I dumped my HVM.

jayda92 · 2021-04-13T17:39:47+00:00

Impregnating you with no commitment on his end is a huge 🚩🚩🚩🚩. He was either insecure or trying to pull a fast one.

Good on you for seeing that.

UnderwaterWriter · 2021-04-13T19:34:29+00:00

When my Sicilian nan died, we found out that she’d designated that everything be split equally among her adult daughters. And should any of the daughters die, the other sisters will inherit the portion. And when they all die, and if there is remaining money, it skips their husbands and goes to granddaughters. My nan didn’t take any shit, and my pap was a HVM. But she always had a fuck you fund, and she never wanted the women in her family to be without anywhere to turn due to financial dependence on their husbands. And her legacy depicted that. Proud of you for leaving with style.

jayda92 · 2021-04-13T17:37:43+00:00

A prime example of the long con. Some guys will play HV right until they think you're trapped. The shared pet, house commitment and talk of marriage were supposed to blind you to the switch up.

Good for you for not being afraid to walk away! I wish you a thousandfold greater happiness than he brought.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-04-13T17:40:52+00:00

Incredible! Proud of you, and laughing at the “fuck you fund”. I’ve never heard of that but I’m going to start referring to my savings as that, even though I’m not dating right now. 😂

jayda92 · 2021-04-13T17:34:27+00:00

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Big-Respond8481 · 2021-04-13T18:20:34+00:00

How can people call you trash? He wants a baby NOW but you do not. You do not fit together anymore. Good that you left. Do those people who called you names want you to be a resentful mother? Good that you know what you all want.

queenagave · 2021-04-13T17:36:32+00:00

Ehh, I'm an FDS newbie however, all those things you listed for breaking it off seem like huge red flags and definitely not HVM traits. It seems like you dodged a bullet.

I love that you're living it up with your bestie, got more money, and got the dog. Congrats on your Queen sh!t👑

Davina33 · 2021-04-13T18:21:21+00:00

I'm proud of you OP. None of this could have been easy. All too often I read about women not wanting children at all/yet but have one anyway to keep a man. It never ends well. Good on you! 🎉

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-04-13T18:03:45+00:00

This guy wasn't high value

melonmagellan · 2021-04-13T19:08:26+00:00

Are you coparenting the dog?

ShegoGreen · 2021-04-13T21:34:36+00:00

"This man expressed doubt. He had doubts about my study, about my work and our future together. He wanted a baby: NOW..."

That was not a HV man. Real HV men plan for their future with wisdom and discernment.

"You shall know a tree by it's fruit"

xdecadent · 2021-04-13T21:48:55+00:00

The Fuck You Fund - also known as “mad money”! Ladies, always have your own so you can dip and be secured when you’re good and ready.

Hope you and your bestie have a great time in yalls new apartment!! And congrats on the raise, Queen✨💗

pikkpie · 2021-04-13T19:50:16+00:00

Wait how did you 'forced him to pay your student debt? Asking for..uhhh...science.

Mamma_Midnight · 2021-04-13T23:36:48+00:00

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jayda92 · 2021-04-13T21:43:04+00:00

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jayda92 · 2021-04-13T18:15:57+00:00

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ga_shina · 2021-04-13T18:11:57+00:00

You forced him to pay your student debt? What?

Khentiamentiu42 · 2021-04-13T18:42:26+00:00

Wow!! Go you!!

looking-for-freedom1 · 2021-04-14T01:37:27+00:00

Wow! That is awesome. You rock queen!

FrozenExpanse · 2021-04-14T00:47:09+00:00

He chipped away at your conference with his “doubts” and tried to tie you down with a baby before marriage.

That guy was as LV as they come.

FDS-GFY · 2021-04-14T00:02:49+00:00

Oooh boy. Proud of you, sis.

Title	I dumped my HVM.
Author	jayda92
Upvotes	246
Comments	100
Date	April 13, 2021 2:22 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mq39k9/i_dumped_my_hvm/
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