Got banned from r/datingoverthirty trying to help a poor pickmeisha 😂

suaveagave · 2020-01-16T19:40:53+00:00

This is why I always directly PM any OPs that I feel would benefit from finding us. It’s been working out pretty well so far! :)

thewetdog_ · 2020-01-16T19:45:26+00:00

I got a warning from another sub so I DMd the girl and she actually came here! 👏🏼posted her original question and everything and got advice from us

understatedalways · 2020-01-16T19:37:30+00:00

They don’t want women to actually be aware of how to make the most of the dating game and have high quality, fulfilling relationships with good men. If it doesn’t benefit low quality men, it is “toxic.” I kind of like knowing I am among the 47,000+ rogues and counting going against the current system that devalues women and promotes abuse.

sweatydeath · 2020-01-16T22:30:26+00:00

Didn't you know r/datingoverthirty mods have a disdain for the high-value woman? I bet the comments are encouraging this poor girl to pursue him. That's the type of dating advice that goes on there.

Saitschik · 2020-01-16T20:45:41+00:00

So she is not wife material for this stiff man because she lives her life and likes to have a drink.

Imagine being married to such a man... And if the second one bailed because she had "too much fun", well... Bullet dodged.

Deadgirl1888 · 2020-01-16T22:36:37+00:00

I bet it was a man who blocked you.

sweatydeath · 2020-01-17T00:08:18+00:00

To answer u/shadyblonde231

By asking a man out instead of letting him reach out to you, he knows you are readily available. A man's interest is piqued when a woman is aloof, busy, and only occasionally available. Let HIM approach YOU. Otherwise, you will never know if he actually wanted to seek you out or was just reciprocating your advances. Why? He will lose interest in you eventually for someone that he is willing to pursue.
Dates should not exceed a max of 5 hrs - you should leave him wanting more of you not less.
You failed to end the date first. By ending the date first he is gently reminded that he is only part of your life, which is filled with family, friends, hobbies, etc.
You engaged in a text fest with the man. As a rule of thumb, ignore useless texts after 2+ days of banter, unless he has set up a date (complete with a time AND location). Otherwise you will just end up being his texting buddy. You have to show him that if he wants to engage in long interactions with you, then he needs to set a date (not text).
Don't have more than 2 drinks on a date.

extraacct1234 · 2020-01-16T20:38:47+00:00

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kissmyash10 · 2020-01-16T21:43:39+00:00

Oh snap! They got mad at me too bc this sub is apparently anti-men and then deleted my comment. I totally left that lame sub :) Keep preaching!!

TheOGJammies · 2020-01-16T20:45:00+00:00

Welcome to the club:

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ei8o7y/me_systematically_explains_and_provides_several/

soxychamp · 2020-01-17T06:03:15+00:00

But posting a link to the sub without any commentary is kinda spammy and lazy? Usually one would preface with something.. like a short one sentence advice and “for more info you can go to this site”. You weren’t trying to help her, you were just being sassy. I’m not surprised you got banned, the way you did it was begging to be banned

ny-lady · 2020-01-17T03:06:20+00:00

Funny I just read that as I visit there! LOL

ivy176 · 2020-01-20T03:25:53+00:00

Yeah maybe just DM it. They have rules to prevent spam and whatnot

Title	Got banned from r/datingoverthirty trying to help a poor pickmeisha 😂
Author	siberiansummer
Upvotes	90
Comments	45
Date	January 16, 2020 7:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/epoa67/got_banned_from_rdatingoverthirty_trying_to_help/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/got-banned-from-rdatingoverthirty-trying-to-help-a.694550 https://theredarchive.com/post/694550

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