Pickmeishas be like

persephones_torch · 2020-05-21T16:23:32+00:00

I find it very abusive to put pressure on women to provide sex, maid duties, cook services. emotional labor, childbearing, childcaring, and therapy while being expected to bear this all with smile on our beautifully painted faces as we "reform" these badly raised men.

shrno · 2020-05-21T16:31:57+00:00

"...A life we cannot provide for ourselves" WTF are you talking about??? I'm 26, I finished my studies, own a house, a car, a business, pay for all my food, clothes, makeup, travel, etc... I'm not married, I don't have a boyfriend, I don't fuck with men. Why is this girl acting like she can't do anything without a man??? She won't get far in life trying to be picked by men who don't even see her as a human being.

Maisiebr · 2020-05-21T16:12:12+00:00

Providing doesn't mean that they should save us. It means that they put the effort in and prove themselves to be reliable and generous for when you will sacrifice your professional life to have his children (if you don't want children, there are other factors too, but I'll speak for myself). You risk your health, you put yourself in a vulnerable position in almost every aspect of life (professionally too), so if he can't put the effort in in the beginning that means he isn't worth your precious time.

timeknife · 2020-05-21T21:19:46+00:00

Except... As of 2017 in the United States, 84.4% of black women are primary, sole or co-breadwinners

Pickmeism is a brain rotting disease. This woman is displaying a serious lack of observational and critical thinking skills.

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-05-21T16:27:39+00:00

I find it very abusive to put pressure on women to provide men with a life they cannot provide for themselves as men. As much as men are not poverty eradication plans for lazy women, women are not private chefs, maids, therapists, child-bearers, teachers, and assistants for emotionally stunted, selfish, gluttonous, slovenly, useless men.

We can do this all day, you pick-me-ass bitch. 🙄

Lovelywings2 · 2020-05-22T00:37:18+00:00

Ahhh, this is my favourite topic. I have time today.

This Pickmeisha is Nigerian and I presume lives in Nigeria.

Nigerian men do NOT do housework or cook etc. It is so rare for a husband in Nigeria to see household chores as something he should share even 30-70% with his wife. Which means you the woman is trying to earn as much money as him, working the same level of hours, then coming home and doing 75-100% of the cooking, cleaning or household management. Then being subject to the emotional and physical abuse that is relatively common there. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence_in_Nigeria

Then there are patriarchal traditional beliefs where in some of the more common ethnic groups, people believe that the mans wealth and resources belong to his family of origin first BEFORE his children or even you the wife. Can’t tell you how many stories I’ve heard of a man dying, then his brothers, sisters and distant cousins swoop on the house and pack up anything of value, or refuse to hand over things that legally belong to the wife and kids (eg. house, land, cars). The police don’t have time for such cases. The wife will be tied up in court for years trying to get back that Land or house.

We’re not even going to discuss the issue of sexual infidelity, especially in the big cities . The idea that women must forgive such ‘momentary lapses of judgement’

It’s in that context that this Pickmeisha wants to level the playing field for women in terms of their financial contribution?

As someone who lived in Nigeria as an adult and has found 95-99% of Nigerian men useless and abusive as partners, I say fuck her. Every single intelligent female friend or female relative I know in her 30s has sworn off Nigerian men for the reasons I lay out above. They are among the most entitled men on the planet and it is incredibly rare to find one who will treat you the way he expects to be treated in marriage. You should be financially independent because men will use their money as a tool to control and abuse you, not because you want to make things easier for the poor Nigerian man.

Nigerian women (especially Lagos women) can be FDS gangstas. My friend who is a lawyer, financially independent and working in Lagos has told me straight up (regarding her standards for marriage) that she would “rather cry in a Ferrari than in a Peugeot”. There is an issue with some Nigerian women being overly materialistic, but I would argue to the death that the patriarchal culture has caused this.

