It really hit me tonight.

funwish · 2012-07-15T11:54:01+00:00

On top of that, she could very easily accuse you of sexual assault if she felt embarrassed enough, and there would be very little you could do about it.

thrway_1000 · 2012-07-15T11:56:02+00:00

The sad thing is, this probably happens more than people will admit. Men rarely press charges on these things, so there are no statistics or even news to help understand the prevalence or how it affects the men/boys this happens too.

Sexual harassment, sexual assault, and rape are just not considered valid concerns for males. It's like it means nothing and/or is totally ignored when the sexes are reversed on these offenses. Its a problem society will have to face in the future as our culture starts balancing aggression between the genders. Which is happening with the rising number of female offenders. It's something a just society based on equality can't just ignore.

phukka · 2012-07-15T12:07:00+00:00

She'll probably still be upset with you tomorrow, even though you didn't have sex with her.

Being a man in this situation is pretty much lose/lose. GL with the impending argument.

ENTP · 2012-07-15T14:35:21+00:00

The worst part: had she been successful on coercing you, then later regretted it, you would be the one facing charges, not her.

AbsoluteBlack · 2012-07-15T15:31:01+00:00

I had a moment that made me realize the need for MRAs as well. I visited my mom and was telling her about this dog my girlfriend's parents rescued that had been abused with a shock collar. My mom agreed that it was terrible to use a shock collar on a dog. Then she joked that it should only be used on men. She joked that the shock collar should but put on their balls to keep them faithful.

She and I have had a rocky relationship for a long time and being raised male hearing things like that really kills your self worth. I doubt she will ever understand how much damage she caused. Nobody should grow up thinking there is something inherently bad or wrong with them just because of their gender.

rightsbot · 2012-07-15T11:38:17+00:00

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greycubed · 2012-07-15T12:39:31+00:00

Scariest part of a situation like that is the fear she'll retaliate about the rejection. Or make accusations against you simply out of fear you'll tell people about it and she feels the need to discredit you.

I recommend faking gay or being in love with someone else. That way it's not about her and she's assured you won't be telling anyone about that night.

OP I strongly suggest you make nice with her tomorrow.

Hamakua · 2012-07-15T14:06:11+00:00

Let me ask you something. What do you think she would have done had you rejected her?

irishsnowday · 2012-07-15T22:22:31+00:00

I agree, but for the mean time, stay in public areas. Make sure the staff of the place you go to (whether it be a bar, or a club) are around, because they aren't allowed to be intoxicated, and make excellent witnesses. It's much easier to leave a situation when you are in public as well.

It's important to make sure that other people see what's going on.

DavidByron · 2012-07-16T05:21:23+00:00

If it was flipped, I'd be going to jail.

Worse: if it wasn't flipped YOU would still be the one going to jail after she assaulted you then reported you as a rapist the next morning.

mackjackson · 2012-07-15T14:22:37+00:00

Yes, you are totally fucked if you have female room mates or cohabitate with a woman. Heck in some countries she can even "change her mind" after consensual sex and run to the police claiming it was rape. Just look at what happened to Julian Assange in Stockholm.

AbsoluteBlack · 2012-07-15T17:56:47+00:00

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TerriChris · 2012-07-16T02:00:31+00:00

Your word against hers. You lose in court.

Shattershift · 2012-07-15T16:44:48+00:00

It's the state of things to be sure. In truth there is very little true trust that can be safely afforded to women nowadays, as the risks are very high.

typhonblue · 2012-07-15T21:33:43+00:00

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PaulMurrayCbr · 2012-07-15T22:21:10+00:00

DO NOT live with a chick. Don't even let one into your house, not even for a minute.

Zosimasie · 2012-07-15T14:09:12+00:00

You had sex with the drunk women who was unable to give consent, that is rape of her by you. Then you admitted it on the internet which can be used in Court against you.

And if you refused her advances and she accused you out of spite, it would still be you in trouble.

(Edit: I misread the OP, it did not say he actually had sex)

NWOslave · 2012-07-15T21:19:21+00:00

You said, "Just to clarify, we did not have sex." Well, why not? If she's drunk, if you're drunk, if you're both drunk, it doesn't matter. No one forced you to drink or not drink, and no one forced you to make a decision to have sex while drinking or not. You're culpible for every other decision you make while drinking, sex is no different.

Futher, even not having sex doesn't mean you won't be accused. Right? She could be just as easily be enraged you spurned her advances and accuse you, the accusation is all that matters.

We have millions of examples of men being accused. Excuses range from a girl being late getting home to not wanting to pay for taxi cab fare. You can't open the paper on any given day without finding a man being falsely accused somewhere.

blueoak9 · 2012-07-16T01:29:09+00:00

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2012-07-15T16:46:13+00:00

nice.....

Title	It really hit me tonight.
Author	AbsoluteBlack
Upvotes	229
Comments	108
Date	July 15, 2012 11:36 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/wl94m/it_really_hit_me_tonight/
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