OP’s boyfriend manipulated her into thinking she had body odor, because his dad thought him how to neg women

meecy166 · 2020-06-08T03:23:49+00:00

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Boyfriend won’t stop telling me I have B.O.

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and everything has been great except for one thing. Every single day, at least once, he will tell me that I stink and smell of b.o.

When we met I showered every day, applied regular deodorant in the morning, brushed my teeth three times a day. Now I am so paranoid about smelling bad that I shower at least twice a day, I apply new industrial strength deodorant every few hours (I have a reminder on my phone), perfume, and I brush my teeth anytime I eat or drink something that isn’t water.

I feel like I’m going crazy. I didn’t think I smelled bad in the beginning and I don’t think I smell bad now but I obviously smell bad to him right? Im that weirdo that keeps “sneakily” smelling their own armpits. I have been to the doctor and he has said there is nothing medically wrong. It has honestly gotten to the point where I literally shove my arm pit in friends and families faces asking if I smell bad, they all say I don’t smell like b.o. at all, one friend even said I smelled too clean like a lush store.

I am getting so paranoid. He won’t cuddle or anything when he says I smell. I really don’t know what more I can do?

Update - so unexpected edit. I waited for him to make a comment this morning so I could talk to him. It was less than an hour after waking up that he said “god you stink” I had already showered and put on deodorant. I snapped and asked what exactly was he smelling because, at this point I’m one of the cleanest people on the planet and if I still smell bad to him then we should just break up.

He got all panicked and upset, I eventually got out of him that this is what he father always said to his mother. Apparently his father told him that is was a sure fire technique to have a woman never leave you because “she will feel too low to cheat, will love only you, and will always be clean”.

Needless to say, his father is wrong. He’s packing his things and moving out of my house today.

Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gy79dx/boyfriend_wont_stop_telling_me_i_have_bo/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

ScrappleSandwiches · 2020-06-08T03:54:13+00:00

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mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-06-08T03:50:56+00:00

He is a piece of shit and his father is also a piece of shit. Surprised there were someone willing to fuck his father. If someone tells me I have body odor, I’m gonna kindly ask him to fuck off and find someone who doesn’t think I have body odor.

Todaystomorrow123 · 2020-06-08T04:13:09+00:00

The disrespect in this is infuriating. “She will feel too low to cheat” Is he that insecure that he cannot trust his woman to stay confident and loyal? NVM to the max!

Bovvsette · 2020-06-08T05:09:58+00:00

Whoever thought that negging was a great and sustainable ”dating technique” is an absolute idiot. Seriously? Your ”beloved” and women in general will never catch on that the only thing that's not quite right around here is your forced bullshit negative opinion that doesn't match the facts? And how in the world does making someone feel bad will make them want to stay around you forever? If anything it will make them want to avoid and stay away from you. Only scrotes could possibly come up with backwards logic like that. But it makes it easier to spot the scum and take the trash out faster, so there's that. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Loonelle · 2020-06-08T06:02:49+00:00

Had a guy try negging me at work, I avoid him like the plague and he always tries talking to me. It is driving him crazy lol. These losers don't get we can play games better than them.

rinabean · 2020-06-08T07:43:44+00:00

This is also why I don't think you can judge a man by whether or not his parents are (still) married like I've seen some women say. His parents having a lasting marriage is not an indicator that he has seen a man treating a woman well, at all. Men have 1000 ways to make women stay

TheOGJammies · 2020-06-08T05:07:02+00:00

I honestly had to put my phone down after reading this.

qveen_13 · 2020-06-08T10:04:32+00:00

Omg!!! My ex of 6yrs did the exact thing to me. He won't even kiss me. I did the whole thing like she did. When he broke up with me I got traumatized so much that I was so afraid to be intimate with anyone or even get close to them. For fear of leaving me cause I smell bad.

Now, my dates keep mentioning how good i smell. Makes me think that what my ex did was the same as OP.

chinchaslyth · 2020-06-08T05:30:02+00:00

Men are so stupid to ask other men for relationship advice about women. So over that kind of stupidity.

mandoa_sky · 2020-06-08T06:23:51+00:00

i'm glad she ditched the jackass instead of staying and playing therapist.

eru378 · 2020-06-08T07:32:40+00:00

The shithead apple doesn't fall far from the shithead tree

Saitschik · 2020-06-08T10:47:16+00:00

So the moment he walks down the stairs in the morning he says she stinks? And she put up with that for a whole year? Insane. The dude is mentally ill

ApartPersonality · 2020-06-08T06:37:12+00:00

I got the douche chills

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-06-08T19:07:45+00:00

I've been abused by women and by men and what I notice is women are usually motivated by a desire to feel emotionally fulfilled by someone else, whereas men quite honestly just get off in making you feel crazy.

They created a system that bases a woman's worth on male approval and self image that way they can control us based on this and so we will believe anything they say against our better judgement because we have already been taught that we are fundamentally flawed anyway.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-06-08T14:11:40+00:00

Holy guacamole!!! What a dick move of him. And wow, what a total Queen move for her. I actually got goosebumps reading that she’s kicked him out. Holy yes!!!

svntorini · 2020-06-08T16:39:58+00:00

Omg when you said “because his father taught him how to neg women” I thought you were joking. How do LVM continue to surprise me with just how low they can get?

2020-06-08T16:21:59+00:00

I wonder what made him this time tell her the truth? Like, he regularly says “God, you stink” and then one day decides to spill the beans that it’s some crazy power play. Maybe he was doing that weak thing where he wanted to break up but wanted it to be her fault.

TERFSareawesome · 2020-06-08T21:32:23+00:00

I think a lot of men do this and they also have this idea that every woman is supposed to smell like a fresh sun-kissed strawberry at all times. I kind of like a tiny little hint of BO on a man- where you get HIS distinct scent, just a bit of it, before it goes into full fledged bad smelling BO territory. I've had a guy ask me if I wanted gum while we were making out and it made me so paranoid I asked my bluntest friend to smell my breath and breathed directly in her face, super close. She was like "No, omg your breath smells amazing!" I truly cant remember making out with someone who I even thought had bad breath, because if they do you can small it while youre talking to them. I think (some) men just expect women not to smell/taste HUMAN and to smell like sunshine and rainbows all the time. It's so unsexy and infantilizing and sterile. Like i have made out with my fair share of guys, and they all tasted different, but none of them had BAD breath, just different tastes, because bad breath hits you a mile away. Men just have the most absurd standard and seem incapable of appreciating the actual scent of females... which is pathetic and a huge turn off

notbasic4karen · 2020-06-08T03:49:21+00:00

Thank god she dumped him.

radical__daphne · 2020-06-08T06:09:11+00:00

At least she dumped this fucker but she put up with it for a year? How stupid you got to be?

--wellDAM-- · 2020-06-08T09:56:17+00:00

Don’t get your hopes up, guys. She’ll watch him pout and whine and play the victim while he “”””packs”””” I.e., puts on a show. She’ll say “oh yeah I’m serious. Did you learn your lesson?”

And he “will” have learned it, however always shifting blame because poor poor baby didn’t know not to abuse his gf, and she will think she has the upper hand or whatever. She’ll let him stick around.

Title	OP’s boyfriend manipulated her into thinking she had body odor, because his dad thought him how to neg women
Author	meecy166
Upvotes	331
Comments	53
Date	June 8, 2020 3:23 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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