My post is one of the pinned posts if you need the cheating (on her part) backstory.

Today she asks me if we should sit down and have a conversation about what we’re doing with the house. One of my groomsmen does real estate on the side. I talked to him about a short sale, a traditional sale, and what they looked like. He said if he wanted us to, he could handle things for us on 0% commission and he knows people that could help as well. I noted that in my head and didn’t make any concrete plans.

I told STBXW that I was also going to call our realtor that helped us buy the home to discuss options. She went on a tirade about how I’m not including her, I’m sneaking behind her back, and that I shouldn’t be telling anyone anything. She also said I was going to tell our realtor that she cheated. Was not my intention at all. It’s irrelevant to him helping us sell.

I go for a walk, come back, and she goes on another tirade. She said I’ve been disrespecting her this entire time (again, SHE cheated when I was battling major depression), I’m always trying to take the easy way out (because I take GLP1s, I’m lazy and a piece of shit in her eyes), and that I committed a federal crime by checking her text messages on her laptop (I know the password because I’ve worked on her laptop in the past to fix issues). She also just started digging unnecessarily deep by saying I come from a family of criminals (some of my cousins have drugs or gun charges) and that she thought I was different, but apparently am not.

Despite all of that, I still tried to calmly tell her that I’m not doing anything without talking to her first. The mortgage is in my name, but she’s on the deed. I cannot do anything without her. She then drops a bomb that she’s leaving and I asked if she was still going to pay her half of the mortgage. She said no and that I should get a roommate. I told her that’s not an option for me. I want to sell the house and just move on with my life. You should want to move on too since you have this new guy that barely even responds to your texts.

My plan was to discuss with my friend as I did, discuss with our realtor (either with or without her as she’s rarely home these days), and then present the options to her. I’m not trying to screw her out of anything. I just want to be done. I was going to process our divorce via The Divorce Center this week, but they only handle uncontested divorce. At this point I need to lawyer up, but I can’t afford a lawyer and a $7000+ mortgage on my own. If she tells me she’s leaving definitively (she’s on the fence right now), I’m calling the mortgage company to get things put into forbearance and then lawyering up ASAP.