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[–]MorthaPFDS Newbie 476 points477 points478 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
ah yes. so if the man continues to be shitty, it's ultimately the woman's fault since she wasn't 'right'
[–]crapcakes0987FDS Newbie 321 points322 points323 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Makes me think about Mac Miller. He used to abuse drugs and ultimately he died from an overdose. People were blaming Ariana Grande because she dated him before, saying that she should have “helped him” while they were in a relationship. It is not a woman’s job to fix a man. He needed to get the help himself. Tragic how he died, but it was not her job to “fix” him.
[–]exhalefiercenessFDS Newbie 100 points101 points102 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Also if the man you're dating agreed that it was Ariana Grande fault he died, you need to drop him immediately because these type of men are the type to manipulate & gaslight you to end and make you look like the bad guy.
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep. Good point. Damned if you do, and damned if you don’t with these guys.
[–]maIesaintshit 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But if she died from drug overdose, they would say “he dodged a bullet”.
But men are supposedly our saviours. Of course it’s the other way around like with everything they say.
[–]dragoness_leclerqFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People were blaming Ariana Grande because she dated him before, saying that she should have “helped him” while they were in a relationship.
Oh god I remember that!! It's unfortunate that what ultimately saved her was the fact that she had millions of very loyal stans of her own who were able to beat back that narrative and be VERY LOUD about the fact that he was a grown man, they weren't even together and his sobriety was NOT her responsibility.
[–]roundbackpack 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I remembered the song "Stay" of kid laroi. He's like "I know I'm trash but you're supposed to love me".
He also got a pornstar in his videoclip... Anyways. Porn is ruining everything. At least in the past guys wrote more romantic shit, like the temptations for example. Or R&B of the 90s. Guys wrote romantic songs. Even Backstreet boys... Today's songs are more like "I have all these hoes with me or I loved you because you made me a better person, or I want you because of how you make ME feel".
People are having sex at 13. People are so disposable now... Social media, tinder and porn are ruining real connections. Newer generations will never know what love is.
[–]roundbackpack 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How many songs are written by guys with this narrative.
[–]thanarealnobodyFDS Newbie 473 points474 points475 points 4 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
Bruh no.
After he’s had his boost, he’ll be gone, along with all the energy and love that he took from you.
And do you think that a guy will hang around you in hopes of healing your trauma and trust issues? Do you think a guy will think “I can fix her”? No. You’ll be left figuring it out alone.
So don’t bother with this saviour shit. It doesn’t even work.
[–]FluffandRaincloudsRuthless Strategist 224 points225 points226 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
When men have tried to "fix" me, it was "change your hobbies to suit mine." 🤢
[–]thanarealnobodyFDS Newbie 190 points191 points192 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Men’s version of “fixing” a person is more about moulding you into the female version of themselves.
[–]COUGHCOUGHCOVID 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh no, it's about moulding women into the shape of their desires. Them selfish men won't stick around female version of themselves. They will get nothing from them.
[–]roundbackpack 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not really, men fixing you is telling you how to be a pornstar, a cooker, a cleaner, a child bearer, silent and without intelligence.
[–]found_thissubfinally 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Elvis Presley comes to mind. He basically forced his wife to have plastic surgery to look more like him. Even controlled her fashion choice.
[–]angeredsoul111 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I almost ended up in an arranged marriage (I'm muslim) to a guy who asked me to "think about it" when it comes to drinking. We broke up a month ago and I almost teared up today, still hurt over the ending. But when I told my parents they did the right thing by calling it off.
As muslims we don't drink anyway... he wanted to put down a foundation to continue his lifestyle. I have no interest in alcohol. It's truly scary how some men are. He knew how roped in muslim girls can get in an arranged marriage - it's so hard to leave once you're in, in my community.
I'm glad I got out and eventually I found FDS. Thankful.
[–]exhalefiercenessFDS Newbie 33 points34 points35 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This guy I was talking too bothered him whenever I said "Morning" instead of "Good morning" so he wanted me to say certain words the "Right" way
Lol......
