He’s not your friend.

modernmedusaa · 2020-05-27T19:32:50+00:00

I put in some nice tokens where is my blowjob

warinmymind94 · 2020-05-27T22:24:11+00:00

About 3? Ish years ago I was going through a bad breakup after being cheated on. My circle of friends at the time included this one dude who pretended that he was a friend to me. I had an extra ticket to a sports event and group texted my female friends first saying it's free and up for grabs, come join me and my family at the game. No one could go so I told him that and offered as friends very clearly. I didnt think anything of it and ar the game we talked about the breakup and I made it very clear how messed up I was and that I needed to avoid romance / hookups for a long time until i healed. He seemed respectful and i was grateful for him and my 2 other close female friends during this time. More time passed and he revealed he had a crush on this other chick so being a good friend I gave him some pointers of dates/ ways to ask her out/ dress nice to help him. A few days later he got the news that his mom had just gotten a diagnosis and had 6 months to live or less. He was hysterically crying so I tried to listen and help him through it. He invited me over to hangout with him and his siblings to shop. I showed up but his siblings bailed and it was just the 2 of us. We had a nice time shopping and talked more about his mom and crush. He said let's get dinner near my house park at my house and we will just carpool. So I agree we get dinner, his card declines and I cover him but I'm a little salty. He drives me back to my car parked at his house and says want to watch a movie and says he has a case of beer no one likes he will let me take home. So whatever. I was to his house lots before. His family is home. Though t it would be fine. We watch YouTube clips in his living room. He says he got some cool souvenirs he wants to show me I follow him to his room. Then suddenly he gropes me says lewd sexual things and tries throwing me onto his bed. I fall and catch myself on the ground. Hes starting to unzip his pants. I'm saying NO NO NO and I start running right out of his house to my car. He starts chasing after me but I already am stepping outiside and hes like come on you're just sexually frusterated and so am I itll be our secret I can be fast and quiet just try it with me!! I make it to my car blow 2 stop signs and safely get away from him and his house. He groped me threw me down and if I didnt fall down and run away he would have raped me. I had known him for years. He knew my family. We had the same group of mutual friends. I knew his family too. When I told one mutual friend what happened she said "it's no big deal" and "so what you're just friends" I was so upset with her and him. I cut them both off. Last I heard she started dating him. When people show their true colors believe it and go.

theglossiernerd · 2020-05-28T05:09:05+00:00

As soon as you tell them that you’re never having sex with them, suddenly they stop being such a great “friend.” Had a guy friend who I thought was above this recently drop off the radar. We worked together during some intense shifts and he always would text me a “You good?” text when I would kinda go MIA. Told him last week I don’t ever want to have sex and risk ruining our great friendship. Haven’t heard a peep from him LOL

ceilingkatwatchesus · 2020-05-27T23:13:24+00:00

I had a male friend who tried to force himself on me at his little sisters wedding, Until I punched him in the eye. Families knew each other and all that. Also, he was dating his now wife. She's knows about what happened and still ended up marrying him. I don't really believe inmale friends. They are just waiting their turn.

cloeed · 2020-05-27T21:30:48+00:00

Yeah that’s what we get when we try to be nice and let them down gently: the guy will be creeping in the "friendzone", complaining the whole time about it, and try to make a move every chance he gets because "if she’s drunk or vulnerable enough maybeeee"... just give him the cold hard boot at the beginning and away with these losers!

CassieGreen85 · 2020-05-28T01:43:51+00:00

It's fucking pathetic how guys whine and cry about the friendzone. Not only it doesn't exist, there's pretty much zero consequence or danger for them. ZERO. The woman wouldn't try to rape him, she doesn't want anything sexual or romantic to do with him.

The woman being put in the fuckzone? She's IN DANGER. Plenty of dudes pretend to be friends, and she genuinely believes that because we all want the kind of ideal world shown in media, right? NOPEEE. Sexual abuse, stalking, rape, murder... all safe bets. The possibility of that woman being assaulted is high, it's disgusting.

These dudes crying about the friendzone should do something to stop the other guys who end up stalking, raping and murdering women. They should be ashamed.

Thenightsaresolong_ · 2020-05-28T06:52:49+00:00

Honestly. I completely believed it was possible for men and women to be just friends... until I hooked up with a friend of a friend. I thought we were dating, but he just wanted to fuck around. We maintained a friendship but I later found out he’s slept with every mutual female friend we have.

