seeking instant gratification. Toss him.

husheveryone · 2020-06-07T10:44:15+00:00

You’ve never met in person, he’s cancelled twice, and he’s not the least bit interested in actually meeting you. NEXT!

Kekekeke7777 · 2020-06-07T07:32:22+00:00

You don’t have to say anything. Block if you want. No more chances.

KitKat1705 · 2020-06-07T12:05:45+00:00

They always expect us to be '' understanding ''. So tell him you understand that he doesn't care about you that much.

divdec · 2020-06-07T07:45:15+00:00

Dump him. If you accept this excuse, he will keep pushing the bar lower.

Chances are, he and his buddies are having a stripper fest or bachelor party.

MelodyXYZ · 2020-06-07T11:36:21+00:00

You haven’t even met yet and he’s cancelling - no brainer - block and delete

Men test us to see what we’ll put up with. It’s not even a conscious thing with them.

There is no way a pretty single woman should be waiting around for any man

--wellDAM-- · 2020-06-07T13:30:22+00:00

What’s happening is he’s hooking up with people he wants to see on prime date days: Friday amd Saturday.

You’re a coffee date chore he will squeeze in.

No way. Block ghost delete.

PsychologicalBeat2 · 2020-06-07T10:14:41+00:00

Just move on, he's not interested

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-06-07T14:51:08+00:00

Probably a bit late to the party but yep, ignore. And block. You could not block for a while, just to see what he says and observe (for future reference, I’ve found this useful only when I knew I was done and wouldn’t respond), but if you don’t feel strong enough to ignore any subsequent messages he sends, then block straight away. You deserve so much better.

lickyblickyuhh · 2020-06-07T10:51:51+00:00

You don’t

NewGirl_WhoDis · 2020-06-07T20:40:48+00:00

He can date his friends, then.

wish_i_wasntavampire · 2020-06-07T08:06:29+00:00

Idk to me this sounds sketchy, it doesn't sound like a last minute plan and I feel like he should've asked you if you wanted to join (even if you didn't).

OrchidLion · 2020-06-07T19:39:27+00:00

You are not a priority to him.

I think you know what to do.

CorruptSoulGem · 2020-06-07T21:33:52+00:00

He wasted your time, you could have made other plans.

Unless it’s an actual emergency, then there’s no excuse.

balladwilds · 2020-06-07T14:24:46+00:00

nah girl tell him you understand but thinks its best to stop now and move on to someone better (who won't waste your time like this)

2020-06-07T20:08:55+00:00

Block.

Ilivetowork · 2020-06-08T01:25:55+00:00

Just say .. hahahaha, No! And then block

Title	Ladies, how to react to this? Details in comments.
Author	kumquat_fds
Upvotes	130
Comments	38
Date	June 7, 2020 7:28 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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