Men and general cleanliness/grooming

pickadaisy · 2021-01-14T05:37:31+00:00

They are lazy and still get rewarded.

Stop giving these guys the time of day and eventually we will weed them out of the gene pool.

Aggressive_Birthday4 · 2021-01-14T05:02:56+00:00

I’ve met men that justified never getting tested for STI/STD’s because the women they were sleeping with would keep up with it 😥 Like why??? I guess for the same reason they coerce women into not using protection?

Platipus6 · 2021-01-14T05:07:06+00:00

They hate being told they're a failure. If they ignore it they can stay in their delusions that they're effortlessly fantastic.

aquietsword · 2021-01-14T05:40:15+00:00

So many comment about going back to not washing their hands in post Corona times. They make it sound like they're joking but they aren't. This pandemic has thoroughly turned me off the whole group of them, tbh.

Cat-druid · 2021-01-14T06:39:35+00:00

I think about this a lot too. In my previous relationship I realized my ex was only cursorily brushing his teeth once a day, to the point where it was visibly obvious and his breath smelled. When I finally told him I’d appreciate it if he’d at least brush his teeth twice a day, he had the audacity to get upset at me and went all “woe-is-me” on me.

I think it comes down to a combo of toxic masculinity and just never facing any consequences for lazy basic grooming. Things like taking care of your nails and skin are seen as “feminine” and discouraged/mocked in traditionally masculine circles, so a lot of men are shamed for or discouraged from trying them. And with basic grooming like showering or brushing your teeth you run into the issue that humans generally don’t point out this sort of embarrassing faux-pas even if they notice because doing so is super awkward for all parties involved. So men go nose-blind to their own smell and don’t notice their greasy hair or grimy teeth anymore, and because no one else tells them that it’s not cool, they get lazy and just stop trying because they think no one notices the difference.

LevelTurbulent · 2021-01-14T08:05:47+00:00

I didn’t realize how low the bar has become for me until I started dating a man who washes his hands every time he eats. If he goes into the kitchen, he washes his hands. It’s so nice.

I remember having to yell at my husband to wash his hands after he would take a shit and then get back into bed and try to touch me. And he’d act like I was a nag because I didn’t want an infection from his dirty hands.

And he was a guy who looked clean and showered every day and no one would have thought he was dirty but he rarely washes his hands. It was gross.

AriaLuz · 2021-01-14T11:20:12+00:00

Men are disgusting. I don’t know why women are rushing to live with them. I read a post where a wife realized her husband does not wipe after 💩. You want to know how she found out. He left skid marks on their sheets in their bed room. His excuse (NOT REASON) is men don’t wash their ass because that’s gay and feminine. So his ass is basically glued together by old shit and someone still married him. Hopefully they divorced but I doubt it.

The crazy thing is he is not an isolated case. A good percentage of men do not wipe after shitting or even wash between their cheeks in the shower.

nurulfakasha · 2021-01-14T08:08:11+00:00

Given the amount of women talking about men who do not wash their hands REGULARLY made me realise i didn't list hand-washing in my original post because I thought EVERYONE did it. Oh LORD.

I'm not shaking hands with people anymore.

Davina33 · 2021-01-14T07:57:02+00:00

Beards, now goodness knows what is living in those things! I think I saw a study once that said they were dirtier than a toilet seat 🤮 not to mention they hide receding and double chins. I've never had a boyfriend who matches me in the hygiene department. I just think generally, us women are much more hygienic. Finding a man who brushes and flosses twice daily is nigh on impossible.

lollykpops · 2021-01-14T11:13:38+00:00

Because men have been taught that they are worthwhile for who they are inside, and women have been taught that they are worthwhile for who they are outside.

Simply put men are conditioned from a young age to expect the best from their partner regardless of how much effort they put in. So they don’t bother.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-01-14T13:48:45+00:00

Cuz they are LVM

Shit stains and shit smell is a GIGANTIC RED FLAG.

tallwomenneedlovetoo · 2021-01-14T13:16:20+00:00

Toxic masculinity convinced men that caring and keeping up themselves was somehow feminine. Aka dirty gross dudes peer pressured weak and mindless follower dudes to quit taking care of themselves. I’m not into men getting manicures or having perfectly waxed brows (Tim from Tim and Jennifer of 90 Day Fiancé anybody???) but plucking the unibrow, cutting fingernails and filing them down so they aren’t little daggers, and smelling good are a must.

Plus, I think that lack of care for their person translates into lack of keeping up with basic housekeeping duties. If you won’t wash your ass, how can you be expected to sweep a floor? My husband is more fastidious in his self care routines than I am and that’s reflected in how he does all of his chores. I’m talking lines in the carpet with a vacuum and a thorough wash of dishes in the sink prior to sterilizing them in the dish washer.

loftycries · 2021-01-14T19:38:16+00:00

I’m embarrassed to admit my recent ex falls into this category. He’s already overweight (bordering morbidly obese) and after moving in with him (I know), I realized that he doesn’t shower every day (usually every 2-3), he doesn’t wash his face (??), he refuses to keep his facial hair (beard and eyebrows) properly groomed, and I didn’t find his oral hygiene was up to snuff either (and he’s a mouth-breather so I got to really enjoy that one /s)

I tried to nicely convince him to do these things, but quickly stopped because I’m not his mother. The mans is 36. He should know better. I don’t know why basic hygiene is so foreign to them.

He’s a nice guy, I loved him FoR HiS pErSoNaLiTy and was able to (briefly) overlook all of the above but it got to me eventually. Attraction is so important in a relationship and this all turned me off so bad. I will never, ever date someone like this again.

nurulfakasha · 2021-01-14T12:22:59+00:00

Because they're men. I'm not joking either. My oldest brother used to put me down really badly for not having the toppest tier hygiene. He told me that I need to shower every single day and smell good because I'm girl (you're really not supposed to shower every single day because you wash away good bacteria and leave yourself vulnerable to getting sick. I also think this can cause dry skin which is something I struggle with)

Yet with him, he can come home with corn chips vinegar smelling feet and armpits that smell like onion. He doesn't have to shower everyday because hE's A gUy (and yes he did say this).

frenchroast67 · 2021-01-14T17:10:19+00:00

I recently noticed that they guy I’ve been seeing for a few months has beard dandruff that falls onto the front of his shirt. I’m seriously reevaluating our relationship

purasangria · 2021-01-14T23:34:13+00:00

Because there are so many Pickmeshas that give these gross men a pass, that now they know that they can put in literally zero effort on their appearance and still get a date. Men are gross.

Title	Men and general cleanliness/grooming
Author	nurulfakasha
Upvotes	114
Comments	43
Date	January 14, 2021 2:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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