Regretting meeting and old male "friend"

jupitarianrise · 2021-08-05T10:44:27+00:00

He’s a sexual predator. You did the right thing by listening to your intuition, he was 100% talking about his penis. 🤏 Good riddance.

throwaway88043468 · 2021-08-05T10:47:27+00:00

That's awful. I'm so sorry. I don't keep in touch with male friends for this reason. Old classmates have tried hitting me up over the years and some of them I truly thought wanted to reconnect-- but no, they just percieved me as fuckable enough to chase for a while. Very unfortunate because some of them were wonderful boys and good friends to me. But now as men they send unsolicited dick pics and only kept me around as a slow&covert conquest for pussy. Nooo thank you.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-08-05T11:29:24+00:00

Eiw yuck. Never reconnect with “old male friends” they’re almost always looking to fu*k you, because you wouldn’t sleep with them when you were younger🤢😐

08__80 · 2021-08-05T11:24:44+00:00

"such long nails, how do you finger yourself?"

Fuck the society that taught men that it was okay to talk to women like that and who trained women to act like deer in headlights when it happens. Good on you for getting up and leaving and blocking him.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-08-05T12:34:07+00:00

"how do you finger yourself?" Who the fuck says that to another person? 🤯🤢

I'm with you. I wouldn't know what to say either and would probably make an excuse to leave quickly. Damn. I'm so sorry you had to deal with such grossness!

Platipus6 · 2021-08-05T11:02:05+00:00

🍆 to scale 🤏

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-08-05T11:33:32+00:00

The same thing happened to me with a good highschool friend I reconnected with. At first he seemed like he was high value but then the red flags started flying. Kept asking for coffee dates or to come to my place for a coffee. Lots of other things. Then I spoke to him on the phone where he basically gave a monologue because it wasn't a conversation. Then mansplained an area of knowledge I have years of experience in and he knew it. GHOST

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-08-05T12:25:20+00:00

mwahahahaha... the blast from the past rarely works. In my master's degree year I met with an "old friend" from high school 9actually a friend of a friend).

Just nah!

Three phrases into our convo - he is as subtle as a brick and mentions that he had sex in his dorm with some chick. IDK why, he probably wanted to let me know he was not a virgin?

I felt utter embarrassment on his part. To this day, I do not know why he inserted reminders that he used to party and bed girls or brought the attention to that since the primary focus was career - I told him from the very beginning.

Needless to say, after that, he blocked me on facebook. where he had like 5 friends and no photo - he said he hates social media.

It is true, though, he gained a lot of weight, had a receding hairline and his teeth looked like he hadn't washed in years. Guy works in IT, he made a handsome income, he could invest in himself. I tried not to mention anything potentially upsetting because ... who am I to do that? but I guess he has noticed for himself the difference.

and besides, he was living with a muscular guy and his hot girlfriend and their cat - he needed to mention that to me. In retrospect, I think he did me a huge favour by blocking me and setting fire to our casual / laid back friendship all those years ago. I do hope he works on himself but at a point in life when meeting these "old friends/ acquaintances", you have to understand that you may not know them at all. they are literally strangers that you've been close to once. You've spent more time apart than together... there really isn't anything there to be called a foundation for your relationship anymore. it's just dust.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-08-05T13:01:53+00:00

Porn has really rotted their brains to the point they don’t know how to act normal around women anymore.

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-08-05T11:13:09+00:00

Good on you for taking control back and blocking!

ChickaDeeD33 · 2021-08-05T10:38:27+00:00

Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear that. I had the same thing happen over a year ago where I found an old friend and it was awesome for a little while because he hid his intentions and I (naively) assumed that he wouldn't try anything because I have a BF. Nope! Surprise surprise at some point the scrote turns from regular conversation to flirting, and after a couple of times of him trying to weasel his way into my pants I just all caps said "I DON'T WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU!" and then blocked him and never looked back.

I have one male friend that I trust, every other man in my life has betrayed his supposed intentions of just genuine interest in who I am as a person and shown himself to be as sex centered as the others. Just another case of perhaps not ALL men, but enough of you that it makes it not worth my time to hunt for the one unicorn that I can be friends with without worrying about his "natural instincts" taking over.

Interesting-Bat3992 · 2021-08-05T14:20:49+00:00

The long nails comment... I swear they must be following a script because a guy legit said the exact same thing to me. It's so disgusting and disarming. Like scrote, we have JUST started talking and that is the sort of depravity you decide to show? Seriously? Have you not a single shred of respect towards a person? Like wow, you must be so daft, unintellectual, socially inept, miserable, insecure and have a 🤏 if sex is the only thing you thing about 24/7. It's utterly repulsive. I had zero amount of respect for him at that moment and mentally checked out that instant.

arnezuara · 2021-08-05T10:26:28+00:00

That’s disgusting, he’s a rapist. Next time, block them right away.

Interesting-Bat3992 · 2021-08-05T14:21:12+00:00

The long nails comment... I swear they must be following a script because a guy legit said the exact same thing to me. It's so disgusting and disarming. Like scrote, we have JUST started talking and that is the sort of depravity you decide to show? Seriously? Have you not a single shred of respect towards a person? Like wow, you must be so daft, unintellectual, socially inept, miserable, insecure and have a 🤏 if sex is the only thing you thing about 24/7. It's utterly repulsive. I had zero amount of respect for him at that moment and mentally checked out that instant.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-08-05T15:44:09+00:00

I met an old friend friend from high school. I met him randomly, and he started to neg me immediately. I was thinking about hanging out prior to that, but I made my decision right there and then, I'm not gonna meet him ever again.

Interesting-Bat3992 · 2021-08-05T14:23:51+00:00

The long nails comment... I swear they must be following a script because a guy legit said the exact same thing to me. It's so disgusting and disarming. Like scrote, we have JUST started talking and that is the sort of depravity you decide to show? Seriously? Have you not a single shred of respect towards a person? Like wow, you must be so daft, unintellectual, socially inept, miserable, insecure and have a 🤏 if sex is the only thing you thing about 24/7. It's utterly repulsive. I had zero amount of respect for him at that moment and mentally checked out that instant.

dollymyfolly · 2021-08-05T15:36:22+00:00

It’s funny how the people we thought were funny and entertaining when we were teenagers are actually just creepy when we are adults 😫

Title	Regretting meeting and old male "friend"
Author	Apart-Ad-6048
Upvotes	362
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Date	August 5, 2021 10:11 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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