Ladies....this coming from a man

missamourcali · 2020-03-22T13:22:17+00:00

Online dating is full of very lazy men. They don't pursue the best target, they pursue the easiest. Chasing them is a race to the bottom.

Tbh, I wonder if dating apps disappeared, how many men would snap out of it. I am beginning to think these apps are bringing down women by reducing what they should expect from a partner.

Two hikes a year, Netflix 6 days a week, and oral the first two months. That's a good LTR these days 🙄

aclumsygirl · 2020-03-22T12:09:46+00:00

Never pursue a man, ever.

High value women are hard to get and easy to lose.

jetpatch · 2020-03-22T16:16:19+00:00

The thing is feminism shows that women don't need men. Research shows marriage causes a drop in life expectancy for women. Why should women chase something they don't need and is unhealthy for them? It's up to men to prove to women why they are personally valuable and useful to have around. Even just being a decent human being would be a start.

Skittleschild02 · 2020-03-22T11:49:28+00:00

Yup. During my pickmesha days, I was always the purser. I was making efforts while they’re barely putting in the minimal. Now, I just sit and ignore or respond to messages days, weeks, months, or years later.

GlamorKiss · 2020-03-22T12:07:04+00:00

What I don’t understand is the majority of men telling us to do it and that it’s good for us to do this.

I know a guy who really admired and liked me though but was taken, and when I said I was single to him (he asked) he said that’s a shame because I seem approachable and guys should try.

Like the fact that this man thought highly of me and thought I was gorgeous looking with a good personality a great catch, and he didn’t try to advise me to approach men. This makes me think.

Also another man I know irl he never tells me to approach men and go for it and he knows one day I’d like to be married.

siberiansummer · 2020-03-22T13:15:09+00:00

Why of course. What else is new.

love2cit · 2020-03-22T12:46:09+00:00

From the horses mouth, what we already knew.

LadyGrimes · 2020-03-22T16:56:56+00:00

I don't know if there was something in the air, but back when my dying husband was in the nursing home, and I was out doing shopping or whatever, guys were fucking hitting on me and it made me so mad I wanted to scream.

It was like did I have some fucking neon sign over my head that said available? I just didn't get it. Now, and about 5 months after my husband's passing it never happens anymore. Makes me glad but I just found it the strangest damn thing that I was a target when I was in the pre-grief stage. I was more sad then and I'm more angry and bitter now. Hopefully that will keep these pricks away from me for good.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-03-22T13:36:48+00:00

That's so sad.

Soulsalts · 2020-03-22T15:10:35+00:00

He's exactly right that's it's not feminism for you to have to do the man's work as well as your own.

However, I'm not sure why he had to all-caps the word man. "I am a MAN." Of course you are, sweetie, now chill the f out.

nutshit · 2020-03-23T01:30:32+00:00

My friends (girls and guys) have been HELL BENT on me approaching men I think are attractive. I tell them “hell no” every single time. They don’t get its so unladylike to do so and for me to chase him, he’ll lose respect and try to sleep with me and nothing else. If we go further, I would have set the tone for the relationship that I am the pursuer.... fuck that. I’d rather sit here nice and pretty.

2020-03-22T20:57:26+00:00

Men are parasites, and they are letting us know.

Crimson_Oblivion · 2020-03-22T16:30:35+00:00

I’m a woman, and this man’s response is 100% true.

talesofdouchebaggery · 2020-03-22T17:18:20+00:00

I don’t have any issues with pursuing men, but the reality is that it just doesn’t work. I’ve tried. This post is 100% correct. Men don’t want a woman to initiate. I wish it wasn’t like that but it is.

2020-03-23T10:00:38+00:00

Straight from the horses mouth yet this sub us labeled misandrist hatred for discussing the methods in which men will use women.

Crimson_Oblivion · 2020-03-22T19:46:36+00:00

Sorry.

Crimson_Oblivion · 2020-03-22T16:30:41+00:00

I’m a woman, and this man’s response is 100% true.

Title	Ladies....this coming from a man
Author	12sushi
Upvotes	541
Comments	63
Date	March 22, 2020 11:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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