[–]1729217 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is bringing back really sad memories of how my dad treated my mom. Also, unrelated but I had one roommate who got bothered if we said “good morning” at the wrong time, and felt lonely if we didn’t say it to him.
[–]roundbackpack 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men trying to fix women is basically mensplaining. It's basically this guy from tik Tok that said that women need to know how to cook or that women should Love cooking.
Or these guys preaching that women need to be feminine, need to forgive their men, need to give them space ... Etc.
It's always MEN on social media telling women how they should act towards their partners. I've never seen women giving a lesson to men from superiority.
[–]gold_sunsets 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They always managed to suggest "fixing me" by losing weight lol.
[–]Ex_pickme_levelingup 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or “change your whole personality to suit what I want.” 🤮
Yet asking him to not wear flip flops and cargo shorts on a date was on the level of a war crime.
[–]fds_throwaway_4_uFDS Newbie 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Spot on.
[–]samegurlsame 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Truuuuuth.
Reasons why I won't date someone (as a late 20s woman already graduated from college etc) who's still in school or going through medical school etc.
You'll support him through the rough residencies and schooling and then he'll cut and run
[–]pinkgirly111FDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
usually it’s marry her and have the family. then cheat, cheat, cheat. then divorce for wife and family #2. i’ve seen is so many times. 🙄
You're so RIGHT. one night stands are awful because of this. You give your loving energy and your sexual energy to a guy that will ghost you and will disappear...
[–]Thatsgrandlad 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tbh I've met many "I can fix her" type of guys
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie 414 points415 points416 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
The biggest scam sold to women
[–]millions_ofpeachs4meFDS Newbie 282 points283 points284 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This and Only Fans.
[–]pinkpanther_69 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👏👏👏👏👏👏
[–]Dinner_ChoiceFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The biggest scam is marriage.
[–]Biracial_tooth_fairyFDS Newbie 195 points196 points197 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
The right woman is probably a therapist!
[–]Amazing_Wolverine_37FDS Newbie 150 points151 points152 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Speaking as a therapist I better be getting something equivalent to $150/hr!
[–]Biracial_tooth_fairyFDS Newbie 90 points91 points92 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Definitely. Yall deserve top dollar if you have to put up with their crap
I wish there was an association to get free therapy for women while males get charged twice as much. Mostly women go to therapy because of what men did to them. Men go because they're sick themselves.
[–]ChemistHemist 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A scrotes dream, therapist bang maid. 🤮
[–]Biracial_tooth_fairyFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I meant as in he should get professional help, not look for a relationship to be emotional dead weight in
[–]edelbiatchFDS Newbie 239 points240 points241 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And then when he beats her up it's her fault because she knew who he was and she should have left him sooner.
[–]lakat17FDS Newbie 57 points58 points59 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Leave that devil sis!!
[–]The_Cat_EmpressFDS Newbie 64 points65 points66 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I friggin' SCREAM laughed. 😂
[–]Xiena78FDS Newbie 119 points120 points121 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
But why is she white and angelic and he's dark and demon looking? Like really?
[–]FDS-GFYFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. And blonde. And thin. Tiny, and child like even. Eg unthreatening.
[–]COUGHCOUGHCOVID 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's to perpetuate that women should settle down in lower standards. Pick an ugly, alcoholic and Yada Yada man and give your everything to make him achieve his best and die in process of that.
[–]Colour_riotFDS Newbie 23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
angels belong with angels, and devils deserve devils. That's it, really.
[–]BbqchilifriesFDS Newbie 29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah if she's his mom and he's a child, then maybe.
[–]CoffeeBeforeAdultyFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's stuff like this that encourages men to take on that "edgelord" persona and keep to it.
You see a lot of it in high school and too many cling to it after. 🤢
[–]Sad-Salt-1106 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What in the pick-me hell?
[–]hobodutchess 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeeeeeaaaahhhhh… kinda tired of being responsible for the emotional and behavioral actions of another adult. We should bring out the best in each other but this is one sided and steeped in some old fashioned sexism putting women on virginal child like innocent pedestals.
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