Struggles with getting in the moment and getting a boner with a new women?

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-12-03T10:20:29+00:00

You're letting your ex rent space inside your head. Evict her.

This is the best advice I've come across about post-divorce dating: http://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=81647

Dealing with divorce is similar to dealing with radiation: You need time, distance and shielding. You need time to remake yourself, and eject years worth of gaslighting.

EvidencePlz · 2022-12-03T10:35:08+00:00

Tell the new woman to give you a BJ.

Gattsama · 2022-12-03T10:21:46+00:00

Lots of variables here are a few random questions: Do you wake with morning erections? Are you able to obtain an erection alone/masturbation? If yes to both it's likely psychological, if no too either most likely physiologic and should see doctor to test for diabetes and hypertension. If able to obtain erection but not maintain, could be combination of both, so again see doctor to double check for DM/HTN.

IcyEntertainment8673 · 2022-12-03T13:47:02+00:00

Haven’t found the right woman to stimulate you and you need to give it time to heal from the damáge of your ex wife.

WartimeDad · 2022-12-03T14:21:55+00:00

Talk to your doc. They have pills for that now. No need to suffer.

Dangerous_Item_6879 · 2022-12-03T16:49:13+00:00

Go and get your testosterone blood levels checked.

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2022-12-03T13:13:16+00:00

Man how old are you?

hellsongs · 2022-12-03T17:57:44+00:00

Happened to me after my divorce. I was very much in my head and still allowing my ex wife to firmly root herself onto my ego. Once I realized that and got it in, I was off to the races.

relationshiptossoutt · 2022-12-03T18:58:10+00:00

It happened to me. Once it happened once it kept happening. After a few failures I got Viagra. After a few successes that way, I stopped taking it and it's been fine since.

Get those magic pills if you need them. That's what they're for.

captainchippsixx · 2022-12-03T19:00:10+00:00

Try Larginine - otc supplement.

awesomelybearded · 2022-12-03T23:33:31+00:00

a_fantastic_lion · 2022-12-04T00:56:50+00:00

Not a problem I'm having thank the lord but I imagine if this is happening to you - maybe you're not ready for anyone else. Sounds like you still have healing and work on you to do.

swampdonkey69769 · 2022-12-04T04:48:03+00:00

I did the ole one night stand about 3 months after she ordered me out of house. I wondered about my performance going in but lemme tell ya….. 2 times before bed and then again in the morning!!! I was pleasantly surprised!!! You’ll be fine

dubbsix · 2022-12-04T16:41:48+00:00

Been there, going through it now. You have to realize that you've been with one person for a good while and enduring the stresses of divorce. Take it slow, allow yourself time to heal before even going there with the new lady. Maybe your body is telling you that you need more time.

Title	Struggles with getting in the moment and getting a boner with a new women?
Author	Loftybalddude
Upvotes	10
Comments	35
Date	December 3, 2022 10:10 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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