I strongly believe the issues we’re facing today with men is because we’ve erased the necessity of shame. The level of problems with men experienced today are monumental and unprecedented. There used to be societal levels of pressure and shame against men that did not conform and serve a purpose in society. Get a job, join the military, raise a family, commit to a relationship, etc. Now, it’s unacceptable to think your partner should not be playing video games all day, jerking off, and never proposing. You should just be strung along throughout your 20s without hope of commitment, when our grandmothers would never dream of it.

the social crises we are currently experiencing on the gender and sexual fronts are ones of normalization. people no longer want to feel ashamed for anything shameful they are or do, and thus are demanding unprecedented levels of social acceptance. as little as 20 years ago, if you wanted to wear cat ears and go for walkies on a leash by a neckbeard you called daddy -- you'd keep that shit to your fucking self.

society would not be involved, let alone you trying to actively broadcast your "kink" as a personality trait. ... now, every deviant and their dog wants a "community" in which to feel "validated" and talk ad nauseam about their desires in an attempt to avoid the shame that is ORGANIC to such deviances.

"normalization" is the scourge to target. not the beliefs or actions themselves. Marshall McLuhan said "the medium is the message," meaning broadly that the way content is delivered impacts the perception of the content, and thus the content itself.

Pornography's "normalization" is inherent to its mode of delivery. Porn used to be a physical thing which warranted hiding. It was tapes stashed behind the beaded curtains at the back of a video rental store, or lewd magazines carefully placed behind others at a 7-11. The mode of delivery communicated "shame."Now, porn is consumed on the same device you text your mother with, a tab away from the email you need to send to your boss, a swipe from tracking your dinner on UberEats.

It has become integrated to "normality," and as such demands to be treated as such.