"Toxic Masculinity" is hate speech. Full stop. It pathologies maleness and attempts to link violence to men's culture. Feminists discussing "toxic masculinity" is little different than white supremacists attacking "ni**** culture" and "black violence."

Is violence a male value?

No more than criminality is a black value that the black community instills in its members.

Or that incompetence is a female value.

Or that greediness is a Jewish value.

Or any other bigoted and primitive expression linking a behavior to a group of people.

We as a society decided that we prefer not to brand groups in those ways because it is imprecise and hateful. That is, of course, unless we are discussing men.

The effort here is to distort perception through rhetoric. In the same way that normal expressions of male sexuality become "objectification" and "sexism" in feminist analysis, male violence is an expression of "toxic masculinity."

And not just violence, but anything that feminists and self-hating men deem to be too male. For example, here's an article that claims that vaping is being poisoned by toxic masculinity . . . why? Only because the writer observes that more men do it than women.

http://mic.com/articles/125151/we-get-it-you-vape

The culture tells us that women are entitled to homogenous female spaces. Shows like Sex and the City and Girls depict an overwhelmingly female point of view. Only when too many men are in one place is it a problem. Only male spaces and male outlooks require diversification and adjustments.

That is what they mean by "Toxic Masculinity."

Outsiders telling another group to adjust their culture, to bring it in line with someone else's concept of what it should be, what it should look like, what it should sound like.

Which is a lot like white supremacists talking about violence that they see as being intrinsic to black culture. And then attacking all cultural expressions of that community, and all events and media that they might feel are too "black."

We have a right to male cultural spaces. And we have a right to defend male cultural spaces from being the subject of gendered attacks.

Men are not perfect. Neither are women. But when women are violent or disruptive, they're not accused of exhibiting "toxic femininity." In fact, when men discuss women or women's culture in monolithic terms, they are demonstrating a socially unacceptable form of sexism. When whites discuss black culture in monolithic terms, they are demonstrating a socially unacceptable form of racism.

Because that's what's fair. Men deserve that same fairness.

"Toxic Masculinity" is hate speech. No other group would accept it.