I have come to realize that men treat all social media like Tinder (Instagram especially). I guarantee you that over 90% of men's Instagram activity is spent seeking out women they want to have sex with, messaging those women, and tapping into the vast supply of free soft porn that pickmes provide on the app. If you exchange DMs with a man, you can see whenever he's active on the app. I've been texting with a guy who seemed HV and portrays himself as looking for a relationship, but after he sent me a video through IG DMs, I can see that he is on the app *all the time.* And I really mean all the time. It got me thinking-- men don't spend time talking with their guy friends on IG. No one just scrolls through (non-porn) posts for hours and hours on end. What he's doing is DMing women and/or viewing soft porn. He already has my number, but it's more convenient for him to be messaging me and the women whose numbers he doesn't have all in the same place.

This is not the behavior of a man who sees me as a potential gf; this is the behavior of a man who is casting as wide a net as possible to hook up with as many women as possible. Even if we did begin dating and he asked me to be his gf, I think it's unlikely this behavior would stop. Men's use of social media as dating apps is often as compulsive as their porn use. In fact, it overlaps with their porn use since so much of what they view on social media is soft porn.

In addition to looking at how often (and at what hours of the day) men are active on the app, also look through the accounts they follow. This will immediately rule out like 99% of your potential dating options, but it will save you a huge amount of time. Men act as though their following lists as private, and they often follow dozens or even hundreds of "models" and OnlyFans girls, seemingly without realizing (or without caring?) that everyone can see. Thanks to viewing men's social media use strategically, I now have a much better grasp on any given's man intentions and his level of porn addiction before even meeting him.