There was a great post yesterday about how men on Reddit always complain about women never approaching or complimenting them. The poster joked that if you are an attractive man you know that women 1000% shoot their shot.

This made me think of how women can expertly signal to a man that she is interested while still giving him the illusion that he is the one perusing her. THIS IS ALL YOU EVER HAVE TO DO, IF HE DOESN’T START PURSUING YOU, MOVE ON. 🏃🏼‍♀️

I have done this at the gym, grocer store, college (a lot), coffee shop, pet store, gas station, even at dinner with friends when I see some hottie at a different table. So when I find someone attractive I make eye contact, hold it a while, (not creepy long, dont stare, like 3 secs maybe) slightly smile, make cutesy eyes (blink a few times, one eyebrow up, something like that) and then shyly look away like I am blushing. Maybe brush my hair behind one of ears with my hand, or twirl it in my fingers. Be creative.

Men are always scanning for any interest coming their way, so 9/10 this has worked for me. Sometimes they don’t understand social cues or they are just not into me and that’s fine too.

If you are thinking “Wow how do you have this confidence?” Ok, STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT MEN THINK. They don’t even wash their ass. 🧻They should be so lucky a woman even looks their way at all, let alone looks at them with any sexual interest. You need to get the DGAF of a 30yr woman! LURE THEM IN, VET THEM, NEXT THEM!

If you are afraid of them, I get that. Men are scary. But meeting them in person has actually been a lot safer for me because men are on their best behavior, and the worst of the men have resorted to using OLD. Like no one wants the men on OLD let’s be real. So meet men in very public places only where YOU feel safe. If they try anything shady start a scene, get up and walk away.

This is really all you ever have to do. Make this part of your vetting process. If he doesn’t recognize this as a signal of interest then 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s doomed girl, don’t embarrass yourself. Just next.