Okay 🙌🏼

KetoKittenAround · 2020-08-09T16:21:10+00:00

I like the high effort and all of that. But would caution any woman to really KNOW a man before going vacation with them.

They will undoubtedly expect things.

Even if you have a guy friend and you pay your own way. Be careful. I had a “friend” change his whole attitude on a friends vacation. I had never seen anything like it.

I was so put off by him and his behavior (we were friends for years!) that I left his ass without a ride home. Yes I did ladies. I was the driver and I just packed my stuff up all quiet and snuck out in the dark of night and drove home. He woke up having to scramble a bus or flights or whatever. Never spoke to him again!

Never for a moment did I regret it!

Edit to say thank you for the award! My very first one and that it came from such a wonderful community really made my day! Thanks!

beautysubthroww · 2020-08-09T16:56:01+00:00

Am I the only one who'd be uncomfortable with this? What if I don't want to be his gf yet? Am I just stuck on an island with him for another week? Or what if he "expects" something?

I think this kind of thing is awesome in an established relationship, but it just reeks of lovebombing when you're not even at the "being official" stage. Someone tell me if my concerns are valid or if I'm just being a pickmeisha.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-08-09T17:27:26+00:00

I had something similar happen (dude took me on a weekend trip to a ski resort) and it was honestly kind of weird because if I’d said no, I would have been stuck in a whole other state with him and it would have been weird. We were friends prior to us dating so it wasn’t that odd for us to do some things together and I kind of had a feeling that was the point of the trip because I knew he was interested but I probably wouldn’t have been ok with it now. I kind of overlooked the weirdness because I did like him and want to date him. (He also did not end up being high value, he knew how to fake it a lot of the time and present himself like he was but he was secretly in love with his female best friend the whole time and denying it even tho I could totally tell, it ended pretty quickly because I couldn’t get over that feeling. I think he was hoping that I’d distract him and help him get over it and I wanted no part of it).

xNayxNayx · 2020-08-09T20:07:40+00:00

This is what my ex did for me. It was the most amazing experience I’d ever had.

But he ended up being trash.

Men have flown me out to some pretty dope places and we’ve had some really dope times. Maybe I’m jaded, but always remember: a man can give high value goodies but that might be all that’s high value about him.

cece188 · 2020-08-09T19:05:55+00:00

Ehhh, I don’t really like the idea of going on a trip with a man who isn’t even your boyfriend. Something like this maybe would be nice for a marriage proposal, but not to ask someone to be your girlfriend.

It just seems dangerous, along with the guy maybe having expectations of having sex.

MalloryDame · 2020-08-09T21:45:42+00:00

I don't think it's very safe to go on vacation with a guy you don't know very well... Unless they were friends, this is actually a bit creepy. But happy to see it went well!

ErikaNaumann · 2020-08-09T23:55:15+00:00

I would never go on a 3 day getaway with a man that wasn't my boyfriend already.

JaneIsaPain · 2020-08-09T23:50:10+00:00

This is unecessary and puts the woman at risk

2020-08-09T19:11:35+00:00

Everyone is asked to netflix and chill. You gotta turn that shit down and stay on your queen energy so you're open for better offers.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-09T16:31:34+00:00

This is it

Title	Okay 🙌🏼
Author	sourrolls
Upvotes	560
Comments	56
Date	August 9, 2020 4:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/i6ls7f/okay/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/okay.723620 https://theredarchive.com/post/723620

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