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fancypantsdance92 · 2020-12-30T22:50:46+00:00

I happily tell men I'm vanilla and a prude. You want to choke the shit out of me? Cool, I'm not the gal for you.

Mcccy · 2020-12-30T23:03:40+00:00

Imagine being one of those people that call others "boring" cause they don't enjoy physical pain during sex. What times we live in.

Gotta love how those girls who say they like those things apperantly only liked them when they became a wide known thing from porn. If they were always a "FreaK 🤪" where were their kinks 5-10 years ago?? In most internet platforms only a 5-10% was into these few years ago and I was active in Tumbrl for hell's sake, where are all these girls coming from???

Not shaming kinky people, but it's painfully obvious when someone is actually into these and when they pretend they like these only for male attention. It's easy to tell cause the first category doesen't go around telling their kinks to everyone and later bully and call names everyone who isn't into the same things.

iaintgonnacallyou · 2020-12-31T01:15:58+00:00

I enjoy vanilla sex. Sorry not sorry. At least I don’t need to be ball gagged and slapped across the face til I’m crying just to fake an orgasm.

2020-12-30T22:45:08+00:00

Yep. Being a "freak" who likes being choked half to death is somehow considered cool? And something to strive for? I will proudly enjoy my vanilla servings over there. Anything aggressive, degrading, painful...yeah you can keep that far away from me. If a man even dares put his grimy hands around my neck, I will be connecting my fist to his jaw. Oh, I thought you liked pain big guy!

MadamLeFay · 2020-12-31T00:44:33+00:00

If it wasn't for FDS, I wouldn't have learned this dangerous, nasty stuff was "main stream"- you ladies have saved the life of this middle-aged woman. Much love.

spicyspa · 2020-12-31T04:21:17+00:00

I actually wanted to be kinky. I actually wanted to be thought of as kinky. Well I took the kink test and found out I'm colorless. I am vanilla. I was in a short relationship with a man who was a part of the BDSM "community" (as if they are a people.) I thought we were going to have an exciting sex life. It was kind of like having sex on a table covered with kitchen equipment. (Though I've heard it could be a lot worse) It was uncomfortable, annoying and confusing. I am vanilla. I am proud.

chardiddy04 · 2020-12-31T03:57:37+00:00

YES I was so glad to see this on tiktok I hope these young girls grasp this sooner than I did

GoldandGlowing · 2020-12-31T00:14:12+00:00

I love how smart and unabashed the girls are these days.

Altowhovian93 · 2020-12-31T06:39:02+00:00

There is nothing about violent sex and BDSM that will lead to a healthy relationship based on mutual respect. That’s not kink, that’s abuse.

kcookie94 · 2020-12-31T08:20:38+00:00

I was just thinking about this the other day. A coworker/good friend of mine asked me to check out her 13 year old daughter’s tik tok account. I went into who she was following and she followed a bunch of accounts that were “kink” centric. they would have text posts of things saying “I want to choke you and slap your ass blah blah” just really crazy BDSM shit. I read a few of the posts to my friend and she was shocked. When I was 13 a girl at school told me she gave a boy a blow job and I seriously thought that meant she blew on the dude’s dick...it’s insane what young girls are being convinced of these days and to them it is completely normal.

adertina · 2020-12-30T23:55:00+00:00

gone from “not having sex at all” to “only being into light spanking and ocasional choking while fully having sex” to be considered a prude thanks pornhub

2020-12-31T13:11:38+00:00

I used to think I had no libido until I started only having sex I wanted. Turns out my libido is lowish medium when it’s sex that I want.

Crazy huh? I should’ve done that from the start.

pureRitual · 2020-12-31T00:10:35+00:00

I am boring because sex for me includes things that feel good and zero things that hurt. I'm ok with that, and so is my partner who is a well adjusted, and loving man. I'll ask him what he wants and he's responded with "im boring, sorry", that's what porn does, it makes people think that if something doesn't include degrading women, then its boring. Our sex life is the most satisfying I've had with any partner. It focuses only on pleasure, warmth, and love.

natcatha · 2020-12-31T02:33:08+00:00

I'm only 22 but I felt so bad during my college years for being "vanilla" and not wanting to be choked or slapped by a man in bed. I always felt like something was wrong with me lol

IgetUsernameScraps · 2020-12-31T16:10:07+00:00

All these people claiming to like pain? I don’t think so. Aren’t pain killers the number one drug being sold, legally and illegally? 😑

petitpoupee · 2020-12-31T17:16:07+00:00

The ‘choke me daddy’ and ‘wannabe walmart mr Grey’ trend was so fucking cringy

climbergal928 · 2020-12-31T19:31:10+00:00

I'll try to find the link but there was a real study that talks about where most women liked men to finish.

12.7% of women said they like it when a guy finished on their face. Then when further prodded, once they were in a committed relationship that number dropped drastically to 5%. If that doesn't prove the "cool girl"/ pickmeshia syndrome I don't know what will. They will tolerate something so vile in order to get a relationship.

So think about 5 out 100 women are ok with a guy coming on their face, yet it's in EVERY porn scene. Then guys try to call you vanilla because you aren't down with it.

Another random thought. A good documentary to watch is "Hot Girls Wanted" about the negativity of the porn industry.

-captainhook · 2020-12-31T16:24:52+00:00

Why is “freaky” a compliment? Why is it acceptable for men to say they want freaky girls or girls with daddy issues (trauma from other shitty men)?

(Before any men attack, it’s okay to be freaky, but it’s clear that there’s a cultural expectation for girls to be, and it’s disgusting)

Snowmist92 · 2020-12-31T15:08:24+00:00

I consider myself a "freak". I developed my kinks all in my own without even watching porn or knowing what the heck a kink even was. With that being said, I ain't letting a man torture me or choke me hard during sex. This is like....the only shit people can think of - men beating women. I also don't care that someone else is "vanilla" I mean 85% of the time I myself am vanilla anyway with the guys I date.

2021-01-01T10:14:09+00:00

Oof, I remember telling my ex I was into choking way early in the relationship and then I got too scared to tell him I actually hated it when he did it 😭 I was so worried about being thought of as a prude I would agree to so much shit I didn’t want to do, live and learn ig

Title	🤔
Author	alleghaniensista
Upvotes	740
Comments	48
Date	December 30, 2020 10:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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