I don't care

Golden_Lavender · 2021-04-16T20:43:31+00:00

This also makes me think if the concept of the female gaze in movies and artwork. Some people say that it's hands others say it's about emotions idk. But I've always. Wondered how a female gaze would look like if it wasn't for patriarchy. The female gaze we have now is created as an opposing force to the male gaze that was created under a patriarchial society so if patriarchy didn't exist, what would women find attractive?

TululahJayne · 2021-04-16T23:06:52+00:00

This reminds me of that other post about the female gaze the other day. So much food for thought. I think a large goal for my future will be to eventually reach 90%+ immersion in female led/run/created media, art, clothing, food, and businesses. I'm just SO incredibly bored of men. They are so boring.

We have had to endure their opinion for so very long about absolutely EVERYTHING. They way society is run, the way cities are built, the way tools, houses, cars, etc are made. All of it. And they still don't have enough. Constantly ruining the earth, always pursuing money and power! It never ends with them. 2021 is the year i start putting thought into where i buy my things. So If any of you have businesses DM me because I am over it haha. Did i mention men are so fucking boring?

TululahJayne · 2021-04-16T22:04:57+00:00

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companyofwolves · 2021-04-16T21:04:24+00:00

I legitimately just do not care about the male perspective in art. It doesn't speak to me, it more often than not dehumanizes me and it crowds out an equal and worthy female perspective.

It's not as if men are less human and don't experience profound artistic sentiment, but the very existence of the patriarchy and their own intellectual and moral laziness have dominated art and entertainment culture for far too long, and the fruits of their labors are becoming as deep as a shallow puddle.

Why should I engage with things that do not speak to me and that actively try and keep me under the patriarchal heel by reinforcing the youth and beauty standards that men prefer? Men are the largest part of the art and entertainment world, and they are not there to be equal or equitable to the female experience.

Reject it.

lostmillenia · 2021-04-16T22:39:10+00:00

This explains so much why I don't enjoy most movies. I've said to people I was watching a movie with, "This isn't intended for me to enjoy." And so I don't bother. And especially stuff like "American Pie" ect. Crude and gross.

Orcrista · 2021-04-16T23:12:40+00:00

It was amazing to me when started to read all the classics in my late 20 and early 30s in a bid to become more sophisticated and well-read, that the works often referred to as 'great' and 'best ...of all time' etc etc, not only bored me but I found a lot of them just plain unimpressive. I kept thinking maybe I just don't like this one, I'll try another.

After a few years, I gave up. I realised that for most of those, the only thing that made them great were the (usually male) critics naming them so.

For all the overconfident scrotes out there: You liking something, it doesn't make it great or masterpiece or whatever. It just means you like it. That's it.

You don't get to baptise everything.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-04-16T21:59:55+00:00

SAME

dietcokeangel · 2021-04-17T07:15:25+00:00

Plus all these male classic authors weren’t shit w/o their wives.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2021-04-16T23:15:20+00:00

After watching countless stories of violent men portrayed as misunderstood, heroic figures with their little flaws, cool, and badass, I'm over it. I'm not interested anymore. It's so overused, it's ridiculous that they're portrayed in this grandiose manner when in the real world they'd just be your average thug with the emotional maturity of a 2 year old.

The lame guy turns into a hero and gets the girl... while not fundamentally changing anything about his character. He usually only learns to control some ability or is just lucky.

All those paedo movies portrayed as "artistic". No, I don't want to see for the upteenth time how a man in his sixties is somehow irresistible to a woman in her 30s, 20s, or even younger.

The "genius" man and his supportive wife/lovers who put up with his childish stupidities (pardon, eccentricities of course) or who are in constant awe of him.

Boring.

islandmaiden · 2021-04-17T08:20:23+00:00

This. Since learning about the effects of patriarchy on women and learning about radical feminism, I've grown tired of listening to male sources and creators of media, academics and dating advice. No, I want to hear women's voices. I want to see female art, music, books and films. I want to read up on researches done by women. I want to learn about women's inventions. If I listen to a man before I listen to a woman, then that's shame on me. Women and men all over the world already prioritize men's opinions and creations, I want to give women my attention and adoration 'cause I'm a woman.

marlenemermaid · 2021-04-16T20:59:24+00:00

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Happypengy · 2021-04-17T00:58:16+00:00

EVERY story is about the male perspective. Every one. EVen when a woman dies - like Gamora, or Black Widow - it's about the men left behind. Fucking boohoo.

And if not men it's about little boys. When they could easily portray little girls just as well.

Ill_Entrepreneur_704 · 2021-04-17T01:22:00+00:00

I have not read a book written by a man since college. I didn’t do it on purpose but I’ll keep the streak going. Men are alarmed by this but they can’t even name a woman author when pressed.

betsybasset · 2021-04-16T20:55:09+00:00

Totally. Nothing male says i haven't heard before.

fairywakes · 2021-04-16T22:18:46+00:00

Men’s opinion and interpretation has literally been the most common and the only valued opinion for centuries. Until recently...

SayNad · 2021-04-16T22:31:45+00:00

I always struggle with male-centric artistic works because... most of them lacked the depth that I am seeking. Even those considered masterpieces of their time doesn't satisfy my hunger for that depth - because men rarely can feel and thus interpret things as deeply and empathetically as women. I often found myself sticking to the very few female authors and artists that deliver that depth flawlessly in its full simplicity.

Men can write all the epic fights and bloody war, but those gets boring after a while. I wonder if that's why I prefer to just read fanfictions because when you found a good one, you really found a good one. None of the books can compare.

Less-Weekend5123 · 2021-04-16T23:25:39+00:00

Honestly I noticed these days alot of music I hear by men is horrible or straight up boring.

Only male musician I listen to these days is Lil Nas X and hes gay which says something.

fdssavedmylife · 2021-04-17T12:49:57+00:00

90% of the time when a new movie comes out: “WOW an emotionally stunted straight white guy dealing with daddy issues — SO INVENTIVE! We’ve never seen that before!” They really think every single man’s story is special and unique and needs to be told, when they’re all exactly the same in different packages.

amhran_oiche · 2021-04-16T20:53:18+00:00

This, a thousand times a day until I die. We don't need more male perspective. I already know what it is. I don't care.

savedempath · 2021-04-17T04:32:14+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-17T14:27:56+00:00

MMMMIISANDRY

Title	I don't care
Author	azureangel35
Upvotes	1352
Comments	47
Date	April 16, 2021 8:37 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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