Let’s normalize calling scrote behavior for what it is! Manipulation, abuse, and lies

Bwolffff · 2021-05-03T11:14:27+00:00

I was called “immature” yesterday by a guy because I said I don’t want to date someone who hooks up with younger women or can’t give head well. Men are clearly the sensitive ones :)

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-05-03T04:35:58+00:00

Yes! And can we stop telling young girls that boys are bullying them because hE lIkEs YoU? That is so damaging. I actually had an older person tell me that i shouldn’t be upset that my bf treated me like shit, because “sometimes people treat the people they feel closest to the worst”. Nah, miss me with that shit. If you have to feel less close to me to treat me with respect, then do it. I don’t care how, just do what you need to do to show respect, or gtfo.

girlanarchy · 2021-05-03T03:16:32+00:00

This resonates - I’m just about finished with “Why Does He Do That?” and it’s making me sad to see how badly I missed the signs/clues in my past relationship.

He used to laugh at me whenever I tied to calmly talk about issues in our relationship or disagreed with me, and would get upset at me and imply I was just being manipulative whenever I cried. These assholes have no empathy in them.

Big-Paleontologist13 · 2021-05-03T02:35:55+00:00

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girl_in_red_costume · 2021-05-03T02:26:38+00:00

When I called out the scrote I was seeing bc he posted a pic huging a girl and with a love dovey caption (and lots of hearts), he said he used to date her but now she was like a sister and omg he didn't know I was that jealous (I just politely stated that I would apreciate if he had told me he had a gf beforehand and that I wouldn't see him anymore).

I mean, yeah, all the guys I slept with I now see as brothers... lol

2021-05-03T03:03:58+00:00

I needed to see this. Left Reddit for awhile and got involved with a man who used the “You’re sensitive” lie. Glad I ended it and blocked his emotionally abusive existence before he could impact or hurt me more. Waste of time.

Skittleschild02 · 2021-05-03T03:29:24+00:00

Gawd. I was called difficult. Like, nah. You’re not going to handle me any type of way.

MissIncongruousNY · 2021-05-03T13:37:57+00:00

It's not just manipulation, it's emotional abuse. The same guy tried to tell me that I am too sensitive, I don't know how to take a joke (when he put me down, because he was just joking), and that there is nothing wrong that he likes/loves and comments on dozens of single women's selfies on social media on the daily, because it doesn't mean anything and he can't handle someone being so jealous.

ima35yearoldwhiteman · 2021-05-03T08:17:26+00:00

it’s also manipulation when a man says he will stop doing something that makes you sad or uncomfortable and continues to do it!! if a man really wants you he will never deliberately put you in a position where you are unhappy!

queenagave · 2021-05-03T04:53:37+00:00

Just called the NVM out on this tonight. Felt so good.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-05-03T13:16:05+00:00

This reminds me of a guy I knew. I was trying to save money for necessary renovation work (serious shit I had to do to make sure my house was up to code) and was not going out much so I could do this. This guy asked me to go get dinner with him, his “treat”. I agreed. We got dinner and then he insisted we go to the arcade/bar next door afterwards. He asks me what drink I want and when the bartender comes back he says in front of her : “Oh that’s right! You never pay for anything!”. I was mortified. He knew I should not be spending money, he makes 6 figures, he asked me out, specifically said he was paying, embarrassed me in from of bar staff, and then later that night when I told him over text message how wrong this all was, he told me I was too sensitive. 😳 Needless to say I ghosted his ass and he no longer has my current number. This is a guy who was infatuated with me for years and wrote me poetry. We reconnected and I gave him a chance but he ruined an otherwise nice connection and good relationship potential. Men are so stupid.

2021-05-03T12:01:22+00:00

Also, if he is saying you’re the only one (s)he treats like that, it’s lies.

bravebeautyx · 2021-05-03T17:11:56+00:00

I really connect with the first 2 slides. Absolutely true statements. Someone saying “you’re too sensitive” is really because that person is gaslighting and does not want to sit with the fact that what they are saying or doing legitimately hurt you. Even if it’s just a little. Someone actually understanding would take the time to listen and say “okay, how can I say it better?” Or “I’m sorry I hurt you, I think it came off the wrong way, let me try to rephrase that..”

But it’s rare to find someone who will actually try and understand however I have found one man in my life who ACTUALLY said those things to me.

My ex on the other hand gaslighted the shit out of my entire existence and by the end of our 3 years together I had no idea who tf I was.

Crows-and-Ravens0 · 2021-05-04T02:24:38+00:00

I've been told I "exaggerate" 🙄.

I am no longer in communication with the people who said that, and those associated with them 😃.

Can't be around people who can't believe me when I speak 🤷‍♀️.

2021-05-03T09:18:26+00:00

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quirkypinkllama · 2021-05-05T14:26:25+00:00

amen.

Title	Let’s normalize calling scrote behavior for what it is! Manipulation, abuse, and lies
Author	eleguagirl
Upvotes	1943
Comments	45
Date	May 3, 2021 1:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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