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-05-21T16:08:04+00:00

Ooh the poor losers over there crying.

cremeblushers · 2020-05-21T20:20:52+00:00

MEN are the ones that put that pressure on themselves when they decided to be the “providers” and “man of the house 💪🏽” while lashing out on the women if they made more money or had better jobs. I don’t feel bad at all for them, they made their sexist bed now they have to lie in it.

2020-05-21T16:56:54+00:00

Men know women have a lot of sympathy and are taught to be thoughtful, that's why many women are not greedy or egoistic. That's why broken men go to healthy minded women and expect the women to fix them instead of going to a therapy like a f*cking adult and we get blamed for it "You should've chosen better" but when we do set standards and join FDS we get called femcels, high maintenance and gold-diggers though most women just want a non-abusive non-addict employed man who is generous and knows how to show love that we are attracted to.

What men call egoistic is a woman who puts herself first as she should.

wish_i_wasntavampire · 2020-05-21T16:22:26+00:00

Strawman. No one is putting pressure on men to provide.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-05-21T16:52:51+00:00

If the MRAs think that what you said is great, that's an indication that there's something wrong lol

myousername · 2020-05-21T16:25:31+00:00

Flair for this post should be pickmeisha hall of fame 😂

Nina-Nina- · 2020-05-23T11:50:48+00:00

Girl stop it. I’ve played pickme like most women, but this has ALWAYS been my dealbreaker. I will not shack up with or marry a man that has me paying bills. You have to be on subterranean bum levels to fail at at least doing that. There are LVM that will pay the bills, loser and all. Sorry, but why should I invite a man into my life who can’t provide? I’m not having children and rushing off to work, still bleeding and engorged because you’re too broke to carry the household. “Abusive”, lmao. This is what happens when you’re raised to feel sorry for and role reverse with men. You start seeing them as delicate flowers in need of saving and protection. He is a MAN. I wish I would listen to a man cry about paying bills.

mscristalconnors · 2020-05-21T21:35:48+00:00

Yo, I’ve made more money than any man I dated before. I only date men who make 100k and up.

I got my money. Get yours too, losers.

fiercefinance · 2020-05-22T01:34:21+00:00

Ugh of course there's a men's rights sub. What a delight that must be.

UsefulLeek · 2020-05-23T11:17:48+00:00

Ew this was all over my Facebook. I really don’t have time for men that, who have an entire system stacked in their favor in literally every country, can’t support themselves and me. It’s not even that I need it, I just don’t have time for it.

lemon_hearts · 2020-05-22T03:06:42+00:00

It’s true. Men can choose not to provide shit. It’s a matter of them learning not to expect shit in return that’s the issue.

TimWhortons · 2020-05-21T19:55:17+00:00

I don't think she's a pickme, it sounds like shes saying that just as men shouldn't be emotionally stunted and expect a women to pick up the slack, women shouldn't expect men to pick up the financial slack. This tweet is targeted towards LVW who expect a millionaire but aren't willing to work themselves

sadcello · 2020-05-26T11:39:21+00:00

MRA and pickmes always seem to forget we live in modern era now. More women are more educated and employed, especially in this pandemic economy. Women can provide for themselves just fine, it's men who can't even make sandwich for themselves, you all really think it's still women who need men and not vice versa?

Or are you talking about women for poorer countries? There's nobody forcing men to go there and marry them (oh wait, redpill tells them to). Any women who speak up about it are called ugly feminazi who's jealous that men don't want her. You brought this issue yourself, you can just avoid it entirely by choosing an independent women with a job, oh but you all hate her because she emasculate you.

Fucking men. Nothing they say make sense. Nothing they say derived from logic or facts. You actually realize not even them know what they're saying. They're just meme'ing and mirroring what women say without basing their claims with any shred of logic or facts. Fucking menchildren.

Title	Pickmeishas be like
Author	TheOGJammies
Upvotes	159
Comments	49
Date	May 21, 2020 3:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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