One night I was at a table with him and two of our (girl) friends. Later on one of them said to me “lol it’s kind of weird that he’s slept with all three of us, don’t you think?” like EXCUSE ME I didn’t know about this. I wouldn’t have done it if I had known that he literally fucks every woman he befriends.

Rabro · 2020-05-28T02:46:12+00:00

After six years of little jabs from him and him thinking he can punish me. I finally got rid of him.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-05-27T20:31:31+00:00

I don't have to "imagine."

freedandelions · 2020-05-28T08:59:26+00:00

I’ve lost so many male friendships to this. Recently, I had an old high school friend (high school was 10ish years ago for me) come out to a mutual friends birthday and upon seeing me, told me how much he had wanted me in high school and how if he had asked me out before my first bf we would have been dating now and he just went on about how good I still looked and I straight up asked him “Hey, is there any way we can have a normal friend conversation?” And he said yes, agreed with me....then continued weirdly hitting on me by telling me about all the times he wanted me back then. Dude I thought we were regular friends in high school.

I had NO idea this (now stranger) had lusted over me for over 10 years thinking he had a shot the whole time. I still feel creeped out thinking about it.

livingup2020 · 2020-05-27T23:26:23+00:00

Don’t keep males as friends unless they’re gay

2020-05-27T22:49:42+00:00

Pffd male friend? No dear, just every first creepy dude who annoys you and even getting most rude treatment thinks that he has a change.

MD_Wolfe · 2020-05-27T20:22:15+00:00

I mean you may be his friend, but he aint yo friend

totallylikeothergals · 2020-05-28T20:24:15+00:00

Male friends don't exist. I had a circle of friends some time ago with almost only guys and guess what? They all wanted to bang me. I friendzoned one of them and he started telling shit to the others. What happened after? Each of them were treating me like an alien, like I would owe them anything. And so the others started to say things like (they didn't care shit i guess, so I guess they only told me cause they thought they won't lose anything or anyone important to them and maybe even get some free sex) : Well, I can understand friend I rejected because I must be honest, I often thought about getting close with u as well...or....I mean, of course I see you as a friend, but I must admit at the beginning of our friendship I thought u were looking pretty hot and also now I wouldn't say no to sex with u, that's just how we guys are...blabla...u won't lose a friendship just because of sex, don't worry.....blabla

Another "friend" (not from the circle of friends back then) stopped contacting me after I found a boyfriend. He always told me he is sooo thankful we are friends, and of course he doesn't want anything sexual with me because he's my friend blabla...but I never heard from him again after telling him about my relationship. Lol.

Men are not ur friends, except if they are gay or asexual. And the second one is pretty hard to guess I think. So better watch out before hanging out with guys, almost all of them would bang u if they could, except u are absolutely not fitting their type. Men are thinking with their d's...i didnt believe it either back then, but well, reality will hit u sooner or later.

May-rah10 · 2020-05-28T05:11:21+00:00

During quarantine, I decided to do makeup tutorials due to the fact that I was bored in the house and I love makeup. Well one of my male “friends” (someone that I’ve known for years and actually considered a good friend before this incident) decided to send me a private message after he saw one of my tutorials to tell me that I “should do porn” because I “had the perfect voice and face/body” for it. I was immediately disgusted and horrified. He even went into detail about it and also added that he’s been wanting to tell me this but that he had to get drunk to have the “balls” to tell me. To top it all off, he has a girlfriend who he’s been with for many years and she’s a lovely lady. I just don’t understand the audacity of men...they are disgusting and that’s one of the main reasons why I’ve been single for 5 years. I just don’t want to deal with their crap! I’m better off (and way happier) alone.

SpiderrG · 2020-05-27T21:31:00+00:00

I had someone who I thought was my best friend (for almost a year) at the time scream at me in the street one night while he was drunk, about how I was such a frigid bitch, but also a whore, for not having sex with him.

Nah.

jmaydizzle · 2020-05-28T16:09:16+00:00

This everyday!!!

Buckley92 · 2020-05-29T09:33:35+00:00

Hey, why doesn’t the blowjob vending machine work? I was really nice to it and said all the right things, dammit!

rayvin4000 · 2020-05-28T09:05:02+00:00

So much this.

cloeed · 2020-05-28T20:40:09+00:00

Thanks so much for the recommendation, will definetly check it out! Had never thought about it, you’re absolutely right! There are so many red flags to watch out for we could write a thesis on this...

2020-05-28T16:16:41+00:00

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Title	He’s not your friend.
Author	gcsubthrow
Upvotes	3128
Comments	67
Date	May 27, 2020 6:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/grpu9u/hes_not_your_friend/
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