I’ve been divorced now for 7 months. I pay $1,880 a month in child support and $1,543.29 a month in alimony. I still pay a portion of the marital home ($1,500) that’s still on the market, will likely end up having to do a short sale which is going to impact my credit. I was moved with the military to North Carolina after she moved herself and the kids to Nebraska. Rent where I live at now averages around $1,5 but I opted for a location where I pay about $1,700 combined with all the extra fees in a safer area for when I have my 4 kids. I pay around $1,300 a month in state and federal taxes. After that I have to take care of normal bills like insurances, debt related to lawyer bills and court fees (loan), food, gas, etc. I feel like I am constantly living under a budget and any issue arises crushes me financially for the month.

I’m just trying to figure out ways that you all go about making ends meet, making extra income while still trying to maintain some sort of regular life.

Most of my time I spend on my couch because I’m trying to save money and not do anything. She was awarded my entire savings because she had student loan debt accumulated during the marriage and I used the army to pay for school. She was also given a portion of my pension. Both of these are why I’m in such a rut right now. A modification to CS or alimony won’t work, I tried and it was rejected by the court, stated “these are normal financial impacts of a divorce”.