I have been dating what seemed to be a HVM the last 6 months. I decided I really liked him and it was time for me to know if this was a relationship that was going to work out.

I went ahead and started vetting that with conversations about the future. I didn’t like his answers. He wanted us to keep going until those issues arose (career change, moving, differences in beliefs. etc). After hearing that and considering my own feelings, I decided to end it.

Why?

  1. I don’t need to date someone for 2 years to figure out how I feel. My time is valuable. I shouldn’t have to wait 2 years for him to figure it out.

  2. Agreeing to work for a relationship and make decisions to put it first is the bare minimum. Any hesitation, any postponement means it’s already doomed.

  3. It doesn’t matter how much you like him. If it’s not reciprocated, you haven’t lost a thing.

FDS, I’ve saved my time, protected my feelings and lost dead weight.

Never stop vetting, trust your gut, and make sure you’re getting what you want.