"I'm looking for monogamous and serious minded but for a girl who's cool to start casual [so I can put in next to zero effort and then easily leave when I find someone I like better]"

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-06-16T03:45:04+00:00

“No hookups! Serious FWB only!” 😂

Milobear27 · 2020-06-16T03:45:50+00:00

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whatisfunemployment · 2020-06-16T03:44:58+00:00

This is like a job where you do five interviews and solve their problems for them, only for it to end up being an unpaid internship. Total Brewdogging.

Cosmictears83 · 2020-06-16T04:47:08+00:00

I've noticed they dangle maybe serious one day to give naive women hope.

Lots of guys put "not looking for serious BUT NOT OPPOSED MAYBE IF IT FEELS RIGHT" hoping it'll dupe those women who think they could be the ones and keep them strung along.

AquaRetro · 2020-06-16T03:52:17+00:00

I love how you asked a simple clarifying question and he ran hiding.

Verysoftbun · 2020-06-16T05:49:18+00:00

Maybe were not on the same page "I'm gonna act like you're stupid to avoid answering because if I do I prove your point"

m00n5t0n3 · 2020-06-16T03:59:38+00:00

You had a good question

no_therworldly · 2020-06-16T08:36:06+00:00

Isn't this the texbook definition of literal future faking lol

2020-06-16T09:56:07+00:00

"Maybe", he said, slithering backwards slowly, "we are not on the same page" and ran for his dear life

BasieSkanks · 2020-06-16T07:51:09+00:00

lol, he’s just looking for a free prostitute.

abundant_redundancie · 2020-06-16T11:04:08+00:00

I want all the benefits of having a girlfriend but none of the responsibilities of being a boyfriend

nosynobody · 2020-06-16T09:39:42+00:00

Lol seeing you start firm on your standards made him backtrack so fast. Such is the nature on NVM

pancakeCEO · 2020-06-16T07:39:52+00:00

Isn't casual dating dating without sex? That's why it's casual, right? No emotional nor physical intimacy. Why does it sound like the term is flipped when I hear it used nowadays?

CassieGreen85 · 2020-06-16T04:21:05+00:00

I like how he can only equate casual sex with one night stand. I thought he was being deliberately obtuse, but he's just clueless.

sugaredberry · 2020-06-16T14:43:33+00:00

This is called future faking (and done very poorly at that) and it’s a tactic narcissistic abusers use.

ChoiceMarionberry8 · 2020-06-16T12:43:40+00:00

I've always had a problem with this "no one-night stands" thing from guys like this. They do just want sex, but they want to have ongoing whenever they feel like it casual sex with women they'll never actually take out on a date, and won't lead to anything, and they want to avoid the kind of women who are open to have one-nighters, because they file those women in the "whore" category. I know some women who enjoy casual sex and much prefer hookups because there are boundaries, and it's much easier to manage than these guys who just want a free girlfriend experience escort. But men are onto this now, which is why every current Tinder profile says "no hookups or one-night stands", and then inevitably something about "casual fun". It's just another way to trap women who try to avoid being misled or manipulated. I don't want to start a debate about whether hookups are okay. But I do know that for women who feel that they can safely have casual sex, it is so much less fraught to just have sex with a guy who says he wants a hookup and then walk away, than it is to go down this road with one of these fakers. But a man would rather hurt and disappoint a woman who wants to date him than. Besides, men don't tend to go the marriage route after starting fun and casual. In my experience, they decide one day that they're ready to settle down and then approach every woman with that mentality. I've dated guys like that. They're not hard to spot. It's very obvious that they will marry the first woman who will have them. It's not about meeting the right person for them (men don't see women as people anyway); it's more about their own timing.

siberiansummer · 2020-06-16T17:04:08+00:00

Yeah, he wants a serious minded girl, not some whore who will be still going on dates and fucking other people. The same doesn't apply to him though. And if you pickmeisha yourself enough for him he might even commit to you after 7 years and becoming to lazy to look for more people to fuck

alyssa122687 · 2020-06-16T17:39:46+00:00

I read that as:

"I want casual "committed" sex. Meaning, I want you to commit sexually to me and only me but I actually have no plans on committing to you on an emotional level."

Manipulative, possessive and abusive.

balladwilds · 2020-06-16T10:43:48+00:00

Funny how he couldn't even answer your question

Myplummms · 2020-06-16T11:09:15+00:00

Should you be serious about your intentions with a relationship up front? I'm afraid it will just encourage pretenders.

xosunnybunn · 2020-06-16T17:43:52+00:00

This stuff used to anger me but now it's so easy to laugh at nvm

comet2004 · 2020-06-16T18:46:30+00:00

I hate it when guys say this. All relationships start casual even serious ones 🙄 you have to date for a while to like each other. He means he wants someone who is willing to sleep with him before exclusivity

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-06-17T19:58:37+00:00

He can’t even communicate what he wants- all he had to say was, I want to earn your trust as a friend, get to know you through good and bad while not expecting anything, and then properly date. That’s it, not hard dude

TamamShudResurgam · 2020-06-16T17:29:30+00:00

isn't casual dating dating to get to know each other without sex and emotional attachment? Isn't serious dating mean being committed already? How on earth they know if they are compatible enough for commitment without casual dating?

Cobmobster21 · 2020-06-17T01:10:07+00:00

I think I kinda understand what he’s thinking. Guys think that if we say we want something serious that we have to start out serious like a couple. Like nah it just means we want the same thing not necessarily that we’re compatible.

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